Where does harmless flirting stop?

@SaintAnne (5453)
United States
December 14, 2008 11:30am CST
What is harmless flirting to you when you already have an "other"?
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8 responses
• India
14 Dec 08
Well, I think you need to be more descriptive with your question. As far as I understand if I already have a GF I still won't mind flirting with others. You never know you get a better one ;)
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
14 Dec 08
So you're saying your GF is replaceable? I just wanted to know how others define harmless flirting with other people besides their current boyfriend or girlfriend or partner or spouse. Thanks for the response, ashish.
• India
14 Dec 08
Well, I am not saying that she is replacable. What I am saying is I can have more than one at a point of time unless I get into a serious relationship ;)
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
14 Dec 08
Ah, I get it now ashish. Well, good luck with that. Thanks for sharing.
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• United States
14 Dec 08
I believe any form of flirting isn't really necessary. How hard is it to go into a store, grab the things you need and leave without stopping to have long meaningless conversations. Harmless flirting doesn't happen unless you let it. Meaning you like it.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
15 Dec 08
So flirting for you needs some kind of conversation, playmateshorty? What about just flipping your hair and winking? Thanks for sharing, playmateshorty.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Give playmateshorty a benefit of your doubt, Scoopy.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
16 Dec 08
You scared her away, Scoop. You and your humor!
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@weasel81 (2501)
• Australia
14 Dec 08
does mucking around count as flirting? i muck around with my bro inlaw and a few cloes friends, nothing serious. other wise i'm a real stick in the mud, and that can be quite a pain when it come to doing things. if it's a stranger your flirting with well it's a bit different, cause that could lead to trouble.
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• Canada
14 Dec 08
mucking around.. hmm could you explain that term I don't believe i"ve ever heard it lol,
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@weasel81 (2501)
• Australia
15 Dec 08
i usually put up a fight and be a real pain in the butt. cause i'm a stick in the mud on things. but i do like to play fight, and my work mate torments me, i'm now getting him back for it. he calls it picking on me, but i say different. my partner also says he likes me but injore a lot of it. back to story at hand. like we muck around by pinching hats, and standing on each other feet ocasionally, annoying each other. i know where it could end up if i'm not careful, but you've got to be relaxed sometimes and be a bit more open.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Thanks for defining mucking around, weasel. Like Amanda, I didn't know at first what that meant. I think if there is no malice whatsoever in this mucking around then it's not flirting? I have a couple guy friends and we're close and we even hold hands or I hold onto their arms when we walk around just like I do with my girl friends. Thanks, weasel, for sharing.
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• Canada
14 Dec 08
Harmless flirting stops the time you get a significant other. The reason why I say this is because flirting there are intentions there and can be mis-construed not only to the person your flirting with but to your 'other'. I say this because no one has esp and no one knows what your true intentions are.. harmless or not flirting is flirting and it should always stop out of respect for the person your with. It's not fair and I find it to be rude. That's my take on it :)
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
14 Dec 08
It's a very, very good take on the subject, Amanda. Thanks for sharing.
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• Canada
14 Dec 08
You are very welcome thank you for posting this interesting topic.
@shiloh_222 (5480)
• Philippines
25 Dec 08
hahahaha.. i just dropped by to say merry christmas since you know "duh" i am with these topics.. LOL.. miss u..take care.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
25 Dec 08
You can "duh" all your way through my discussions, shiloh. I always enjoy your input. I hope you are having a great one too. I think when things die down, I get to breath and be more active here and there again. Thanks for everything, Shiloh!
@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
17 Dec 08
I think it depends on if you really care about your significant other or if you don't see yourself lasting another two days. I mean, I think the most important aspect of this, to me, is, how would the one being flirted with feel if they know you have an other? I don't think I would sign up to flirt with someone who was taken, anyway.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
17 Dec 08
But would you assume right away (and most of the time) that whoever was flirting with you was single? Or you think right away that he may be already taken.
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• Philippines
15 Dec 08
for me harmless flirting is when your already having body contact with another when you already have an other...and when that happens i say that's the time it should stop because it will not be healthy and it will just lead tension to your other half
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Okay, so it's body contact for you, angel of charm. Thanks for sharing.
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@ganderlot (352)
• United States
14 Dec 08
I think flirting is healthy. I've been with my boyfriend almost 10 years now and I don't mind if he flirts and he doesn't mind if I flirt. I mostly mean smiling, talking nothing physical, but we could all use a little flirting makes everyone feel better. Regards
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Thanks, ganderlot. I do think of harmless flirting that way too but as you can see, different people see it differently as well.
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