Do you indirectly seek approval from friends ?

@ronnyb (6120)
Jamaica
December 5, 2008 5:03am CST
The issue that I am speaking to speciffically is with regards to relationships but the floor is open to any instance in which you have sought either directly or indirectly approval form friends.After months of telling my friends about my new girlfriend and building up thier interest,I finally got a chance for my best friend to meet her.The day in question we just happened to be in the area and drove up unexpectedly at her gate and clled her out.After a little while (you know how women are ,they have to spend time to dress themselves )she finally came out.You could see that she had really put effort into her appearance.She was wearing a nice short pant and a lovely blouse and freshly scrubbed face with make up and blush(I think its called ).I was instantly captivated and I watched her every move from the top of the long driveway to where we were only taking my eyes off her for brief periods to see my friend reaction,I could see that he was captivated too ( I almost knocked him over the head lol- thats my girl bro!!!!).I did the introductions and he replied cooly hello and soon we were on our way.He didnt say much after we left until I heard him say "nive ,very nice" ,it was good to hear that. Note I dont need approval from anyone for my relationships but you atleast hope that your friends and family can get on well with your girfriend.Do you indirectly seek approval too ?.Is it the same with women?,I have heard that the best way to win a woman is to win her best friend ? What level of approval do you seek if any ? and what if none is given what then?.Do you seek approveal for anything ?.
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• India
6 Dec 08
not sure if it can be called approval but i ask their opinions. like what to wear n where to go to have fun. adn other matters happy lotting and have a nice day
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@ronnyb (6120)
• Jamaica
6 Dec 08
Ok I see the point you are making ,maybe that what I should have said approval sounds like the decision is theirs but opinion the decision remains yours
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• India
6 Dec 08
yeah but their input satisfies my decision!
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@suzzy3 (8357)
5 Dec 08
I think we all do,thats why when you are thinking about buying anything I always call my best friend and she comes round and says what she thinks it is not because I doubt my self it is just nice to have someone elses opinion.She had seen all the grandchildrens presents,she was there when I bought most of them,She is exactly the same with me the phone goes and I get my coat on to get round there.
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@ronnyb (6120)
• Jamaica
6 Dec 08
Kind of releived to know that I wasnt weird ,was wondering though what is your stance on getting approval for relationships.
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@suzzy3 (8357)
6 Dec 08
My friends and I are very honest with each other and it has been proved through the years to be very useful.In my single days I would ask my friends what they thought of a boyfriend if they giggled and laughed that would mean he was ok,If they said he seems like a nice chap I knew I picked the wrong one,or they would say it is up to you if you like him,that was code for dump him he is a loser.So yes my friends have been very useful in that respect and they would be the ones who had to pick up the pieces when it all went wrong ,so we cut out the bad bit between us.
@ronnyb (6120)
• Jamaica
6 Dec 08
But what if you really liked a guy and your friends disapprove ,what then would you dump him
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@bellebads (741)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
not at all but i try to ask about their opinion on things but it's still my decision matters.
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• Philippines
5 Dec 08
in my case i do need to aprroval of the other people everytime i make an action. it was just i must balance the situation if i can hurt the feelings of others.