Ever gotten advice you didnt like ? ,what did you do ?

@ronnyb (6125)
Jamaica
December 7, 2008 5:54am CST
Maybe you know the advice was true, but you didn’t like what was said or how it was dispensed ?.Lets face it sometimes we ask for advice but we know the answer and sometimes it is something we don’t want to do,like apologize for something we did wrong, so we ask a friend in the hope that they sugar coat it for us and tell us we were not wrong ,but then they did the right thing .Or it could be advice that we didn’t think was good advice ? What do you do in that situation, do you accept the advice and act accordingly or ignore the advice? Do you let this situation advice your relationship with your advisor. If you have any practical experiences, we would like to hear about them,please
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@relundad (2312)
• United States
7 Dec 08
When I seek the advice of others its usually not for similarity yet the desire for opinions or knowledge on the subject that I may not be aware of. Actually most times I am looking for something different than I may have conceived in my mind. Sometimes when you are involved in something its hard to be objective and you need a different opinion in order to actually weigh your conclustions.
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@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
7 Dec 08
Yes that is true ,I seek advice for those same reasons too but what if the advice you got ,you know within your heart of hearts is wrong.You shouldnt be looking for similar views but at the same time you may know that advice you got is not worth taking.You may get advice you never thought about and that is good but sometimes you may have ruled out an option and thats the same option someone else is suggesting and their reasons are weak
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@Shawchert (1040)
• United States
7 Dec 08
I listen to the advice, I do all the little calculations in my head about the advice and what it will do to effect my life and my family, and I will decide whether to take that advice or not.
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@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
7 Dec 08
Yes it is always important for you to listen first and then decide based on your assessment of the situation ,that way you can filter out what you dont like .
@mayhem23 (185)
• Canada
8 Dec 08
Yes, I often receive advice that I do not like. However, as I am an adult, I listen to everyone's suggestion about an issue and then make my own decision. I don't tell them directly that I don't like their idea. Sometimes, their idea helps as an eliminator of some sort.
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@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
8 Dec 08
Sound like you have a good system worked for dealing with advice you dont like lol
@suzzy3 (8400)
7 Dec 08
I try to look at both sides before I go for advise anyway ,I only ask people I trust to give me the right advise and they do me,sometimes it is not what I was hoping for ,but if I am wrong and about to make a big mistake,I would hope someone would put me right after all they have to pick up the pieces.It is up to you in the end if you take the advise.
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@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
8 Dec 08
Good principle always try to figure it out for oneself first and then when its given try to determine the integrity of the advice.
@pergammano (7756)
• Canada
7 Dec 08
ronnyb....Good Morning, I think if "you asked," you should be prepared for the answer, and if you don't like the answer "take it with a grain of salt," so they say. You will not always hear what you want to hear, so I weigh the answer carefully, gleen from it what I can, and go forward! I personally respect people's feelings! If I am asked a question that I know they won't like the answer to, I will deliver the answer as kindly as I can. And if I am the recipient of advice that I do not like, I realize that I asked, therefore I should be prepared for what I receive, and NOT re-act adversely! Have a great Sunday! Cheers!
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@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
7 Dec 08
Yes and here I am taking your advice lol.You are right in that regard,you should be grateful for th effort people make to give you advice and soem will be good and some bad. Thank you for your time and have a good one too
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@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
7 Dec 08
Well... First we are assuming that you asked for advice. Given that you've asked for advice, you should be prepared to hear an honest answer. I always say, "do not ask a question, unless you are prepared to hear all of the possible answers. Remember, one of the reasons we ask for advice in the first place is to get another person's opinion or take on the situation. Which brings me to my next point. Take what you like and leave the rest. It's just the other person's opinion, you don't have to like it, agree with it, or even act on their suggestion. You asked for their opinion and so you got it. In any relationship there are always two sides to every story. For me personally, my friends and I have a saying, "yours, mine and ours." Which simply means, I have my part to play in this, you have your part as well and somewhere in the middle is the "ours" part where we get to live and resolve problems. The very reason that I could ask a friend for advice in the first place is because I think they will give me an honest answer, even if they know that it may not be something I am going to like hearing. My friends and I are very open and honest with one another and that allows for situations to resolve themselves as they happen, which is better in the end because things are not left to build or fester. Leaving issues unresolved now will only lead to resentments later, which will be more harmful to any relationship than conflict in the present. wheel416
@bcote212 (1113)
• United States
7 Dec 08
I think that we all ask each other for advice. it seems that mylot is basically built around asking others for advice. In the end however we have to make our own decisions and make our own actions. Of course I have gotten advice that I did not agree with and in the end I had to do what was right for me. Basically when asking someone for advice we are letting them know that we value their opinion, but honestly in the end we have to all make the decision ourself.
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@legend4u (1019)
• India
7 Dec 08
i am a person with lot of patience and i have a tendency to listen to everything that others say. i am a good listener, some times there will be occasions where people give me advise or say something to me in a way which is not useful or not in the right way. i will listen the whole thing sometimes i will not reply or sometimes i will say i don't like it.
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@Purtle (274)
• United States
9 Dec 08
When I get advice that I don't like. I usually tell the person that "I'll think about doing that" even though in my mind there is no way I'm going to do it. If the person asks me why I didn't take their advice, I would say something along the lines of "I thought I came up with a better thing to do etc."
@mokbul (616)
• Singapore
8 Dec 08
Right things, never mind how bitter it is, can not be changed by shading color or sugar coating. So if I am trying to get an answer differently then what it should be then in first place I shall put a number of solution probably compromising between somewhere in between the complete right and complete wrong and asked the opinion what the most would choose under the given circumstances. That will give me a demarcation line how much should be minimum humiliation for me.
@myskina (182)
• China
8 Dec 08
i think listen to the other people`s advice is a good habit , that`s also the performance of the polite of course , thers are some good , some bad , you can accept or not , if thers is something wrong you should talk about with that . last , don`t in the private to discuss the other`s advice . respect the others who gived you that point ``
@nengs10 (3189)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
I have had like this before. I usually ask advice from people close to me. So, even though I may not totally agree with their advice, I still value them. I still think of their advices and take chance if it will work or not. Happy posting.
• New Zealand
8 Dec 08
Yes, it is a pretty frustrating situation when someone thinks that they are advising but not even up to the logic. I also seen a few elders who in the name of advising speaks out out logic. If I ever follow some peoples advice, I never succeed. Not everyone give out the best advice you know. For example, you know for sure that 1+2 will become 3. But some people, they themselves misunderstand something and advice us to do this and that which I know for sure that it will fail. But still they insist that hard, thinking that they are correct and they are advising me. Its pretty frustrating particularly with some elders who doesn't know what they are speaking.
@kiran8 (15203)
• Mangalore, India
8 Dec 08
Most of the advise one gets is what one wants to hear, because most people play it safe and talk accordingly.But i feel that we must listen to advise that is meant well rather than sugar coated or pleasing to one's ears.I am sure ones inner voice to agrees- better to listen to it and act on the advise that is given with the intention of helping you
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
8 Dec 08
Hi friend,I never ignore anykind of advice from others whether they are younger or older to me.I listen to them and act according to my instinct.We should never ignore others advice ,as it would give us ideas which we wouldn't have even thought about.So it is good to listen to others advices too and never think or degrade others opinions.Sometimes only the advices which we ignore would work out well.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.
• India
8 Dec 08
I live in India where every second person thinks he is smarter than the first, so I get all unwanted advices everyday right from parents to friends to teachers to neighbours..Cant follow all of em..So I acknowledge their concern with a smile.
@sarawaken (360)
• Malaysia
8 Dec 08
act nothing happen
@silverjam (969)
• United States
7 Dec 08
I guess I got a lot of them, unsolicited advises I mean. Sometimes I just ignored them but there were times that I really had to say something, specially if I felt that it's somehow "below-the-belt". For me advise is just advise; they can be taken in positively or can be discarded. I have to collect them like suggestions to make something better in me but still the decissions lies in me. People sometimes are mistakenly equating their advises as one but then they don't realize that its not healthy anymore if its too much. I prefer plain suggestions than lectures.
• Philippines
7 Dec 08
of course... my answer is simple i didn't follow the advice.. I followed what i think is right and proper so that there will be no regrets... If my decision is wrong then i don't have to blame someone else but myself... Life is like this we are matured enough to make decisions on our own... agree? it's ok if you don't agree.hahaha.
• Portugal
7 Dec 08
Sometimes its dificult to know a good advice, but is allways better to ear what people have to say, you may not agree with it or you migth learn something. Some advices when accepted might avoid geting us into trouble. My mom is a wise person however i don´t like to admit it. Sometimes my parents tell me of bad days to go out, sometimes i dont listen and later on i regret it. Now i´m the one to ask them for advice.