my gandmother is a child?

@meipan (746)
Philippines
December 13, 2008 5:51am CST
did you ever encounter your grandparents acting like a child? well, my grandmother does. Actually, she's not too old but she seems to back in her younger age, not in a teenager age but in elementary... sometimes I thought if i give up my hair will become gray or white in just a short time... She's hard to please and always getting mad... please, I need someone to talk with it... give me some advise or opinion..
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7 responses
@srganesh (6349)
• India
13 Dec 08
It is common to see old people acting like child.Due to their old age,they lose some memory,lose mobility,lose patience,etc..They use to sleep late at night and get up early in the morning.It is because,they think their days are counted and want to live their life at the most.They are no more generous and expect more attention.It is very hard to tackle them.And sure,we too will act the same in our old age.With that in mind,find some time to be with them and make them feel important.
@muru1950 (964)
• India
13 Dec 08
My view also so as yours.At their age their only concern is whether someone cares for them or not.They will behave as if nobody cares for them.It is our utmost duty to make them believe that we do care for them.As you said,tomorrow we also will behave similar.After all they are not asking money.So can't we be affectionate to them?Let us spend some time with them and keep them happy.
@meipan (746)
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
you know what, we love and care too much for our grandmother but the point is she doesn't like us. she always wanted to be in her favorite son but unfortunately this son of hers is what you called the black sheep of the family... we tried our best to understand and support all her needs but in her eyes we're always wrong an of course we're the evil in her life.. i really felt sorry for my mother who suffer the most consequence.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
21 Aug 10
Well sometimes i feel my granny a child and i would say she is most beautiful teenager on earth
@meipan (746)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
My grand mother is really a beautiful woman even in her young and older age.. but time comes that she didn't care anymore about her appearance.. eventhough we bought her some new and presentable cloths she always chose those rugged dress... amp... I really don't figure out what's on her mind...
@rajesha20 (209)
• India
20 Dec 08
this is what we call 2nd childish life when u born it is ur first child where u r new to world u need some one to teach same way 2nd childish life u r very old to present world u need some one to teach about the current world which makes the grand parents to act like child
@meipan (746)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
actually i got your point but it's not too clear... can you elaborate further more?
@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
13 Dec 08
My first thought after reading your post was, " I have seen a lot of mature adults act like children". lol I see now that is not the true meaning of your question and this discussion. As a people age, it is not at all unusual for them to revert back to earlier life stages. As people age, often it becomes harder for an older person to move around, get out more, and socialize with others. Sometimes, they may be the only surviving person from a group of friends. As such, older people sometimes develop what we used to call "becomming senile" or what is now called dementia. Sometimes, what can occur is that the older person will revert back to an earlier time in their life which they remember. They may talk about childhood friends, forget that a loved one or family member has already passed on, or even seem to "go back" into their childhood. Some will even display behaviors that are characteristic of children. They may talk about people from their past as if they were here in the present. As dementia progresses they may also forget the names and faces of friends and family. All of this, it is very hard on the family emotionally. It's hard to see those we love and care about struggle physically, emotionally, and intellectually. If you have other family members it may help to talk to each other about it. That way you might be able to help one another through this very difficult time. You are right in thinking that you need someone to talk to about your Grandmother. If you are able to find a social worker or a counselor they may be able to give you some suggestions as well. Good luck to you.
@meipan (746)
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
as i read your response, I'd cried. maybe i didn't think that this will happen to us so early. thanks anyway...
• India
13 Dec 08
It happens because when the people grow old some sort of mind set gets change the only option left is take her to a doctor or take care of her well such that she has to forget herself and mingle with your family members
@cienna (50)
• Philippines
13 Dec 08
well, when people get old, they sometimes act like children. (as what was already said) it's because of loss of memory, mental alertness and patience. and most of the times, our grandparents need to feel important, they need our attention. that is why they like us to listen to them even if what they're saying have been repeated several times. irritating right? but just remember that they were the same grandparents and/or parents who took care of us when they were younger and stronger and we were "weaker?". we just have to understand them, anyway, we will also be old someday... God willing. i hope i was of help to your problem. welcome to mylot! happy mylotting!
@meipan (746)
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
thanks for your welcome. anyway, days after days problems are getting worst. she always sneak on us and my mother really worried about this... i hope i can help..
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
13 Dec 08
My grandmother has the tendency to act like a child but we have learned that it is better to ignore her and let her think we are listening to her then to tell her that we think she is false in what she says. My fiance has seen this himself.