Does your sister call you?

honestly you should sit her down and tell her how you feel. i have that exact same relationship with my mother unfortunately. she has a gambling problem, gets along way better with my sister so the only time she picks up the phone or shows up at my house is to ask for money. last year when i was 6 months pregnant, me and my boyfriend split up. i was devastated. my mom showed up i thought to be there for me, only to find out she had spent her paycheck and needed to borrow money. i had had it! i sat her down, cried my eyes out and told her that in that whole situation SHE was the one making me miserable. family is supposed to be there for you always. im guilty for not always calling my sister, but when we talk we actually talk about our lives, its not just to ask for something. i told my mom how her only asking for things really made me feel inadequate, and sad, and like i was a stranger to her and not a daughter. she was really hurt and stunned because she didnt even realize she was doing it. she said she was so used to talking with my sister becausae my sister was the baby of the family and always seemed to need my mom and i was so independent. i explained to her that i was that way because i had no choice... since then we have had a much better relationships. we stil dont talk as much as her and my sister do, but i doubt we ever will. but we do talk about our lives, we call eachother, and help eachother..its not just selfishness anymore. i highly suggest talking to her, she might just really not know how she is making you feel. the older we get, the harder it is, we get our own lives and forget that we grew up so close to our family. I'm sure if you talk to her things will at least get a tiny bit better.

I have the same problem. And you know what. There is nothing I can do about that. She is an adult woman and she is not going to change suddenly, so the best thing I can do is stop worrying and being angry about that. When she wants something I can help her with, I help her. If it"s too difficult or cost me too muche, I don't. Without regret.

I have a sister though we don't call each other that often, during holidays, birthdays, etc. It's not that we don't get along, it's just that we have separate lives and live close enough where we can visit on occasion.

hi onlydia i would just keep calling and seeing how they are doing as i have a couple of sister and one does the same to me and i just say im sorry i cant help you out but i still call to see how they are doing your friend bigman

My sisters also don't call me very often, but when they calls, they are not only for something. They also call to see if I am OK. For me too. I call them not very frequently, but also regard them when call. We live far from each other, so there are not so many things for us to contact. Most of the calls are for regards.

I Understand that situation. Cuz im the sister that only calls for something in my family. Me and my family is close, but i just dont feeel the need to talk. keep callin her. amd tell her yu feel yall are losing touch. that she needs to call to talk. at least act concerned. or what yu could do is what my family does, tell them they wont send me anything or care for my birthday or anything. unless i keep in touch

I feel that there is not reciprocity in your relationship and hte expectation on her part that you should be there for her is greater than anything else.Anything ought to be mutual. She does not feel like calling for casual friendly enquiries and chats .Then leave it.Even if you try talking to her, she will only say how churlish adn silly you are.So, forget it and just get resigned to the fact that you are not able to see eye to eye with each other and being away and silent would get things on an even footing some day.If it is Christmas for you then it is the same for her too. Cheer up!Relationships based only on needs would not sustain .

My one sister calls on a regular basis.....the other doesn't....but I am not a good one to call back either as I don't really like talking on the phone....and when I do talk on the phone it's usually to my kids....So yes....one of my sisters calls once a week....the other doesn't....but like I said...I am not a good caller either!

for me that sucks Onlydia..coz shes being unfair to u, shes like using u for her needs only, instead of taking good care of u as her sister..but if u really love her, tell her how u feel so she'll understand n can change her bad habit, maybe after that she will care bout u n call u not only when she needs something from u Onlydia.. im the youngest of 4 sisters..n i have a very close relationship with all of them, we love each other n call for one n another not only when we need sth, but just to know how their sons are or maybe we wanna go out for shopping together or else..but it not happens just like that Onlydia, we need to approach each other n learn to be more closer as a siblings..so, dont give up on her, try to talk with her first, if shes change its a good thing..but if shes not, then just do wat u thing its right to do.. take care Onlydia

i guess im lucky because me and my sister talk all the time about everything. we do call each other if we need something, but also to just say hey. i would talk to her and tell her. one thing about family is that you are supposed to able to talk to them about anything and work it out because you are family. thats not fair for her to take advantage of you like that.

Maybe my sister like your sister.She less call me unless she wants something I can do for her.Now she is far away from me,I almost forget her.I don't care how she and I.

Yes, my sisters do call. We have great love and respect for each other. I feel sorry for you because you obviously love her or you wouldn't feel this way. Just take her the sugar or whatever and talk to her face to face if you live near enough. Try to get that bond thing going. Keep at it it's worth it. Life isn't worth living if you don't have a family. Don't give up, she'll come back to you. All the best and Merry Xmas to you

nope i got one sister that is 1 but she cant talk so haha