Exchanging gifts - do you include your friends in this tradition?

@mommyboo (13198)
United States
November 30, 2008 2:01pm CST
The holidays are coming, no matter what you celebrate! Do you shop for your friends as well as your family, just your best friends, or do you only celebrate with friends instead of giving gifts?
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@34momma (13893)
• United States
1 Dec 08
i have a few really great friends. the same friends that i have had since i was 13. however, i only ever buy one friend a gift during the holidays. she is the most wonderful person ever ever and she is my sister more then just a childhood friend. not every year, but when i see something that just says her, i have to get it. we call each other ladybug, so i am always getting her a ladybug something.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
2 Dec 08
How sweet! I am no longer in regular touch with the friends i've known since I was 5 - not enough to have current addresses to send gifts. I may phone them though. Friends you've had forever are special, I wish that moving away hadn't made it so hard for me to stay in touch.
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@34momma (13893)
• United States
2 Dec 08
that's what email and IM is for girl! i grew up in a very large family. my grandfather use to say, "it's to many of ya'll to have a bunch of friends, so if you find one you like keep'em. i grew up in a house of no less then 13 people at a time. so having friends over was not something we could do. so keep those friends that you really did love was important to us growing up.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
3 Dec 08
I do keep in touch with some of them, but I've lost touch with my best friend from high school. I'm still bummed about that because we were very close, we've both been through horrible divorces, hers worse than mine because she had a son at the time and chose to try to inflict as little trouble on him as possible by letting him stay with his dad - that turned out to be a huge mistake. I did try to stay in touch and multiple times to get BACK in touch, but a phone works both ways you know, and so does email, and so does IM, and when someone does not return the favor after awhile, well, what can I say? My daughter and her middle son are just 3 months apart in age, the last time I saw her, the kids were babies. I've learned more and more as I get older that one person cannot maintain multiple relationships with other people who don't seem interested in putting forth effort - minimal even - to stay in touch. I'm too busy to reach out over and over when nothing comes back, know what I mean?
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• United States
30 Nov 08
I do shop for my close friends as well as family members. I have the perfect gift picked out for my best friend, i just need to go and get it.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
2 Dec 08
Oooh what is it? Is that your best friend with you in the picture? I have a few things picked out for my best friend but I haven't figured out a nice way to put them together.
• United States
2 Dec 08
Yeah thats her in the picture with me and i can't say on here what it is, because she will she it because she is on here as well. You know moonlitmagikchild..she'll find this and know and it would all be ruined.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
3 Dec 08
LOL!! Yes, ok that would be very unwise for it to be MY fault she finds out. You can pm it to me, I won't tell her
• Pakistan
1 Dec 08
I and my family celebrate all holidays, we include everyone and i mean everyone i.e. my friends, bro's friends, co-workers, neighbors, family (of course)and even a few not so close friends. We have a party and like to exchange gifts as there are like 30-40 people present so we do the secret santa game so no one knows who he/she will receive a gift from, and everyone always has a great time. If you are ever in my neighborhood please feel free to come ^_^ Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year ^_^
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
2 Dec 08
Where do you live? That sounds like so much fun! I've been involved with secret santa giving before, and also the gift exchanges where everyone brings a gift and they all get put on a table. Each person draws a number one at a time - and after the first person you can either pick a new gift or take a gift from someone else lol. The only catch is that you have to open the gift when it's your turn, and someone can steal it from you twice before you're safe.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
1 Dec 08
Hi mommyboo! Most of my close friends and I don't exchange any gifts. They have children and large families so that they can't afford to be buying extra gifts for anyone outside their own families and I understand that. And for my other friends we have always just had an understanding that money is tight and we just don't exchange gifts and we never have. We just do things for each other when we can throughout the year and don't need to do it by exchanging gifts at Christmas time. So this year the only person I will be exchanging gifts with is my bf. And I will be getting my "babies" gifts because I love them so much! That's pretty much it! The rest of my friends will get cards!
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
2 Dec 08
If it came down to it and I couldn't do any gifts outside my family, I'd probably just do gifts for my husband and kids. My friends know I care, sometimes they get things 'just because' throughout the year. I do cards too... I figure that's sending a little cheer. I have a large card holder that I keep in my entry and put all the cards on it as they arrive during the season.
@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
1 Dec 08
It really depends. If I can I will buy gifts for those friends that are in my mind and that are the closest to me. We usually always have some small things that we keep for anyone that visits during Christmas time. THey are not expensive things and some are not even gender specific, although some are. They can be anything from a key chan, a funny bottle opener, napkin holder, a cup, etc. But real presents bought with a specific person in mind are bought for some friends only now.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
2 Dec 08
I don't even purchase separate gifts for all my family members. My parents I usually send one gift plus a gift card, my sister and bil usually get a combined gift - I do buy for my nieces separately though. My other sister and bil just got married in Sept and she is expecting a baby, so I'll probably get them a combined gift plus something for the baby (due in June). I don't send to all my aunts and cousins and their families... that is TOO many people! Like I said earlier though, I do send cards to about 35-40 people, as well as pass them out to friends here.
@mindym (979)
• United States
30 Nov 08
Usually I buy for select friends who decide to have a gift exchange, but this year I can't because I am broke. One group of friends gets together every year just to socialize and have a good time and I think now that we are getting older, that's plenty. :)
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
2 Dec 08
I love just getting together to socialize. I'm going to suggest that for a few of my friends as it gets closer to the holidays. Maybe we can just go have sushi or go out for dessert - without all the kids of course. I think between all of us we have like... 11 kids. Errr... 15 kids!
@breezie (1247)
• Canada
30 Nov 08
In our house we tend to only give gifts to family. If we start buying for friends it starts to get expensive fast and we just don't have the money for that. I find it stressful just buying for family so I can't imagine having to buy for all our friends.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
2 Dec 08
Well I only buy for a couple friends - close friends, and their kids. I don't usually spend a lot, but the gifts are thoughtful purchases that fit my friends and remind me of them - or are things they love that they NEVER buy for themselves.
• United States
30 Nov 08
Yes! Friends are included! but not every single friend! I have 3 friends and my roommate that get included in the gift exchanging. It is fun to pick out something special just for them. When I was in high school my group of girlfriends used to do secret santa and just pick one person's name to give the gift to. This cut down on costs and made the gift extra special. How about you? What are your traditions?
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
2 Dec 08
I only have a few special friends that I buy for, but I also buy for their kids. I've done secret santa before and also secret mom within a group of friends. When I worked, we'd draw names and do a gift exchange too, and that was always fun. I do send custom xmas cards to the friends and family that I don't buy gifts for lol!
@adapots (82)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
giving gifts is a tradition during christmas i do that every christmas. i give gift to my parents even its a small thing and they appreciate that to my family and cousin's and friend but not all of them i normally give to the kids coz they wait that month. but sometimes we can't do this tradition bcoz of our financial problem. what i did is i went to my friend house to hide the kids that want to asked me a merry christmas. andi think this christmas i will hide to all the people who knew me. hehehehhheheehehhe what you think is this works on me.