do you get conscious around people?
By Theresaaiza
@Theresaaiza (10487)
Australia
December 3, 2008 3:40am CST
I have this mental or psychological disease that makes me feel that people are looking at me everytime I go out of the house. I know it may sound like I'm conceited, but I've been struggling with this feeling for a long long time it's making me slightly agoraphobic. I hope somebody out there can assure me that it's normal. coz i don't feel like it. it's bothering my self-esteem
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3 responses
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
We're on the same boat. I can't walk outside with head held up high because i think people think i'm arrogant. I can't rest my shoulder too low because people i'm a weakling. Sometimes i don't know how. People would even look at my feet because it's too light lol! I get shy so i go out wearing shoes. I don't know but it seems that people were looking at me even if i'm wearing the simplest shirt and pants. Sometimes i feel like they'd beat me up if i move my head towards them. And i'm talking about the people in our streets!
When i was brought to another place (Manila), the opposite happened. I deliberately walk arrogantly and look at people as sissies. I don't know, maybe i live in a city Zamboanga) where people are really predatory. I feel comfortable in Manila but i just hate my lifestyle there. When i came back to Zamboanga, it seems like i got a confidence boost. I keep telling myself, if i survived Manila, i will survive my own turf.
Maybe i should really bring you on tour with my jet!
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
16 Jan 09
Pre-manila, I think you looked like a male version of Olive Oyl. So this unclean, libertine state happened before or after Manila? By the way, see the responses of Lisa for me? That's what I call "counselling". After that, I walked out of the office with a sense of freedom, liberty and well-being. Believe me. She's good!
and you're Popeye minus the Spinach? Can you imagine what i can do to you? lol!
@munhozmib (3837)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
6 Dec 08
Hello, Theresaaiza.
Sometimes I also have the feeling that people are starring at me. I do think that is common, as everybody have already felt like that at least once. But, if you are feeling this often, then you should start not caring. Just relax. What if they are looking at you? What is the problem? You must acquire the habit of feeling comfortable, no matter how many people are looking at you. I do not believe it is a disease nor anything like that. Just get used to it, and you will soon not worry about it anymore. Keep yourself busy, too, so you won't be thinking about others looking at you.
Respectfully,
Munhozmib.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
11 Dec 08
yeah, i believe Im not way off the line of normalcy really but perhaps I just tend to be in excess a little bit compared to the average people.I admire people who doesn't seem to care whether poeple are studying them or not. I really have a strong feeling that this comes from my upbringing. There's too much idealism at home. It helps me though to always be on the side where I always think about my actions and their moral impact. On the other side, it also makes me less social which really interferes with my interactions with strangers who doesn't really seem so harmless. It takes me such a long time to be close to someone but so easy to slip out of that. I am my jolly, giggly self when I'm around VERY familiar people. Provided that I'm really really familiar with them. You know what I mean?
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@munhozmib (3837)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
13 Dec 08
If you worry about what others think about you, that is bad. You are probably going to spend lots of time sad, thinking about the bad actions you did, regretting what you have done... And you will learn to put a lot of thought before doing anything. Which means that, when you need to take a quick action, you will make a mistake. You won't be able to work under pressure. And you will do good things because you want to please others, and not yourself.
I say you should try to do what pleases you, and live like that. This way, you will always act accordingly to yourself. You will not regret what you have done, because you have done it for you and it was your real self doing it, and it won't matter what others think...
But we always seem to worry about what others are thinking, don't we?
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
15 Dec 08
I guess I just think too much than other people normally would. I always think through my actions but sometimes the fear of making mistakes paralyzes me into doing nothing at all because it's too risky. But you are right, I may try to also please myself in a way that doesn't step on other people's rights. And you are right, even if we tell ourselves not to think of what others may think, we end up doing so. But I guess that's just how life goes. I don't wanna hang around with people who are obsessed with their own personal desires anyway, not realizing that they already look awful and they've hurt others in the process. Thanks for responding!!!! :-)
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@tin_cierva (241)
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
i tend to feel that all the time.. coz everytime i look at people's eyes i find them staring at me.. but, i don't care noe, i have convinced myself that i'm that unique and why would i care?.. i have lived my own world before i noticed them staring at me, which means i can live another day of my life while they're acting like that.. cheer up girl!.. you're just pretty unique! good luck!
