need some advice
By sisco100
@sisco100 (2338)
United States
November 26, 2008 10:13pm CST
well my girl just told me that she pregnant, i happy about the whole thing. it just that right now its hard for us to have a kid. she's planning on going to school and i still have 5 months of my school left. its one of those things that i would want her not to have it, but at the same time it might be the only chance that we have to have kids. is going to be bad for her, because for most of her pregnancy I'm going to be in a different state and its going to be hard being away form her. what should i do? should i see if she'll not have the baby or should i just ride it out and see where it takes me.
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@mengrufa (239)
• China
27 Nov 08
Have you discuss this with her? if you did, what was her opinion? If not, and for her concern , why not keep the kid? you both can establish a good life of yours. Cause you can go to your parents for help, when you can get a job, you will able to manage it.
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@sisco100 (2338)
• United States
27 Nov 08
ya i talked to her about it, and she wants to keep it. i have no problem with it other then the time, and that i wanted to be set before having kids. ya i could go to my parents for help, but its something that i would rather not do. this is something that my parents dont even know about yet. i dont want them to think that i'm going to through my education away because i'm having a kid. i'm sure that things will work out. thanks for the advice.
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
this is a tough one friend but more than anything else this is your very own baby and the mother of the baby is your love so talk it through and assure your girl that everything will be alright and that you should be there always ready to support her even if you are in a different state and five months is just a short period of time to wait the baby will not due until 9 months so you have plenty of time...just do what is best for all.
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@sisco100 (2338)
• United States
3 Dec 08
ya i know that its my own baby. ya i talked to her and we have pretty much everything planned out and we know what were going to do. i know that this will be a good thing for both of us, its something that we thought that couldn't happen with her. but its a good thing that she can. this is something that i always wanted, but i wasn't sure that it could happen because of her or me.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
1 Dec 08
ugh thats a hard one.. you both need to sit down and discuss your plans for the future and figure out if a baby fits in.. and if it doesnt then what your options are and try to figure out something you both can agree on.. like you said you dont know if there will be another chance but then again you dont want to just have a kid that your not able to deal with because of the what ifs either..
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@sivanj (1263)
• India
27 Nov 08
well it is your problem and you are facing it and hence you would know situations much better than anyone else. hence my advice to you would be to spend a lot of time thinking amount this problem. then decide what you need do. then whatever you decide would be the best option would could arrive at the present time.
but based on what you say and what i infer, i feel that you better avoid having a child at this instance. it is better to let the situation calm down and then think about that. i think your gf would accept it as you are suggesting in the good interest only. but i can tell you it will be hard to convince your gf on this. but you have to be patient and explain the situation and state that the love you have for her has only made you take this decision.
better luck.
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