Surrogate mother

@SuzyLong (775)
December 9, 2008 4:40pm CST
Some of my friends were talking the other day about if they would be a surrogate mother for one of their friends if it turned out that they couldn't have children. It got me thinking and if my best friend asked me to be a sarrogate mother for her, I'd say yes. Would you do it for your friend?
5 responses
• United States
9 Dec 08
i most defanitly would but i just had a baby 12 weeks ago and now i cant have kids anymore however i have almost went through with being a surrogate for my friend because couldnt have kids but she went and got the inverto so now she has a awsome 5 year old baby boy and the weird thing is we was pregnant with both our kids at the same time .. her first kid was boy and mine was a girl my second was a boy and hers was a girl now i tell her all our kids are going to marry in the future and we just gonna be one big happy family ....
@SuzyLong (775)
9 Dec 08
It will be really funny if they all do marry each other. You'd be mother-in-law to each others kids.
@kaui_808 (191)
• United States
9 Dec 08
that would be weird!
• India
9 Jan 09
Those mulling the question of surrogacy might find this helpful: http://medical-trip.com/traditional-vs-gestational-surrogacy/
• Canada
10 Dec 08
I am going to be opposite from the others on here and say no, I wouldnt do it. I have 2 boys of my own, and I honestly cannot imagine carrying a child for 9 months only to hand it over to its real parents. I know that it would not be my eggs and it would be his sperm, but when you have a child growing inside you, knowing that you are giving it life, its a hard bond to break. I wouldnt want that responsibility resting on my shoulders. I worked damn hard to deliver my babies, 21 hour labours with vacuum and forceps and now a prolapsed bladder...no way I would give them up after all that! LOL. I would definately feel guilty, but she always has other options, there are always other people willing to do it that would not have to watch that child grow up and try to forget that you were the one that gave that baby life.
@SuzyLong (775)
10 Dec 08
Fair enough, I can see your point. There are lots of ways to help someone get pregnant now, I was looking into recently and I was quite surprised.
@kaui_808 (191)
• United States
9 Dec 08
My sisters and I were having this same discussion a while back. If we were married we'd have to talk about it with our spouses/boyfriend but for the most part if this person was really important to us we'd probably end up doing. My older sister and I have both had children. So we wouldn't be too worried about the vanity part, keep in mind I said too worried, no matter who you are, it crosses your mind. As for asking my spouse/significant other we came to the agreement that they would be greatly affected by the whole situation. THink about it, your carrying a baby and this person whose with you will be ultimately be apart of the whole process, which come with some attachments, I would definitely need to have their input. And obviously my spouse would have more say then just a guy I was seeing. But in the end someone close to me needed my help in conceiving I would want to help.
@SuzyLong (775)
9 Dec 08
That's what I was thinking, if it's someone that I really care about, then there's no question as to what I'd do for them
@KimJoRoll (127)
• United States
10 Dec 08
I'm not sure. I mean I would like to think I would...but I also have Cystic Fibrosis. It's a gentic lung disease and it's fatal....so I guess my best friend and I would have to sit down and talk about a lot of things. Also, would the father be my fiance'? Or would she want sperm from someone else? If so, that person would have to be tested for Cystic Fibrosis. If I didn't have health problems I would do it in a heart beat!
@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
10 Dec 08
If it were my best friend I would do it for her. I love having kids and I couldn't imagine wanting them and not being able to have them. I was lucky enough to get pregnant pretty quickly with all three of our kids. My pregnancies were pretty easy. I think that if I could do that for her I would.