I Need SoMe Help
November 30, 2008 5:07pm CST
I have a two year old daughter who is painfully shy. From the time she was born we couldn't even bring her to the store with out her freaking out. If someone in the store would say something even if the were not talking to her she would start crying and then she would hold her breath till she turned blue and a few times she would pass out. Talk out me freaking out. I took her to so many doctors and they said it was stranger anxiety and to just work with her. I have tried so many things. When she was about a year old she finally got used to her grandmother so I was finally able to go back to work and she watched her. We have tried introducing her slowly to people but she has such a hard time with it that we usually have to leave. I can finally take her to the store and a few other things but I have to watch how close people get to her. My problem is in January she will have to go to day care for a few hours a day. We are trying to think of anything we can do that might work cause I have no choice but to send her. We have tried a few that are around us but she really didn't like them at all. I have run out of ideas about what I should do. I was hoping someone else had been through this and had some ideas. I also have a five year old and she is the total opposite. She would leave with a perfect stranger and not care. We have to watch her very close.
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• United States
30 Nov 08
Is it everybody or just adults or just children? I would recommend getting her a friend really close to her age that will be at the same day care. that way they will have each other and she will have 1 friendly face to turn to. Also.... if possible let her interact with her teacher one on one before sticking her in the daycare. Be sure that the teacher knows about the holding the breath thing. if she feels comfortable with the teacher, maybe she will feel more comfortable in the setting. I was the complete opposite, but i hated people who looked like my family or borrowed their clothes...... It upset me when my aunt came in my room when i had woke up to get me out of the crib and she was wearing my mom's bathrobe. I threw the fit of all fits.... My mom still has no clue why this rubbed me the wrong way. Hopefully she will out grow this phobia in time.
• United States
1 Dec 08
Thanks. She is pretty much the same with everyone no matter what their age is. I am hoping tp find someone that she can connect with and feel comfortable with. I hate having to do it to her but I have to work and she needs to be able to attend school when the time comes and I am afraid that it will continue if I don't do something. I am just worried for her.
30 Nov 08
My daughter was quite shy but not as bad with family. I just kept bringing her out in public with me and to friends places. I never change my pattern because of the way she acted. Our son was the same as your older daughter as well. Our daughter finally worked it all I guess because now at 16 she is as open and friendly with people now. She is almost as friendly as I am but not quite!!! LOL
1 Dec 08
It's something unusual.But it's a fact that children would be alike in characters especially the near-born ones.Your first daughter needs a lot of practice.make her up to shopping and other places frequently and explain her about the outside world.perhaps this would bring her up a slight change atleast