Do you allow the same things for your daughter as you do your son?

@JenInTN (27565)
United States
December 9, 2008 4:15am CST
The reason I ask this is because when I was younger I was always mad because "boys get to everything" lol Now with daughters of my own, I find myself not allowing them things I did my older son. What do you think about this?
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@Sheepie (3121)
• United States
10 Dec 08
I can't really tell if I was/am able to do more or not, and I have two older brothers. I think they are allowed more freedom because they're less likely to get raped or molested. But, I think it is better to keep the genders the same because I would want my daughter to not have to feel like, just because she's a girl, she is any less capable. Of course, I don't have any children yet so I might end up changing my mind when the time comes! I have always had to rebel more to be able to get what I wanted in terms of privileges. I think that my mom clings to me the most, and she's very overprotective, and this causes me to wall her off and be more independent.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
10 Dec 08
I can see that happening..theres an underlying fear that someone will kidnap or abuse your daughters. It can happen to boys to but its always more pronounced with girls.Thank you for the response
@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Dec 08
I was the oldest and my brothers didn't get more privileges than I did. But as for my own kids... I have an 11 year old daughter and 8 year old twins, boy and girl. The boy has autism, so I'd say he has fewer privileges than the other two, and definitely less than the oldest. Actually the twins both have fewer privileges than their older sister did at that age. The reason for that is that if my son sees his sister doing something he will do it no matter that we told him no. So we have to restrict her more than we would otherwise. Fortunately she is sometimes at least somewhat understanding about this.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
10 Dec 08
Sometimes situations choose how things are dealt with. It's good she understands.
@jadegoat (89)
• United States
9 Dec 08
UUUgggghhhh! This use to drive me crazy when I was young. My step dad would always say it's different for you because you are a girl. I found when I grew up this to be true, but to often the trouble boys get into can be easily as damning. If they get a girl pregnant it is 18 years of child support 25% of his income no matter how many bills he may have. If he drinks and drives it is a DUI for 10 years on his record no matter the age he is when he is convicted. I can't tell you how many boys hurt themselves with experimental huffing or other crazy things teens do. Also Many innocent boys are hurt while they are out because of being in the wrong place at the wrong time. As for my children, the boy will get no more privleges than the girl because I know that it isn't safer for boys than girls. My husband and I are huge on teaching self respect and self discipline so they do not desire to run around town.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
9 Dec 08
It used to drive me crazy too...your right it's no safer for one than the other. Thanks
@sunshine4 (8710)
• United States
9 Dec 08
I have 3 boys and then 6 yrs later had my daughter. I really wanted to have a girly girl after having 3 boys, but it didn't happen that way. I do allow my daughter to do things that my boys did, but now she is only 8. ONce she is a teenager, things may change.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
9 Dec 08
lol...girls aren't always girly especially around a bunch of brothers..lol..maybe it won't change..thanks
• India
9 Dec 08
I have two daughters and i have always treated them like sons only. i wanted daughters because i find that they are more affectionate and more caring. I have no regrets not having a son. If i had a son, probably I would not be such a happy man today. They say that "A son is a son till he finds a wife and a daughter is a daughter all her life." It is also said that " a daughter will take away your salary but your son will take away yor pension as well." ha ha ha So i am safe i do not have sons. My elder daughter is a teacher and is married to a Military officer and younger daughter is studying law and will soon be a lawyer. Both are very affectionate and lovely girls. I have given them full liberty to do what they felt like and they never disappointed me. They are both sensible and balanced girls.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
9 Dec 08
That's great! Sounds like you done a great job.
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
9 Dec 08
Sure I do...I mean of course their ages are different so things he can do NOW she may not be able to but shes more than free to do the same things he did at her age....
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
9 Dec 08
Cool...thanks for the response