quality time vs. quantity time

Philippines
December 11, 2008 12:34am CST
this discussion goes to all the husbands and the wives who are both working: nowadays both husband and wife choose to work because they want to give what's best for their children. have you ever questioned by your children why their parents are both working and none of you is there to witness when they have accomplished something from school because you're working? what would you think is more appreciated by our children the quality time that we are giving them even if it's just little time or the quantity time, by just being there with them guide them in everything they do? i want to know your thoughts about this. [/b][b]
6 responses
• India
11 Dec 08
both my hubby and me work full time throughout the day. I am at least home by 6:30 in the evening but for hubby, it can be as late as 9 or 10pm. On top of that, he's having to tour a lot,lately. Our only child is 9yrs old and on many occassions he has just pleaded with me to give up my job and stay home for him. all my maternal instincts cry out to leave my job and just be at home to hug him when he comes from school. I know time flies so fast and within a blink of any eyelid he would be all grown up and have no need for me all the time. BUT the practical woman in me acknowledges the fact that we both are working through our nose just to secure our child's future and also not to depend on him in our old age. With money getting devalued steadily, we never really know whether we will be able to at all fulfil our promises but we can at least try. At times the going gets real bad, we all become frustrated with each other and specially kiddo gets cranky and accusses us of neglecting him. Then I have to explain so many things to him which would otherwise have been unneccessary. And in India, there's no good opportunity to earn from home the amount I bring in each month. However, I do try to make up...every evening I am home for him, I have no social life of my own. I make his favourite dinner and also try and be involved in his days at school, I take care of his education and other needs. In short, I try to be associated with him as much as I can. That's the best I can do right now.
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• Philippines
11 Dec 08
i can feel what you feel. it's really hard to just give up our job these days. but i salute you for doing your part as parent to your kid.. thanks for responding. god bless you.
• India
17 Dec 08
Thnx for the BR
@anyoung (75)
• India
13 Dec 08
This depend upon the age of the children, If the children is small than quantity time is the best option , other wise quality time cause grownup children don't like interference.
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• Philippines
14 Dec 08
you have a point in there. thanks for responding. keep posting.
@goodtogo (150)
• Pakistan
13 Dec 08
quality time is ofcourse more important than quantity time.but both have thier own importance.because quality is important in every situation but quantity of time is important in children's caese.
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• Philippines
13 Dec 08
yes you are right both of them are important. thanks for responding.
• India
11 Dec 08
Well, if the kiddies want all those lovely toys that their friends have and that high education, they had better get used to both Mom and Dad working. I think kids must be told exactly why Mom and Dad are working. :) Really, I don't see what the modern kids have to complain. They have more facilities than we ever did and more comforts too. In spite of this, if they whine that they don't see much of Dad and Mom....oh well, I dunno what to say. They should be taught to be thankful they have a Mom and Dad. So many kids haven't. Cheers and happy mylotting
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• Philippines
11 Dec 08
that's very true positiveminded. maybe the parents should have atleast talk to their kids about the matter. and kids should always acknowledge what ever their parents are doing for them, because parents know what's best for their children. thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. god bless.
• Philippines
11 Dec 08
balance everything, if you love your family then you have to look for money to support them, every time theirs an extra time then fill the time you have lost between your child and you, mornin or evening.
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• Philippines
11 Dec 08
that's a good point chiccobaby, i agree with you. thanks for responding.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
14 Dec 08
I would say quality time is most important. Although everyone would like to be with their children all the time,todays society doesn't really allow this. It's definately a two person income kinda world now. I think that giving your children good quality time is better than quantity by far. Even if you have all the time in the world it doesn't matter if you don't have open conversation and loving care.
• Philippines
14 Dec 08
i agree with you. thanks for sharing your thoughts. keep posting. have a nice day.