Can you love without trust?

@samijo719 (1054)
United States
December 10, 2008 11:24am CST
This is a question I am wondering others opinions on. My good friend was recently hurt bad by his girlfriend. She broke his trust and he's hurting bad. She says one day they will be together again if things work out right. My question is what are your thoughts on love without trust?! I think that you can love someone without trusting them but you can't have a relationship with them. If that makes sense. I think someone breaking your trust by lying or cheating is going to automatically make you not love them, it will hurt. But I don't think I could be in a relationship with the person if I didn't trust them.
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@sid556 (31006)
• United States
10 Dec 08
I know what you mean by loving someone that you can't be in a relationship with. I loved my ex when I left him because the relationship was abusive. I had to look deep inside myself as to what in me caused me to continue to "love" such a person. In fact, my healing came as a result of soul-searching my own feelings rather than trying to understand his actions. If it was "love", it was definitely a toxic love. Can you love without trust? It can't be a healthy love. Trust is the core of any healthy relationship. I think your friend is still hurting and in time will get beyond this and see it for what it is. Betrayal hurts alot.
@samijo719 (1054)
• United States
10 Dec 08
I agree betrayal is very painful especially from someone you love. I am sorry to hear you were in an abusive relationship but very glad to see you got out and were able to move past that! Thanks for your response.
@eynjel05 (444)
• Philippines
12 Dec 08
"Love cannot live if there is no trust." We learn to love someone because we are attracted to that person maybe because he/she posseses the kind of attitude that you are looking for someone.It's either he/she is kind.Furthermore,we learn to love someone if he/she brings out the best in us,that we can do eveything that we haven't done yet in our entire life. When we accept someones love,it means that we are willing to take all the risks,we are willing to get hurt.ANd the most important thing is by givibg that someone the trust.Upon entering a relationship, we should learn to give trust to the one we love because when we give such, it only means that we do love that person so much. Trust is something that we can give to the one that we love just to prove that we love them so much to the point that whatever they say, we would believe because we have trust to them.But sometimes giving our full trust to the one we love can hurt us especially when we discovered that they were not worth it for that trust that we gave them. Giving trust to someone is not a joke. We should be careful in giving trust to someon because it can really hurt us. Happy posting!
• India
11 Dec 08
love without trust is a body with no spirit a thread with no reel so every relationship requires trust otherwise its nothing
@kaka135 (13935)
• Malaysia
11 Dec 08
I don't think I can love a person without trusting him. But I do believe if the trust has been broken, it may still be able to regain the trust, if you really love him.
@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
11 Dec 08
No, you cannot love the person without a trust. In a relationship, love is not enough, the lasting union should be build in trust and respect because it is a partnership, you cannot survive alone it requires joint effort that's why it is very important to have trust and respect. If the trust already failed, then there's no genuine love existed anymore in your relationship and everything is so useless already. Love will not fade in just one mistake of your love one, if your love is true and genuine it takes a lot of sacrifice to understand someone, trust can be revived if you know how to forgive. Why not have a serious one-on-one talk where your relationship is heading, when trust is hard to revive because of the deep hurt it cause by someone then better call it quits because it is so useless to continue.