Do you think you could live with an EX

United States
December 12, 2008 5:00pm CST
I recently let my ex move in with me because he was in a bad situation, and I felt kinda obligated because he's my sons father. In no way do I want a relationship with him, but I find that we've been having a lot of the same arguements we had when we were together. I feel bad for him and all but I don't know how much longer i can live like this these arguements over money and the stuff he does is the reason I left in the first place. So do you think you could live with your ex??
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16 responses
@vanonas (950)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I don't think I'd be able to live with my ex. Especially if he wasn't financially stable. I don't let people mess with my money! But I see how you felt obligated since you two have a child together. Hopefully the situation gets better for you.
@lala766 (240)
• United States
13 Dec 08
I know what ya mean. You mess with my money and you are outta there. LOL
• Canada
13 Dec 08
I agree. If the kid wasn't in the situation, I would feel it's best to be apart. ---- http://free-playstation-3.blogspot.com/
• India
13 Dec 08
I think it might be difficult to live in with Ex because you will constantly come in front with the situation for which you had parted your ways. But, in your case the generosity that you have shown in bringing in your Ex to live with you is not because he is your Ex, but because you also think of him as your friend. And as for friends, there are no reasons or negativity in mind. So, I suggest you treat him as your friend instead of Ex and help him as long as you can.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
13 Dec 08
No way I could live with my ex! Your a bigger woman than me for even trying! I respect you trying to do good for your son's father but it's like being back in the same boat! It may even be a not so great thing for your son. It may make him think you and dad are getting back together.Good luck Louprincess!
@aviva08 (120)
• China
13 Dec 08
I don't think so.if there are bab habits,it is necessary to correct.The only moral obligation,not mandatory.
@andezurc (20)
• Philippines
13 Dec 08
Definitely NOT. That's why it's called an EX meaning the relationship has ended and why would you try to rekindle that by living together???
• United States
13 Dec 08
Well, if nothing else you are being reminded of why he is your ex. I would not let it go on too long though. Give him clear boundries and an "Exit Date"!! No I would never let an ex move in with me even if they were the other parent to my child.
• China
13 Dec 08
well...you are a kind person,that is why you let him move in with you again. but same happen as before you were together,means you made a right choice for let him. do not think too much now.see what if he will get better later,then ask him to move out.then your life will be calm again.try to help him out. what if he changed himself for you? will you be with him again in future? cheers
• United States
13 Dec 08
It truly just matters if you completely have no feelings for the individual. If you believe you and her or him are strong enough to move in with each other, then go for it. It usually, eight times out of ten never works.
@ShanLhey (165)
• Philippines
13 Dec 08
I think I can. But for some instances like arguments like money involved and I think some other people would be affected, I would just let him live the way he wanted. I must admit that I came from a broken relationship but it's really not a hindrance to your life. You must always go on and on. Life is too short, enjoy God's grace and make you day to days life more challenging and more meaningtful. Find love within yourself and soon love will get back to you. Have a happy life. Smile.
• India
13 Dec 08
Living with an ex is no big deal as you have lived with th eat perswon in the past too. You are aware of that person's ways and waywardness too is known to you. If you are living with your ex because of your own compulsions, then you have to bear with it, but if you are doing it out of pity for him/her then it may become difficult to put up with tantrums.
• Philippines
13 Dec 08
whew! that is difficult! hhmm..me? living with my Ex? well, i think i will not be able to live with him, though, you are right because he's the father of your son. about the arguments about the money thing, i felt bad because you are so kind to let him live with you... anyway, do not worry...i hope his financial situation will get better and discuss civilly on how to manage his support and finances.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
13 Dec 08
I'd probably let my ex stay with me on a short term basis in an emergency situation. I sure as heck don't think I could do it on a long term basis. I'm quite sure that the reasons why we split to begin with would become crystal clear within a short time. I don't think it would be a healthy situation for us.
@trickiwoo (2702)
• United States
13 Dec 08
I definitely don't think I could live with an ex. I mean, there's a reason you're not together anymore! If you can't even date someone anymore, it must be even worse to have to live with that person! Hopefully your ex will get back on his feet and you won't have to live with him anymore!
@lala766 (240)
• United States
13 Dec 08
I do not think I could live with my ex. We have too many bad issues LOL. But if he was in a jam I may be forced to help him out. If I did I would set limits. As far as how long he could be there. I think I would only be able to let him stay for 1-3 months, I would probably have him sign a contract as well.
@mindym (979)
• United States
13 Dec 08
It depends on which ex I would have to live with. I am still friends with a few of my boyfriends and could probably live with them, but there is at least one who I am not still friends with that I could not live with. I can't stand him and the things he does (at least when we were dating) which would lead to arguments. If I had a child/ren with the ex I can't stand, I would not let him move in with me because I can't stand him and would rather not be miserable in my own home with the things he does.
• United States
12 Dec 08
I could live with any of my exes,,,,simply because they know how I am. I like my home to be a peaceful sanctuary. Anything that disrupts that flow has to go. I have cohabitated with an ex briefly and it went well becaus ewe understood the ground rules about the money and sharing space. Maybe you guys need to come up with some sort of contract so that there are common rules for you to live by. That way if they are violated you can justify kicking him out.