What do you look for in a partner...?

@laydee (12814)
Philippines
December 9, 2008 3:16am CST
For a partner. I'd like him to be someone I could really talk to, from the basic stuff to the more imaginary stuff. I don't want someone who just informs me, but knows how to explain things. Someone who is interested in listening to what I have to say, at the same time loves me enough to see that I'm not perfect. He should be someone who knows how to protect me. He might not be perfect at all times, but regardless what happens, I know he'd not be someone who leaves me when times are tough. He should be God-fearing, responsible, and should be my best friend. I would certainly want him beside me, taking my hand and be with me until we grow old. And the funny thing is, though it sounds so fiction, I know deep in my heart he exists. What about you?
8 responses
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
9 Dec 08
Honesty and being faithful are at the top of my list. I found most all of what I was looking for when I found my Hubby. We're honest with each other and faithful to each other. We can talk about anything and everything. We share the same views on most things and he is definately protective of me even with my own family. It doesn't matter how either of us looks (which is good since we're both getting older) and we love each other in spite of our flaws. He's smart and funny and makes me feel special. I really did get lucky in finding him. [b]MERRY CHRISTMAS!!! ~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG AND TRUST IN GOD**[/b]
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@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
You are indeed lucky to have crossed path with him, there are a lot of lonely souls in the world and I'm glad I've known that amidst these all, the power of true love is still alive and is still possible. My question to you is, how did you find him? I mean, did you go through all the hurt or are you the lucky ones who didn't go through those things in life but ended up with a perfect match? Thanks!
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
11 Dec 08
That's truly amazing twoey, and you really are a strong person for going through all those, I think that relationship of yours now would truly work because you both were already mature and thought about it before doing something. Anyhow, thank you very much for sharing. It truly inspired me to hope for the best and appreciating people more. =)
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
Well, I need someone who can truly accept and love me for what and who I am. Someone that I can depend on when times are tough. Someone who loves his family and most of all I want someone who is God-fearing...
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
That's great. :) So, what happened to that guy who approached you in church? =)
• Philippines
12 Dec 08
Well, he started courting me for weeks now. He seems nice but I told him to start a friendship first before we go much deeper...
@jolan07 (70)
• Philippines
11 Dec 08
i love to meet someone i can leAN ON...i could really talk to not only a as a lover but as well as a friend... a guy who's not boring to be with.... a guy that will truly love me...coz i once hurt by someone i loved before.... someone who's educated and matured enough... someone who will care for me until the tym we grow old.... someone who will love me besides of my imperfections...
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@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
11 Dec 08
I think all of us want to meet that guy. :D
@ladygator (3469)
• United States
10 Dec 08
I was looking for one that was a believer of God and the same values as me. A kind gentle man. One who is a manly man with muscles and good health. With compassion for others and children. One that could support me when I am up or down. One that loves me for who I am and never tries to change me. One that comliments things that I can or try to do. Like my "other" half. One that will let me love him with all my heart and never step on it. I do believe that there is one out there for eveyone cuz I did find mine and very happy and glad that I met him. I feel greatful that I am his wife.
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@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
It makes me smile to know that a lot has found the man of their dreams. I have always thought that only a few get the chance to do so, but here you are telling me it's possible! Thanks so much and may God bless your union and family life together. By the way, did it take long for you to find him?
@bbsr13 (4198)
• India
9 Dec 08
Hello,Laydee! I like the romanticism in my wife so that we can enjoy our conjugal life for ever.thanx,
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
That's great! Can you share to me how your wife is romantically? Like, what does she do that makes you love her more?
@annierose (18021)
• Philippines
9 Dec 08
I can say that we have similarities in what we are looking for a partner. I am not also hoping for a perfect partner because I know that such kinds do not exist. All I want is just a partner who will love me as I am.Someone who will be honest to me even how many women line up in front of him.Someone who will not be ashame to hold my hands in front of many people.Someone who will still love me despite of my flaws.Someone who will not change his love for me even if I grow old.Someone who can understand my attitude. Someone who will help me out in times of problems. Someone who will not leave me no matter what.I just want a real person as my partner. He may not be that handsome. He may not be that rich. He may not be that intelligent. He may be just ordinary man.But I can say that even he is not that perfect, if he really loves me, then that thing is enough for me to be satisfied.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
I can feel love in your heart and I truly appreciate that you are not some starry-eyed little girl who is thinking of her perfect prince charming. You truly know the type of love you want and I pray that you'd find him, or perhaps he finds you. Stay true to yourself and remember that with each ideals you listed there, you too should possess these virtues as well. Good luck and thank you very much for sharing your dreams.
@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
9 Dec 08
I want someone who can protect me, who will be very proud of me and accept me despite of my shortcomings. Somebody who is a good provider and does not smoke. I really hate smoking. Somebody who has a great sense of humor and has a stable job.
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@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
Hehehee... What if he has everything there, but he can't quit smoking? I mean, I am not tolerant too with smoking, but I met someone who has everything yet he smoked. I was devastated, but sooner or later I got adjusted to the thought of him smoking, and he too tried quitting or trimming down on it. What do you think?
@xParanoiax (6999)
• United States
20 Feb 09
First and foremostly I look for a connection. I've found it a few times, and only once of the intensity that consumed me the most. But that connection, that attraction factor, is not enough. I look for someone I can laugh with, someone who will fight battles with me (I don't mean we should argue, I mean I have causes and I occasionally find myself at odds with some bad guys...someone to fight alongside me, someone who has my back like I have theirs)...someone who'll let me protect them so that I feel less like refusing letting them protect me. For someone intelligent. They don't have to be my level intelligence (though that would thrill me more than I can articulate), but they must at least have SOME sort of intelligence, common sense. Someone who loves me for who I am and someone I can love all of who they are for (which is easier for me than I'd like to admit). That's all I want. I don't expect perfection..in fact, I tend to want my partners to be as messed up as I am, though it's not a must. They can be less responsible than me -- people joke I'm responsible enough for ten of me, after all. Different than me's good too, because I'm interested in everything...and can't do or be everything. In fact, the more different the person is, the more I'm likely to find them beautiful (since physical stuff's always the last thing I ever think about xD). No gender preference on my end either. I just want someone who will share their soul with me and who I can share my soul with. To have that kind of mutual and almost complete understanding that only comes with time. Like I said, I've found it at least once before. SOMETIMES I wonder if he was the only one with that intense of a connection with me...but I'm sure that if I've someone I'll live the rest of my life with, we'll find eachother. I stay laid back about it, because it's a touchy subject. If he was the only one, then the fact of the distance...the miles and the distance between our hearts now, is truly more tragic than I've believed. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. If I find this again, I will fight for it...to keep it this time 'round. I'll vow not to fail like last time.