Family OR Career ???

@uditpanda (1023)
India
December 10, 2008 12:55pm CST
I am settled in a small city with a decent earning job. Now I have got an offer as an promotion from my company which requires me to move to a different city very far from mine. My family includes my mom & dad who are very dependant on me emotionally. I am also very home sick. But if I accept that offer my career will be at a higher height than it is at present. I am so confused...Please advice....
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@savak03 (6681)
• United States
10 Dec 08
It would be hard to offer any advise without some more details. You said your family consisted of your mom and dad and that they were dependent on you. Are they dependent on you for their physical care or just emotional care? Do you support them financially? Would they be moving with you? Is this the only family you have? As far as the job is concerned if you decline to relocate will you still be able to work for this company in your current position?
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@uditpanda (1023)
• India
10 Dec 08
Finances are not a problem for my parents. Its just the emotional attachment. Even if i decline the proposal I would still be working with my present company...
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@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
10 Dec 08
I can see that you are in a bit of a situation here. It doesn't sound very easy which ever way you go. First you have to weigh the options in which it seems that you already somewhat have. That is very good that you think of your family the way you do. It says a lot about your personality. I am sure that they are very proud of you at this time. I also know the feeling of being homesick. It takes a while to get over that. I am in Alabama right now and just moved here seven months ago from Pennsylvania. It takes a little time to readjust. Which do you feel is more important? Family or career? That is a choice that is basically up to you because you are the one that has to ask your heart what is the best. In the end you will come up with the best answer. If you do choose this career I am sure that your family will still need you but after a while will come to understand what you have done.
@uditpanda (1023)
• India
11 Dec 08
Thank you for the suggestion....i appreciate
• India
12 Dec 08
Hi UditPanda, What comes to my mind is one question - are you satisfied with the job that you are doing,is it providing enough of your needs?If yes,then you need not take the promotion,you can devote your time to your parents.If you really need that promotion you can take it,go to that new place and after some days you can take your parents with you to your new workplace city.I would like to suggest you that you also must consult your parents about this matter and seek their advice,they have learnt much from life and can help you take a right decision.Hope my advice helped you.
@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
11 Dec 08
I have found from past experience that it is a lot easier to focus more attention on your family if you have a good career. It seems a lot harder for someone to focus much attention on their families if that person is having to work six or seven days per week to try to pay the bills...
@specific (156)
• South Korea
11 Dec 08
hello,my friend!I can understand your feelings.But if i were you,i would choose to go on my career,for if i can not make enough money i won't have a happy life.Maybe you do not have to worry your own family now ,but someday you will have .At that time you must assume a more heavy burdon ,for you have to consider your child you other part you parent.As a result ,you must give up something.If you want to change the reality,you want your family happy ,you have to abondon someting which really cornered you.However,you are bond to be sad that you leave your parents.Well,some times giving up can make a person sucess.If you want to have a bright futuer ,i sugget you accept the job.