How much would you give up ?

@alokn99 (5717)
India
December 7, 2008 1:11am CST
There will be various times in our life that we decide to to make a difference in the lives of others. What comforts would you be willing to give up to make a significant contribution ? What do we live for if not to make the world less difficult for each other.- George Elliot. We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean.But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop.- Mother Teresa.
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
7 Dec 08
There re two aspects as to this. One: doing it for my loved ones, two: doing it for the world. I have always believed that charity begins at home and I live by that. I love myself and my family, my friends and dear ones and I would ensure their sanity and peace first and foremost. I love myself and for that I would secure my world and emotional needs. If I am not happy I can never make others happy, can I? So, when it comes to my loved ones I would go to the extent to giving myself 100%. I have found myself doing over my means and even when it was not really necessary. All the hard work went ashtray! But still it had left me a feeling to much belonged and happy. A few have utilised this also, but as long as I am afford myself being used I would do my bit. Now, coming to the second point, when it comes to doing it for the world, would do my bit. However little it may be. Like I would light a candle, gather people of my locality, my friends for a cause. It might not be a huge one but I have done things like that. I think it must not be considered as DOING for others. The I gets over dominant and all the good work gets to mere exhibitionism! I live life by my own terms. Like I will do my bit to go green even though that doesn’t affect immediately. I would try and motivate others also for that’s how it should be. People are lethargic about things that do have immediate effect and they think their endeavour would get lost or not required. But little little drops make the ocean. Every drop matters. That's how it should be always. Thanks.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
7 Dec 08
The first aspect of it most of us would give up a lot of things for and there is absolutely no doubt about that. And you are absolutely right that charity begins at home. But how much do we carry it forward ? There will be instances when we want to make a difference , and then how much will we do ? Being selfless is not easy Mimpi , when it comes to people we do not know. When i want to do something for the education of the people in the rural areas, can i give up the present comforts ? Not that easy. While i still belieive strongly in the cause. Thanks for the wonderful response.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
7 Dec 08
I agree its not easy but when you have nothing more to lose and when we know that it is what that keeps you going, I think things gets easier. Coming to comfort, I do believe that PEACE is more important and while comfort can get you physical satisfaction it may not help you with the inner peace. It's your belief, conviction and your passion that must have the last word. Thanks.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
7 Dec 08
Well said indeed. It is the peace of mind which is paramount. Comforts are indeed those which give us more physical satisfaction. Thanks again Mimpi.
@riyasam (16578)
• India
7 Dec 08
the word love and sacrifice would go hand in hand.it is very easy to give up our personal comforts or anything of that sort,for the ones we love.it is the the act of deliberately following a course of action that has a high risk.for example;LORD JESUS.He was oppressed, and he was afflicted, yet he opened not his mouth: he is brought as a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he openeth not his mouth.-BIBLE-ISAIAH53:7
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
7 Dec 08
While it is easy to give up for the ones we love, what i amtrying to ascertain is beyond that and goes further for a cause, for people we do not know and so on. Thanks
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
7 Dec 08
you are right in your thinking alok,but then you need to have love for a particular cause,then only can one put heart and soul into it.(let alone giving something up)
@lvaldean (1612)
• United States
8 Dec 08
That is always a loaded question isn't it? What comforts? When are comforts a necessity? When are they simply wants? Beyonce made the comment recently that she is "simply a happy person, that she chooses to be happy". Well gotta say B, were I raking in $85M a year I could "choose" to be happy too. Not hating on the girl mind you and she does some good works, but we are talking tax right offs in the neighborhood that most of us can't even look up and see. So what comforts? Those that I can give up without sacrificing my future or the future of my family. Those that will not put my future or the future of my family at risk. Those that I don't deem as necessisty to the future of my family. I know that might seem selfish but the reality is that in this day and with the nature of this world risk, especially financial risk is far to great. What I give away today, even time I give away might be what breaks me tomorrow. As a small independent business owner every hour I don't bill a customer is a hour I don't get paid. Every hour I give away to charity (and I do give a way a great deal of them) is an hour I don't get paid. Every dollar I give away to charity (and I do give them away) is a dollar I don't put in my retirement fund (that recently took a nose dive). The world has created in us a more selfish community of individuals. One that forces us to look more inward. We have no choice but to focus on our immediate needs knowing that no one is going to help us if we need help. A single visit to the hospital can bankrupt us with out insurance (I am uninsurable privately due to pre-existing conditions). A downward spiral in the economy can bankrupt our retirement. The housing market can reduce our net worth in a blink of an eye. So selfish, yeah maybe but there isn't much that any of us can do for our fellow man if we cannot do for ourselves.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
9 Dec 08
What you say is true and a harsh reality of life. But then there will be a time in our lives that we will move beyond just thinking and acting for ourselves. We take examples of the ones who have and do just that. If everyone remain self centred then would we survive ? I would say no. Thanks for this
@raven66 (335)
• Canada
7 Dec 08
I got to say.. all my many long hours on this computer can be better spent doing volunteer work, or visiting elders, or sick people. and the such.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
7 Dec 08
That is a good way to start. Thanks
@mokbul (616)
• Singapore
7 Dec 08
First of all thanks for starting a such meaningful discussion. So far as myself concerned, giving up will depend entirely on for whom I am giving up. For my wife, children and parents I am ready to give up everything. For others it will greatly vary on how much they need and how much I am able to give up comfortably. It may sound rude to some but that is the bitter truth in my case.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
7 Dec 08
Thanks for your honest views. Appreciate it.
@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
7 Dec 08
I know what I can do to the cause is a little bit. But I will give up the personal comfort to do my duty.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
7 Dec 08
Every little bit counts. Thanks
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
7 Dec 08
If the cause was true to my heart or the person was all to me and more, then I would be prepared to give up absolutely everything, no question. The positive way to see it in my opinion, is that we would be creating a blank canvas from which to start painting a whole new life on. Mother Theresa's quote is especially poignant and so, so true. Many of us get caught up in the mindset that we alone cannot make a difference, so why bother! Yet the combined efforts of many acting alone make ALL the difference. As another quote rightfully states - United we stand, divided we fall. Giving up things in our lives in order to improve the life of another is a selfless and giving act that will in time far surpass the value of what we feel we may have lost in the beginning.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
7 Dec 08
Yes James, For people who mean everything to us , it would be easy for us , but when it to a cause and people whom we do not know , then comes the real test in how much we can really give up. For example. If you are dedivcated to a cause of educating and bringing up rural children, would you be willing to let go the basic comforts like a soft bed, the air conditioning and so on. Thanks for your views James.
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• United States
7 Dec 08
Our family (me, husband & kids) personally has given up alot for the rest of the family. I never really thought about it til I ran across this. We have given up cars, money, etc. for others in the family when they have needed it. We live in a small shack (not a house), have decent jobs and cars that aren't pretty to look at but do their jobs. Yet, we are the first that are called on when a crisis comes up in our families. Funny thing is that we don't even notice that we're giving up something (like sleep or whatever). We (husband & I) grew up in tough times and were always taught that it was better to give than to receive. So it came natural for us. We sacrifice alot so that others in the family won't have to suffer and it comes back to us when we need help.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
9 Dec 08
It does come naturally and selflessly for the people we love Thanks
@Grandmaof2 (7603)
• Canada
7 Dec 08
I would give up anything and absolutely everything for my daughter, sonin law and my two grandchildren, as they are all I have outside of God that I know genuinely love me unconditionally.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
7 Dec 08
That comes so naturally especially when it comes to the family. Thanks
@rebs2011 (26)
• United States
7 Dec 08
I would give up anything I could to help someone in need. They have a new show out on TV Secret Millionaire. These millionaires live in a poor area for about a week and then choice people to give money to. I don't understand why a millionaire needs 9 cars but won't help those in need.
@krfanlim (232)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 08
I'd go to all lengths with my greatest effort and sacrifice just to see that smile on my love's face. It's love. When you truly love someone with all your heart, nothing else matters anymore, other than your loved ones' happiness. It's bittersweet, but really heart-warmingly rewarding.