what if your friend keep asking u for money?

@kunking (1116)
China
December 9, 2008 1:31am CST
hi,guys! he is my former colleague and we are pretty much good friends though we can't see each other often..he is just a good guy expect that he always ask me to lend him money...i mean i would like to help my friend if he needs help..but what if your friend ask for your help all the time? he did has a job and absolutely he could feed himself with his salary..i don't know what's wrong with his finance situation. he just told me he had to help lots of his friends or his family..i'm not sure he told me the truth and i had ever lent him some money twice and each time he just paid back to me late and i remember the first time was half a year later after the date he promised..i didn't want to ruin our friendship but don't know how to deal with problem.. if u were me , what would u do in this situation?
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13 responses
• India
10 Dec 08
SImply say no! YOu to have ur aspiration. Do care about ur friend talk to him about ur problem and his too. ANd do respond to my discusion also if u can.
@kunking (1116)
• China
10 Dec 08
thank u for response ,have a good day!
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@ketybhagat (4125)
• India
11 Dec 08
You use the same trick on him. Whenever you meet him, before he has the chance to ask you for money, you ask him, tell him you have to help your family etc. Do this for two to three times. he will clearly get the picture and your friendship should last, if he is a true friend. You could also tell him directly that you are not in a p osition to help.
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@kunking (1116)
• China
12 Dec 08
haha...really a good idea...thank u for advice..
• India
12 Dec 08
You can always come running to lil ol mummy for any more advice, lol. Hope it helps and your friendship stays.
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@kaliyha (591)
• Philippines
14 Dec 08
I guess if he's going to borrow some money from me, I'll say to him that I don't have any money also. Don't be blunt to your friend because money can make a relationship go sour. Ask him to tell you honestly what's the problem so that you can work out a long term solution.
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@kunking (1116)
• China
14 Dec 08
thank u for responding..
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
14 Dec 08
lending money can cause you to lose some really good friends espeacially when they don,t pay you back like you rich are something.there is a easy solution to this problem.don,t you know how to say i don,e have it to lend iam sorry i can,t help you i wish i could but i can,t i have heavy bills myself sorry.i think if you keep lending your friend money and he was so late paying you last time one day you will get stuck with him oweing you.personally i don,t like lending money if i have it to give i just give it to them and don,t expect anything back.
@kunking (1116)
• China
14 Dec 08
yeah, sometimes money is a problem which can ruin real friendship..
• India
14 Dec 08
I really would not give since it would really hurt my savings if he doesnt repay me for months and i think i will say some reason or the other and would not lend the money and would give him money if he really needs and if he is really telling me the reason why he needs the money,unless and untill that i really would not lend the money to him...happy mylotting...
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@kunking (1116)
• China
14 Dec 08
u are right, bala..
@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
I think it's time you tell your friend that if he values your friendship he should pay his debt. Tell him you wouldn't want him to depend on you always since you are friends and it wouldn't look nice because it would look like he can't do anything on his own to support himself. Just be honest and if he's a real friend he would do the right thing to pay his debts.
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@kunking (1116)
• China
10 Dec 08
hi, friend! thank u for advice...i did have a talk with him but i am not sure whether he told me the truth about why he's always lack of money...
@23uday (2998)
• India
9 Dec 08
HI frnds, my frnds were good frnds.my frnds are helping nature,friendly nature. frnds are forever and ever.When my frnds are asking money to me i will give it to them.For me money is not matter only a true a frndship.My frnds were all are true frnds only,I will give it to my close frnds only.I will always help to my frnds when they needed forever and ever.So when i help to my frnds they will also help to me when i needed. be happy.
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@kunking (1116)
• China
9 Dec 08
u have really good friends..
• China
9 Dec 08
i don't like borrow money from my friends.i think borrow money will lost respect.and your friend always asked you to lend him money. it's not very well. especially he can afford. and your friend is not very honest.he always forgot the paid back time. so i think you may politely refuse him one time.
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@kunking (1116)
• China
9 Dec 08
hi,vivian! i doubt he had told me the truth now..so i've refuse him once in a polite manner..recently he called me again and i don't know how to reply to him...
• United States
9 Dec 08
if i were you, i understand dat u need $ but honestly i dnt have enuff. (unless im a rich ******) idk wha ur gunna do wit it, n if i did i wud think bout it n let u kno, 2 weex later im sry but im jus not in da position 2 lend u any $ i need 2 pay my own bills n feed my family.
@kunking (1116)
• China
9 Dec 08
thank u for response...
• India
9 Dec 08
I think you need to talk to your friend. Just get to know what situation he is in. Get to know his problems and then help him out if hes a really good friend of yours. A friend in need is a friend indeed. Just keep this in mind.
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@kunking (1116)
• China
9 Dec 08
thanks for ur advice..i doubt he will tell me the truth though..
• Brunei Darussalam
14 Dec 08
I will just say that I don't have money... I have a lot of experience with 'friends' that only become friendly just because I give them money... I had enough of them! They take my friendship for granted. They never even remember all the help I gave such as doing their homework, paying their lunches and many things more. They also loaned some money from me, but until today, not a single cent is paid back to me. All these just to earn their friendship which I realized to be inexistent. When I didn't give them money, they just acted sad and tried to get my sympathy by telling me lies. Yet, I did believed all the things they said. Now, all my 'friends' acts to me like a complete stranger... sad. Well, enough about me. I think your friend is different. Just do what you think is okay for you and your friend.
@Frederick42 (2019)
• Canada
14 Dec 08
I would not lend money to anyone, even if he is my friend. These type of pests are everywhere. Many of them are just posing as friends. A true friend would not ask us for money, unless he is in a critical condition and is in dire need of money. I am always beware of my friends. I avoid those who pose as friends.
• China
14 Dec 08
in the situation you have just said,i advise you do not give him money anymore.because he alway delay the date when he promise you to give back your money and he do not tell you clearly about what the money is use for.may be he use the money on some bad place and may be commit a crime.so stop!about your relationship i have to say is you keep contact him oftenly and see what is his response,if he dont friendly with you just because you dont agree to lend him money,you dont contact him anymore cause you dont owe him anything.and if he tread you like before,be the friend forever.