Have you or someone you know Falsely reported for child abuse?

United States
December 3, 2008 11:00am CST
this came up in reguards to another thread.... I know it happens. Family members or Neighbors who fall out, people who have no real life taht report falsely and the sad thing is there is NOTHING people can do if it happens becasue the laws are written to protect children and keep it anonomyous so that people will report REAL abuse. So sad that there are those who abuse the system. any thoughts?
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@hildas (3031)
3 Dec 08
I think this would be the lowest of the low. This would put more cases that are uneccesary into the system and would also cause the break up of a family for no reason other than someone being stupid and selfish. This would be really awful but I am sure if the system has to deal with this situation and probably has done before it would take everything said into account and maybe they might see it was a malicious act caused by an argument etc. People should not waste time doing this out of spite. There is children out there who really need help and people should think about what they are doing first.
• United States
3 Dec 08
I agree, My SIL had a neighbor who falsely reported her and it was a nightmere, it was all becasue she had stopped babysitting for her, even though my SIL gave her a months notice. They report was documented as unfounded, but not until they contacted family, The kids Dr, and other neighbors. Still I think that the system must stay annomoyous. The Neighbor admitted she did it and apoligised for it saying she was upset when my SIL stopped babysittng, becasue shehad tostar aying daycare at 3x the amount she paid my SIL...
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@hildas (3031)
3 Dec 08
Thank goodness this was sorted out. This could of been really bad.
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• Canada
3 Dec 08
i was a victim of this and almost lost my son due to it. when i was dating the husband i am married to now, my parents hated him so much. they were willing to try anything to keep us apart. i was 28 years old and had been living in my own house for over 10 years. i told them that i didn't care if they liked him or not because they're not the ones who are going to have to live with him and that i loved him and was going to marry him. they kept calling social services making up lies about how we beat my son and are neglecting him. social services kept coming to investigate and found nothing wrong in our house. so then my parents took us to court to try and have my son taken away. thankfully they lost that as well.
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• United States
3 Dec 08
wow, that must have been hard for all of you. o yu still see your parents? that would be a hard on for sure.... Gald things worked out for you and your husband and son. Be Well,
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• Canada
3 Dec 08
we only see them about once a year now. yes, it's very hard. we definitely don't trust them anymore and are always wondering if they're conspiring to cause more harm.
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• United States
4 Dec 08
Why do you bother seeing them at all? They sound pretty evil.
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@mikeysmom (2092)
• United States
4 Dec 08
i have a very good friend who is an exceptional mother. when her kids were young her son and husband were outside playing on their front lawn and they were play wrestling and having a ball. a real guy thing if you will. someone in the neighborhood, and they never found out who by the way, called DYFS. in nj this is called THE DIVISION OF YOUTH AND FAMILY SERVICES. they said the father was beating his son on their front lawn. my friend answered the door the next day and saw a lady on her front step with id saying she was from DYFS and she asked what it was about and was told they were investigating a claim about alleged child abuse in the home because someone saw him beating his son out on the front lawn. she was flabbergasted and upset but had to cooperate with them to disprove the claim and her son had to strip down and be examined for signs of abuse. like all active young boys he had a few minor scrapes and a small bruise on his leg and they started to make a big deal out of it. fortunately for them once they interviewed the whole family and others it was found to be a false claim. can you believe it? first of all it a person was going to "beat" their child they would do it behind closed doors because people like that are usually cowards. secondly they were both really great parents.
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• United States
22 Dec 08
how sad that people do this to familes.... when there are kids in real troulbe and no one calls. Be Well Thanks for the comment
@breezie (1247)
• Canada
3 Dec 08
Sadly I know of a person who has nothing to do but report people, for no apparent reason. She has reported a family member of mine who is currently fighting to regain custody of her 3 kids. It is a very sad situation and is very hard on the kids. To me people who do this type of thing are just sick. They are trying to hurt the parent, but wind up hurting both the parents and the kids in the end. This person that I know of also has a child, I wish that she would think of the consequences of her actions before doing things that can be so hurtful.
• United States
3 Dec 08
this is really sad, It tears familys up emotionally, during an already difficult time. I really feel for them. I hope that someone like that gets a real life and leaves others alone. its folks like that that make it hard to advocate for people to report real abuse.
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@jessi0887 (2794)
• United States
23 Dec 08
I know someone threatened it on me. I never found out who. They just told my mom. The reason why they wanted to report me was my son had diarrhea one night. It went all over his clothes and everywhere. I was at church. I had to throw my son in the sink clean him off and then take him out to my car to properly redress him. I guess someone didn't like what i did. Whats a mother to do in a situation like that? You never know when a child will get diarrhea.
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• United States
23 Dec 08
wow, that is really sad....at church no less. I am glad that didnt follow through... what else could you have done? I guess you could have left him dirty and stinky... No I was being mean... I agree you did the right thing. it isnt like ou could have left his little hiney a mess, poor fellow, his tummy probably hurt too. Shame on who ever thought of calling about something like that. sounds like your little guy is luckey to have a mom like you!
@fasttalker (2797)
• United States
4 Dec 08
I know a man who is a minister that has had this very problem. The story goes like this: A 15 year old girl was dating his son. There really was no dating to it but whatever. They talkd on the phone, she came over to his house for a couple of hours a few times and what all teenagers do. Then they broke up. This minister and his wife would pick this girl up for church 3 times a week. Then the minister got a call from the daughters dad saying that she wouldn'e be coming back to church and when he asked why the dad said he was concerned that the girl had a crush on the minister. So the minister and his wife stopped picking the girl up due to this concern. A year later the minister had moved to another church and received a call from the Sherrif's dep't informing him that the girl had claimed she had ben molested by him. He went to the Sherrif's dep't. and nothing ever developed from it because there was nothing that ever happened. But the aunt of this girl is still following this preacher around claiming that he molested her niece and ruining this poor man. I'm all about protecting abused kids but what about the ones that make these false allegations? There is absolutely no punishment for them. I think that is why they do it.They get mad for whatever reason and they know there are no reprecussions if they get caught up in a lie. While the family of the accused suffers daily. The minister has no legal recourse against these malicious acts unless he waits until the girl herself is 18 and brings false allegation charges against her. And that is providing that he can actually PROVE that she is making them. All of this when there was no crime prevented in the first place. Crazy!
• United States
22 Dec 08
That is just horriable!! I understnad why folks have to remain anoymous, but still there must be some recourse for things like this... Be Well, Thanks for the response!~