Why is it not good to propose in Christmas time?

United States
December 6, 2008 7:24pm CST
I heard this yesterday from the radio. They said, December is the time where a lot of guys propose marriage to their gf. But they said, it is not a good idea. Here are some of the reasons given that I could remember: 1. If she says no, you would still have to give her a gift. 2. jingle bells or rudolph the red-nosed reindeer would be your most memorable songs. 3. when you divorce, Christmas time will be depressing for you your whole life. can you think of any other things why its not good to propose at Christmas time?
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12 responses
• United States
7 Dec 08
I think it's a bad ideal to propose on any big holiday because you want that to be your special day. If it happens on a holiday you'll be sharing your special memory with a thousand other special memories from that day.
• United States
7 Dec 08
Yeah, Now i remember that it was one of the reasons given. That people will forget about it since everybody's busy with their own holidays.
• United States
24 Nov 10
You dont celebrate when you got engaged anyways so whats the big deal with getting engaged on Christmas? You celebrate your wedding anniversary..
• United States
24 Nov 10
You dont celebrate when you got engaged anyways so whats the big deal with getting engaged on Christmas? You celebrate your wedding anniversary..
• United States
7 Dec 08
i think it is a very romantic idea but i wouldnt do it myself. i would want my anniversary to be during a less busy time..where i had more money and no so much going on... holidays are too busy not as much money to celebrate
• United States
7 Dec 08
oh yeah you're right. we dont wanna get busy with the holidays and forget about the anniversary.
• Canada
7 Dec 08
You do not give gifts on the anniversary of your proposal, only on the marriage anniversary. They guy would not remember when he proposed anyways (unless it was on Super Bowl Sunday), only women would remember that.
• Australia
24 Dec 08
Oh my god! You guys are all depressive. "Dont get engaged on Christmas day because when you get divorced it will wreck your holidays" When you get engaged you don't plan on getting divorced! If you do, then why the hell are you bothering to propose in the first place?! I am proposing to my girlfriend this Christmas. I was torn between Christmas eve when it's just us before we go to bed, doing it in the morning when we and our 2 girls wake up and are opening our presents, or doing it at her parents house in front of all her family when we're there for Christmas lunch. Katrhina, don't listen to all these people! Divorce?! An extra present? Geeze! To cover up the fact that I brought a ring I've brought my partner the same amount of gifts I would have any other year. It's not a Christmas present. It's an engagement ring and the only link to Christmas is the actual day itself, which will now be even more special for all the years to come.
• United States
25 Dec 08
could share with us what happened when you proposed?
@singlemommy (2953)
• United States
7 Dec 08
Well, my daughter's father proposed to me at Christmas a few years ago. We are no longer a couple and we never married, but I do often think about it at Christmas time. He came to me a couple weeks ago and said that he was contemplating asking his current girlfriend to marry him for Christmas. I found it a slap in the face that he would want to do this on the same holiday as he asked me. Maybe it shouldn't be, but it is. I told him that it offended me but if it was what he wanted to do then do it. So, the reason I have that you shouldn't ask on a holiday is because you might find someone else later who you would want to ask on the holiday too and if you ask all of them on Christmas then you may as well change Christmas Day to Engagement Day.
• United States
7 Dec 08
LOL. that made me laugh. so your daughter's father would start calling it Engagement Day.
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
7 Dec 08
I would think that I would not want to share my engagement with Christmas. My sister has a birthday on December 19th and she feels that everyone is talking about Christmas and her birthday gets forgotten. Also the funds will be smaller or the lovely "joint" gift covering both days. I would not like to be proposed to during the holidays if it was me.
• United States
7 Dec 08
Oh how sad it is for her. and yeah, your partner will not buy you two things.
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@mariposaman (2967)
• Canada
7 Dec 08
I know why guys propose in December. They get to buy the engagement ring as the Christmas gift. As it cost a bundle they are tapped out anyways so cannot afford anything else. Why don't guys get anything anymore when they propose. At one time they used to get a dowry, now they get nothing and still have to pay for the rings (and some say pay for the rest of their lives ).
• Philippines
7 Dec 08
OMG please do not propose on Christmas... Based from my experience, proposing on Christmas days will be too late... I had this girl that I liked before and professed my love to at Christmas day only to find out that she has a boyfriend already because I was to slow... Another one is when I told the girl I loved that I love her on Christmas day and nothing much happened because she was too occupied on what was going on around us... I think the best thing that you should do is to propose to her before christmas and spend christmas day with her... I think that is more romantic rather that getting tangled up at christmas and u propose to her? Are you really giving her a choice? Its christmas and its hard to say no at christmas.... If thats love for you then I dont know what love is anymore.... peace?... and happy holidays....
@krfanlim (232)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 08
Hahahah!! That's a good laugh!! But seriously, take things lightly. It was meant to be a joke. Christmas is one of the beautiful seasons to propose because this time is where everybody is merrier and happier, thus, your chances of being accepted increases!!
7 Dec 08
Haha I agree with everyone in this discussion, I personally will not propose anyone during Christmas time because there isnot enough money to celebrate if i get 'yes' as the answer lol so it will end up with a divorce at new year eve .
@myskina (182)
• China
7 Dec 08
.... so afraid we have not enough money to celebrate the Christmas .... so , we always have to prepare ahead of that exciting time and i think no snow`s Christmas is not the complete Christmas `
• United States
7 Dec 08
Hi, On the first reason it sounds like a immature person gave that answer. So what if you have to still buy her a gift you cheapskate. On reason #2, that answwer sounds like it came from a 10 year old kid. On reason #3, your divorce is most likely not going to be finalized at Christmas. Get on with your life and make something of it instead of whining about it. Be happy!!! Look foward to good things! I proposed on Midnight Christmas Eve, 15 years ago and everything is going along great!
@jfeets726 (775)
• United States
7 Dec 08
Speaking from personal experience, I think it is better to be a true surprise. My boyfriend proposed to me a year ago. He did it about a week after my birthday. We have talked about getting married for awhile (as we have a daughter together). I was really surprised. I honestly thought if he was going to ask it would have been on my birthday. But, at the same time it was nice he didn’t. I felt he wasn’t pressured or anything like that. It is kind of confusing to explain, but he asked because he wanted to, not because it was a holiday or special day.