disable/down syndrome person in family..

@Rexdoron (345)
Malaysia
December 5, 2008 7:48pm CST
hye everyone. just wanna share my story. i have a so-called down syndrome brother. he is older and a little bit fat. some people see this as a curse to our family and some see this as a gift. and there are people that feel its disgusting and ashamed to have a person like that in their family. so, what do you think bout this.? and what would you feel and do if you are facing this situation? thanks for your response.
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12 responses
@yoj118 (329)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
Hi Rexdoron!! I know very well how you feel about how the society treats people with special needs. I managed to be an advocate of special children because I graduated with a degree in Psychology so I've studied and understand these conditions. Besides, I also am a volunteer of a group here in our country that caters special children, providing them Big Brother and Sisters who takes care of them and love them unconditionally.. To have a special member in the family does not mean that you are cursed, instead he/she is a blessing to consider. Even though he may have special needs and to some they see this as a burden, don't contain yourself in this mentality.. This may be your purpose in life. To understand and love your brother despite his physical and mental disabilities so you will also be able to understand, accept, and love other people with the same condition.
@Rexdoron (345)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 08
thank you for your response. im totally agree with you that its a gift. :)
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• Canada
6 Dec 08
If I had the ability to give your a "best response" on this one yoj118, I would, but it's not my discussion! There is only one comment that I would make, and that is, I am adverse to the term "disabilities"....I prefer "challenged." I don't really feel, they are disabled, I feel they are just more challenged to live the life that WE consider the NORM! Hope you all have a wonderful weekend! cheers!
• United States
6 Dec 08
It's very sad that some people feel this way they obviously are the ones missing out. My daughter has special needs and everyone who meets her loves her she can be a very sweet and caring person. We are having a very challenging time at the moment because of the impending holiday she;s so excited about it she has a hard time focusing. We also have a neighbor with down syndrome she just turned 30 this past summer and loves to come over to visit she's a very sweet lady and we enjoy her company immensely. She and my daughter are very much alike and like to play the same way they have a great time together.
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@Rexdoron (345)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 08
wow. thats so sweet. i hope i can see them. :) thanks for your respond
@goodtogo (150)
• Pakistan
6 Dec 08
in my point of view they are special creation and they are gifted with many other qualities,GOD have created them to be loved
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@Rexdoron (345)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 08
yes they are. they deserve to be loved a lot.:) thanks for dropping by.
@twinbear (35)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 08
Well my own real life experience is that I have a 24 year old special kid termed as mentally retarded. My eldest sister thinks that it is a curse to me as I got married without my parents' permission. My late grandfather thought that I conceived him by making love when I had my menses. He went to a 'shamam' to cure my son. My parents thought that my son was inflicted by some kind of a disease. Scientifically he just lacks certain vitamins and minerals for his brain and nerves. He had high fever when he was a year old. To have him is a blessing in disguise. Although sometimes I lose my patient in taking care of him, it helps me to be more understanding of others.
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@Rexdoron (345)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 08
your son is at the same age as my brother. anyways, my parents, and me also sometimes could not stand taking care of him. but that taught us to be brave more understanding and loving. :) thanks for your respond
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@violeta_va (4834)
• Australia
6 Dec 08
I dont see disability or people with disability as a gift or as a curse and even less as a discusting or shameful. They are people above all they are just like everyone else except they might not look like everyone else or act like everyone esle and they might need special help and care. But dont we all. We are allowed to be different and thats fine but people feel that people with disability are too different. It would need a long time maybe it would never happen when people with disability are equal.
@Rexdoron (345)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 08
i never treat him like a strange person. he is a human, same like us.. :) thanks for your respon
@Rexdoron (345)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 08
i never treated him like a strange person coz he is human, same like us. :) thanks for your respon
• United States
22 Dec 08
Don't let anyone bring you or your brother down. I have a child with a disability and it is very challeging. people don't understand what ablessing they are in our lives. people tend to forget that all gods creature should be created equal upon judgment day they will hear all their falts and one of them is mis treating these beautiful (disabled) people that make our lives whole. Don't be discouraged my love and be your brothers support he will need it and appreciate it more than you will ever know. holla at me if you need a friend.
@Rexdoron (345)
• Malaysia
22 Dec 08
Thank you for your response. Yes, some people just don't understand us that have this beautiful person in our family. By the way, I have added you as my friend. And, welcome to myLot. Have a great time here. :)
@goodtogo (150)
• Pakistan
13 Dec 08
i don't have any down syndrome person in my family but those people who say it a curse is a very bad thing.God does everything.If you have someone down syndrome in your family its the will of God so be Happy and thank ALlah for the other gifts.
@Rexdoron (345)
• Malaysia
22 Dec 08
Yes, I do believe that it is God's will to give my brother to us. It's a blessing.
@BlueGoblin (1832)
• United States
6 Dec 08
Honestly, you shouldn't care what other people think of your brother. Only your relationship with him counts. I don't think you need our approval for liking or disliking him. It is your choice. I don't think I'd hate my own brother unless his action forced me to. I certainly wouldn't hate him for his appearances. Obviously you have to be more patient with someone that has down syndrome. I'd probably be more inclined to forgive him if he did something bad to me.
@Rexdoron (345)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 08
i always a forgiving person when it comes to his case. he is far more better than me, in a way. :) thanks for your opinion.
@Polly289 (269)
• New Zealand
6 Dec 08
Ah sweetie, it's sad that people feel that way. How do you feel about your brother? Do you love him? I like to think of downs people as being angels. I'm not a churchgoer of Christian or anything like that but I do believe there are angels out there. I like to think of them as 'Angels on Earth'. Ignore what others say. Disgust and shame is for the ignorant. Just love your brother for who he is. Just simply that "Your Brother". You will feel a whole lot better about him and yourself. Bless your heart
@Rexdoron (345)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 08
i love him very much. before i was 16, i remember a lot of sweet memories with him. he was so funny to play with. i remember he took me for a bicycle ride in out nighbourhood when i was 5 or six. hope i was smaller and he could bring me again!! :) thanks for your concern.
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
6 Dec 08
I have a nephew with down syndrome. I am not ashamed of him. He is three years old and goes to school. He seems to be a happy and loving child. I think people tend to feel ashamed of special people because they do not understand them, they just look at their differences. Don't minf what other people say or think, he is your brother, just give him the love that he rightfully deserves.
@Rexdoron (345)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 08
i think those people who feel ashamed will tends to become understandable, loving and a caring people if they are in the same situation like we are. :) thanks for dropping by.
@liquorice (3901)
6 Dec 08
It's so sad that society can be so cruel about people with disabilities, just because they're "different" to most people they come across. I suppose it's human nature to be suspicious and mistrustful of things that we don't understand, and prejudice and discrimination come from this ignorance. I don't have anyone with Down's Syndrome in my family, but I hope that if I did, I would treat them like any other member of the family, try to help them with any prejudice that they encounter and attempt to educate people about Down's Syndrome so that they understand and can be more sympathetic and understanding. I know this is easier said than done, especially when I'm not actually in this situation. I with you good luck and hope that you can ignore peoples' prejudices. I'm sure that your brother has lots of great qualities that other people just don't see because they're blinded by their ignorance.
@Rexdoron (345)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 08
hope those people that are suspicious will wake up from the sleep and realise that they are no different - coz they are human too!! talking about qualities, one of my friend told me that these special people are actually very, very genius that their brain cant take it. :) anyways, thanks for your support.
@mindym (979)
• United States
6 Dec 08
I have to say that I think that people with Downs-Syndrome are fun! The people that I have met with Downs-Syndrome are so outgoing and loving. I also have a really good friend who has a mild case of cerebral palsey. She lives a normal life and is not in a wheelchair, but she walks different than most of us. When we used to go to the mall (or wherever) when we were teenagers, people would just stare. I finally would say outloud "take a picture, it lasts longer." As stated in another response, people with disabilities are people too and should be looked at for their abilities, not their disabilities.
@Rexdoron (345)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 08
yes they are. he is the butterfly in my family. fun to be with them. once i went to his school (special school that take care of people like this but he is no longer go there because he is now 24), i saw his friends jumping and playing with each other and i could see their happiness. n its fun to know that. thanks for your respons