how do you believe about crying

China
November 30, 2008 6:48am CST
we people, especially the female,sometimes may cryi.But lots hold the belief that crying is babyish,weak and that once we reach a certain age,we should stop indulging in baby behavior---crying. If we find ourselves crying in front of others,we may feel uncomfortablem shy, exposed, vulnerable.fearful of shaming,fearful of being judges, or some similar passion like these, and usually try to shut down the tears as quickly as possible. however, it is not true,actually, crying is a natural process meant for everybody,at everyage. we need to cry to release our feelings, and no feeling is an island, all feeling are connected and if you allow it, crying out your feelings, this is as it should be. I always cry for different kinds of reasons, and I feel shameful sometimes for crying in front of others. but now i release from the shameful passion after i read a passage which talk about the crying as what i have metioned before. then, how about you? how do you look at crying?
5 responses
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
8 Dec 08
Hello quinstessa. Thank you for being my friend here at mylot. Well, I think that it is a good way to cry to release one's feelings when it is considered to be necessary. It is better to cry out than to control the depressed emotion. It is ok to find somewhere to cry without the third party on the spot as it is still embarrassing.
• China
8 Dec 08
YOU are welcome, my friend william.
@ghost11 (118)
• India
30 Nov 08
I dont consider crying to be a childish thing as long as there is a reason and that is not a silly one.
• China
1 Dec 08
thanks for your response
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
30 Nov 08
i see crying is a thing we all do, i often might not cry in front of certain people but my close friends and family i will. and all of my guy friends knows if they need to cry i won't judge them at all. to me a man who cry is a real man who has real feelings, and for females is they are real woman with real feelings and emotions. i often won't say if my body is hurting, i might get watery eyes, but my wife and kids pretty much know i am hurting. but either way crying is something we all do, and no one should judge us when we need to cry. unless it's fake crying or cry over dumb things..
• China
1 Dec 08
how to express my feeling? It seems to me that, you,are the one, who real know the meaning of crying, the meaning of human's tear! I hope I knew you before! best wishes to you1
• United States
30 Nov 08
I'm 18 years old, and I'm still the way I was when I was really young.. I cry about things.. It's usually something either really serious, or something that really wasn't serious at all. When I cry about something that isn't serious, I cry more than ever. I have a bad habit of keeping bad feelings inside until something little just barely pushes me over the edge.. and then I cry. Sometimes I cry when I'm really happy, sometimes when I'm really sad, or even if I'm worried.. but once I'm done crying, I feel better. I don't think people should keep things inside, people shouldn't try to not cry. It doesn't show weakness, it shows that you're human. Lately I've been trying to not keep anything inside. Crying is part of being human, and I think that if you force yourself to not cry then you're trying to become less human.
• China
1 Dec 08
good girl. I was like you when I was at your age, but you are more deeper than me in mind!
@riyasam (16578)
• India
2 Dec 08
as for me crying is a very important part ,as it relieves me of my stress.i do not care what others talk about crying being a weakness and all that stuff.