I need advice !!!

@Optimize (201)
Canada
December 5, 2008 11:46am CST
Ok, so im really in love with this girl, and i can tell she likes me alot too just by the way she flirts with me and talks to me. But the serious problem here is.. shes dating my best friend :p any advice for my situation ?
5 responses
@Rexdoron (345)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 08
in my experience, there are two possible things are going on. the first one is, she does not like you in terms of wanna make you her lover, but in terms of friend. she treat you good and make your heart fly but she does that because you are her friend. girls are very differnt from boys (anyone knows), and i found many girls like her that make boys think "she likes me!!", but the truth is, they just wanna make friend with you. the second thing is, she may like you but she is in a situation where she could not be with you. perhaps your bestfriend has already tell his feeling to her. anyways, look carefully at the situation, wide open your eyes and hear to the bottom of the earth. stay back and let her make up her mind. or, you can tell your feeling to them (the girl and bstfriend), but dont expect too much, because things can happen the way around..
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@Optimize (201)
• Canada
6 Dec 08
Thanks for your reply :) I appreciate your advice, but the thing is.. shes been a really close friend of mine for about 4 years now :p But lately shes just been giving me these signs, and saying certain things that just give me the message shes into me. Certain signs ive seen many times before and ended up dating the person who gave me those signs. Its hard to explain, and a very hard situation.
@Rexdoron (345)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 08
perhaps she is waiting you to tell your feeling to her. go on man! :)
• United States
5 Dec 08
I would say, tell your friend how you feel first and see what he thinks. Talk it out with him, tell him how she acts around you. Ask him what he would think if you told her how you felt. You can't stop love, but you shouldn't hide it. Don't let it ruin a great friendship, just take it one step at a time
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@Optimize (201)
• Canada
5 Dec 08
yeah thats what im afriad of. ruining a great friendship. but if i told him he'd probly be pissed :p thanks for your reply.
• United States
5 Dec 08
anytime.
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@Icyfairy (284)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
5 Dec 08
oooooooohh. tough one. i dont think should act on your feelings. just let her make the decision whether she want to be with you or not. its really gonna ruin friendship if you try to take her away from your friend. i dont think its worth it. so just let her make the decision. if she really likes you, she'll come to you. and maybe your friend will understand so that way you'll keep your friend and get your girl..
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@Optimize (201)
• Canada
5 Dec 08
yeah thanks, i dont think im gunna act on my feelings your totally right. But in my opinion these two arent gunna last long :p but still even if they are broken up, it would be awkward dating her.
• United States
6 Dec 08
Don't do it. You don't want to ruin a close friendship, because it always happens the same way. You end a friendship over a girl and in the end neither of you have her.
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@Kumaresan (450)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 08
hello there... well, if she's dating your best friend, then you should jump start earlier... that means try to talk to her more often as possible and try to ask out if possible... when you're dating, express your love to her as slow & steady as possible... make sure you send the feel you have to her in order for she know how you really meant for her... good luck and all the best for your relationship... enjoy....