Man I feel so lonely tonight

@slickcut (8141)
United States
November 30, 2008 8:05pm CST
As some of you know i just got out of a relationship & am in transit right now...I am in the process of divorce,and it should be final around the last part of December..My ex decided he wanted to stay at our old place ,so i let him stay & he just pays me some rent..Anyway i cannot stay with him because he is just so hooked up on drugs and has a lot of problems ,some he may could work out but he really does not want too.He was a in vietnam & it really messed him up,which i can understand,but we still talk and i go to see about him,but no longer want to be there...My problem is loneliness,it was so hard Thanksgiving.I was with my grown children but i just felt like a fifth wheel,if anyone can understand that..I am currently staying with my daughter since Hurricane "Ike" and they have been very nice to me,but even so i feel like i am an intruder.I have applications in to get an apt but so far have not got one..I also have a single woman friend that i go see on the weekends,but i am fine when we are out doing things but i always feel alone...So what i would like to know is..Does this get better? Will i always feel like a fifth wheel? I get these times when i feel so lonely & misplaced..Has anyone went through this ? and can you offer me any suggestions about how this will become better or is this normal? I guess i just want to talk with someone...Thanks friends...
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4 responses
• India
1 Dec 08
Cheer up things will change. Why did your husband decide at this belated stage to file for a divorce. it is a pity. anyway life moves on. Cheer up.
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@zed_k4 (17640)
• Singapore
5 Aug 09
You have surely come a long way.. And you have gotten your new apartment, like you have mentioned in one of your discussions. Being lonely is something that I would not want to be surrounded with too. It would be really depressing. If ever I'm encountered in that kind of situation, I'll find myself to surround with different activities and etc.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
5 Aug 09
Well things are so much better for me these days..At the time i had this discussion i was in the middle of a separation, and a move..Now that i am finally in my new apt, i have been feeling so great...I have found that i enjoy my own company now..I have met several friends here, and have lots of people surounding me.We go out to eat together & have all kinds of things to do...I even enjoy my apt even when i am alone...I have a new spike hair do & have gotten high lights & some new cloths...I have been here since December & i can honestly say i have not had a bad day..I love it, no more lonely times for me..My friends are awesome..We have a coffee bar here at this apt building and we can always go & talk to people, and i have my dog and i am doing great.I would not ever want to go back to that time again...
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@zed_k4 (17640)
• Singapore
8 Aug 09
I must say your life sounds happily loaded now.. You have found the inner peace there, and I hope you continue to pursue other forms of it. There's always a better tomorrow, and you've got me inspired there.. All the best.
@minerc (1373)
• United States
2 Dec 08
Seperation and Divorce is never an easy thing, the loneliness is very normal. What helped me is finding God, sometimes life takes its turns and we dont know how to go threw it or even handle it at times. Enjoy your life with someone or not and know that even though times are hard right now, God has a wonderful plan in store for you. Trust in God give your problems to him and he will be there always. Good Luck and God Bless you and your husband. I pray that everything will work out for the best.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
2 Dec 08
Thank you so much for these encouraging words.I know you are right,because God has always been there for me in all the bad times.He has blessed me in so many ways,and i know everything will be great.I just get into these lonely times but it is better than it was so i know you are right..
@MsTickle (24732)
• Australia
6 Dec 08
Aww slick...my heart goes out to you. You need to understand that you are grieving for the loss of your relationship. If you can keep busy, it helps. Have lovely long baths or read books or watch movies you've always wanted to. It's hard while you are living with your daughter because you feel out of place...it will change when you get your own place. Make some new friends if you can. Good friends are hard to come by so be careful. It's not a good idea to keep in touch with your ex. He is toxic towards himself in a seriously bad way so anyone he has contact with. I wish you all the very best and you can pm me anytime.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
6 Dec 08
I know, i supposs it takes time..I am so looking forward to getting my own apartment.I did go to a Movie last night,and say that new movie "4Christmases" and i laughed all the way though,so thats an improvement..thank you for your reply and your encourgeing words...