How to propose a friend as a life partner?
November 27, 2008 12:12am CST
Is it possible to propose one's friend as life partner without breaking friendship? How can one propose his friend as a life partner without feeling unconfortable?
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28 Nov 08
I meant it evolves from friendship to love to want to be together all the time to want to be together forever. When both people start to talking about planning their future, then it's time to ask the question. If you start talking about the future and the other person becomes uncomfortable, then your friend isn't there yet.
27 Nov 08
It is always possible to propose to a friend, but be sure you know that your feeling is mutual. There are friends who want to keep the friendship that way and nothing else. You might get hurt if she will turn you down, so better observe her first if she has the same feeling as you. When you propose and she will not accept it there might be friction in your friendship and the relationship might be affected. In my case, I once ask my best friend what's the meaning of his special treatment towards me, then he told me that his treatment was nothing but just for close friends, at first it feels like I was hit by a terrorist bomb that I labored my breath, maybe because I did not expect that kind of reply because for a while I thought the feeling was mutual that he feels something special towards me too, because I treated him special and different from our friends. When he said sorry because he send a wrong signal, it was very painful that I felt the thudding of my heart beat, but then I accepted it because there's nothing I can do about it, if he does not feel the same. So it is more advantage if you make it sure first by analyzing your friend's treatment towards you to avoid complication in your friendship. Goodluck!
27 Nov 08
I feel,it is always possible to propose your friend about your wish to be his/her life partner. It will further deepen and intensify your relationship. But it all depends on your partner's choice and attitude. This is ,of course, a delicate situation. But you should be open,free and frank in expressing your true feelings and desire to your friend in a nice way. If you chose to suppress your desire and do not open yourself,it may give you more anxiety,stress and tension.Thanks.