I hate getting my salary check,too many bills and too many sob stories !!!!!

@ronnyb (6119)
Jamaica
November 30, 2008 2:22pm CST
You work for an entire month,it should be a pleasure to get paid but for me it is not.I get an headache instantly.This headache stems from the fact that no matter how I add it even if I say 2+2 = 1 ,I still wont have trouble making my salaries pay for my bills and leave anything for saving.The bills are bad and I somehow manage to deal with those but what I cant handle is how many sob stories I will hear from my friend and relatives at just around the this time. The first sob story I got was from a cousin I hadnt heard from in a long while.He suddenly decided to look for me and he brought his kids as well and believe me I love his kids.He told me that he was being summoned before the court for some kind of child maintainance and he didnt know how was going to get there.Indirectly he was looking some money to borriw without saying so,I made a mental resolution that I would lend him some money .I guess he wasnt convinced that I would do do so,he launched into another sob story about how he hadnt eaten in a while and I supsect niether has his kids, so I prepared a meal for them.Still not conviced that I was convinced of the story ,he had his little girl ask me for a a dollar bill,it was at that point I gave him some money. Next came my friend who was having the usual cash flow problems and needed money to borrow to pay his mortgage .This time he was in a taxi and lost a significant amount of money as he was rushing to catch a store.Last month it was his daughter that needed a dress to go to her graduation ball. And so began the long list of sob stories and with each one my money became less and less as sometimes I am unable to say no.The ironic thing is if I was in the same position there is no one to help me out of a bind.
4 responses
@suzzy3 (8357)
30 Nov 08
You want to toughen up how on earth are you going to survive with everyone uses you as a bank.Tell them you want the money back.Can't they claim benefits or something.Like you say no one to help you out of a bind exactly say no ,you have not got it and can you have the money back you lent them.Tell your cousin to go to court and tell them he cannot afford that amount and asked to get it reduced ,not your problem,as for your friend you can do with out him ask to see the dress for his daughters graduation I bet he will clear of one less friend sponging off you.If you work hard why can't they.It seems to me they know you are a soft touch get in touch with them and start asking for it back.Don't lend anymore using kids to get money is disgusting if he does not get it off of you bet yourlife he will have some one else to sponge off of.
@ronnyb (6119)
• Jamaica
30 Nov 08
Wow ,you have more balls than I do and how tall did you say you were? lol.But I guess its not a question of size ,it conviction and though I know what you are saying is true ,I cant just take that hardlined stance becuase I know that especially my cousin is really going through a hard time with child maintainance.He is really trying but hasnt been able to get jobs and because the children are involved I find it hard to say no in his case.I coudl say no to my firend ,he is a freeloader.I really didnt like the way he used the child to get money from me,that was a low one .I am going to get some cahoness (dont know if that is spelt right ...ooops you hate brackets right forgive me this time)
@deedeehall (1144)
• United States
30 Nov 08
guess what you are not a bank and you really need to take care of your self .if there is no one to help you out where will you be in your time of need if you do not save for your self .and it really does not sound like these people will be there to help you if they can not help them selfs .think about it.
@ronnyb (6119)
• Jamaica
30 Nov 08
I totally hear what you are saying and I really should do what you are saying its just that it is hard sometimes.In addition I dont think they are unwilling to help just not in a position to help
@arcidy (5016)
• United States
30 Nov 08
Oh wow I never heard of anyone hating getting there checks before you are deffintley the first person to say that lol. I love getting my weekly checks and when I do get my checks I just usally put them in my saving acount since I have over $1000 in there now and im trying to save up for a car.
@ronnyb (6119)
• Jamaica
30 Nov 08
Lucky you ,if you had the kind of bills ,I had and the numerous free loaders,you may think differently .Its ok when I am broke no one will call on me.
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
30 Nov 08
I know exactly what you are saying. Sometimes, people know who to go to that will not turn them down, when they are looking to borrow money. I used to be the one everyone would come to. When my best friend burned me, I vowed never again. But, I did, actually to a friend of my husband's who I hardly knew. I never got the money back, and that validated my claim to never lend out money again. I am in a situation where I could use a helping hand right now, but there is noone I can turn to.