You had to choose your spouse for the next birth, would you choose the same one

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India
December 8, 2008 3:16am CST
Assuming that there is a next birth, which I completely believe, and god gave you a chance to choose your spouse, would you choose the same one or opt for some other. I love my husband and I know he cares for me. But there are times when I can do without him. So Id be really confused as to what I want. Sometimes I would want him to be with me for the next several births, and sometimes I feel, no, a change would be better. What about you guys. Give all.
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• Malaysia
8 Dec 08
hi kety .. if he is my soul mate, then definatly he was my pasr life mate n will be my next life mate, of course we all got problems...maybe i don like something about him ... n i guess he might not like somethings about me ... but we have gone tru a lot of pain to be together in this life ... and i will fight to be with him in our next life as we are definatly sole mates ... cheers
• India
9 Dec 08
Sanjana, it seems you are not married, so wait and watch. There are very few couples in the world who can claim theat the spouse is your soul mate. When life teaches you the ups and downs of life and you have to live with each other through the thick and thin of life, that is when you know whether you are willing to have your life partner again in the next birth. I hope you find your soulmate. Happy hunting.
• Malaysia
9 Dec 08
kety ... you were never in my past discussions .. let me cut the story short .. .. we were lovers for 14 years, his family against our marriage, he was 31 when he met me and i was 21, he never had girlfriends .. if you see one of my discussion, i shared the first song he had for me ...during this time there were alot of arguments as i blamed him for not being man enough to fight his family .. finally last year (at 45) he did fight the whole lot, we are now married for 2 years .. altogether we have been together for 16 years i hate his family for the pain they have put me tru .. but for him ... i will pretend that everything is ok Even now we have ups and downs .. but we love each other dearly ... believe me, it is tru love ... although there was pain but the end pleasure to be united is so wonderful ... cheers
@BubblyIan (751)
8 Dec 08
No way! My ex is not someone I would ever want to have a relationship with. If I had known her true self I would never have got involved with her! Anyway she is married to someone else now and they have had one and expect another kid so she is not available! As for your situation, I hope you can work it out. It may be that mediation/counselling would help. So many people have unrealisable expectations about marriage and families and it can be difficult to accept another person's views and reach a compromise. I hope you can do so for the sake of your children. Children need both aprents and do much better when both aprents are fully invovled in their lives. Separation is the worst option for kids and unfortuantely often means that the father is unable to play a full role in the child's upbringing, seriously affecting the children's chances in the future. Hang in there!
• India
8 Dec 08
Bubbly, bubbly, you have got the wrong message. Im married for the last 25 years and am having a good life with him and my son. Its just that at times he makes me so mad, I feel id like someone else in my next birth, but then thats a normal reaction for me. I have a wonderful son aged 20 and as such we have a nice life. We have a lot of give and take in our relationship and we dont keep things in our heart and forget our quarrels very fast, so its ok by me. Its just sometimes, like any family, we have arguments (more recently) but its ok. We manage. Just wondered whether it would be better or worse for me to have another spouse. I know you have been very badly hurt, and your emotions are high. Chill out friend and God Bless
8 Dec 08
Thank you for that. I am pleased. Happy Mylotting!
@underdogtoo (9600)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
I think it would be boring to have the same spouse. There must be millions or even billions in some other galaxy which would be suitable for me. Cheers!!
• India
9 Dec 08
Hehe, like they say, eat curry everyday and you get bored. Something like that, eh.
@mykmari_08 (2466)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
My spouse and I have been married for more than five years now and we have one daughter for a child. Frankly, I'm quite disappointed because eventhough how much I encourage him to find or search for a more stable job, he seems afraid to take risks and chances to engage in job search. It seems to me that he's already contented with earning less than the minimum wage of 300 pesos daily (approximately 6 dollars) from Mondays to Saturdays. Sorry if I have to vent out my frustrations here, but he doesn't seem to care if we are able to pay all our bills and monetary obligations. In fact, he doesn't hand his wage over to me. He likes to spend it in his own way. What's worse is that when nothing's left of it, he tends to get a portion of my salary which I, in turn, have to budget for house rent, bills, transportation fares, meals, and everything. If I would be literally born again or what you call 'rebirth', I guess I have to be honest and admit that I'd like to have a more responsible and understanding husband. Foremost, I'd like to have a partner in life who would be a great provider and father to our future kids. This is one of the personal issues to which I could attest that sometimes, age does really matter.
• India
8 Dec 08
This is real bad, what with himj not bothering about you and the baby. Actually, he is taking this lie back attitude because you provide him with everything and he spends his money on himself. Such men, Im sorry to say are despicable and dont need your love and sympathy. When he can be selfish, Im sure you can be too for the sake of the baby and stop feeding him and looking after his well being. He will quickly get the message. Besides dont let him get abusive and hurt you too. Sure such husbands are better not to have, and I sincerely pray you have a better more loving and caring husband in your next birth.