Opposites attract?

@joy4you (641)
India
November 27, 2008 10:08pm CST
Do you think in a relationship the partners should be opposites or a complimentary pair or should both of them have same likes, dislikes and interests etc? Complimentary pairs may have more variety of skills in their relationship to tackle various situations but it may also lead to more friction if their relationship is not too strong. On the other hand similar pairs may get along well with each other but may not be well equiped to face situations that either of them are not able to tackle. Let me know what you think.
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@mykmari_08 (2466)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
I absolutely believe that couples will have a more successful relationship if they have similar likes and dislikes. Although this may seem to be monotonous at first, I know this will make it better in the long run. As compared with couples who are considered 'opposites', it would seem like a challenge on their first years but when the issues of being 'madly inlove' with each other finally subsides, it is certain that their differences would develop into petty quarrels at first, and then irreconcileable issues which may result to a rift or a break-up. With so much problems besetting the world, wouldn't it be nicer to have a more peaceful place to live in?!
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• India
29 Nov 08
I feel complementary pair is better. When we understand each other and mould up to the likes and dislikes of our partner life wud be really interesting and exciting. Moreover,small small cute fights will do all the magic!! Having the same likes and dislikes wud make life so stereotypic. Opposites do attract
@becnh83 (806)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
hi, i think the most important thing in a relationship is to understand each other and yes a big help if you both have the same likes and dislikes....me im with my bo in almost 7 years, and we both still in love with other and hopefully will still be together until the last breath.....
@munhozmib (3853)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
28 Nov 08
Hello, joy4you. I don't think that opposites attract. In fact, you would be turned down by somebody who was completely against your likes and completely for your dislikes. However, there are couples like that, and they get along pretty well. But it is not the only kind of couple that works. People who have the same likes are also together for a long, long time. I believe there is nothing to do with liking the same thing or not. After all, nobody is perfectly like the other person. No matter how much they look alike in their personalities, they are different. Respectfully, Munhozmib.
• India
28 Nov 08
Nice discussion, and I think you have expressed the strongest part of the either side of the coin. I personally feel that people should be as diverse as possible as that means that each is that much more curious about the other. If I think in exactly the same way as my spouse, how boring that would be! I could hardly hope to succeed in surprising her when compared to my chances with surprising somebody who is different when compared to me. However, having similar tastes is absolutely a must when it comes to say, watching movies together or doing any such together-activity. I would recommend mostly different traits with similarity on together-activities and relaxation.
@metschica25 (5407)
• United States
28 Nov 08
Hello I think it helps but opposites can attract and work out . My fiance are very alike in many ways and yet at the same time we are not . We enjoy the same music and movies for the most part . we both love to read and travel . i just adore the beach and water and he thinks it is just okay . We both want a family one day . I just think if it is small things then it wont matter but if you are very differnt on the bigger things it might make everything a little harder .
@camomom (7536)
• United States
28 Nov 08
I've been in both types of relationships and none have worked for me. I'm in one now where we are a lot alike but a lot different at the same time. It's worked so far, for the last 3+ years.
@tibzoy (110)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
Hi Joy! Well, the law of physics tells us that opposite magnetic poles attract. I must be honest that I prefer heteros3xual relationships more than the h0m0s3xual ones. Nowadays that the line between opposite s3x relationship is getting blurred, I believe nature has a way of running things in its own way. A man compliments a woman. I still believe that based on nature's original design, xy and xx chromosomes must sustain our survival as a species. Forgive me if I'm sounding too far-out already. EHEHE...happy mylotting!