My 20 Year Old Roommate Did The Unthinkable!!!

She is sabotaging herself. Maybe on purpose. Maybe subconsciously. But if she passes, she will have some expectations to meet. Lots of people set themselves up for failure so that they don't have to go beyond their comfort zones.

Though you can't get the Final Exam it is still ok as long as you were doing great with your previous periods. The result of the Final Exam is just part on the grades to be computed. Maybe your roommate is just really great in her class that she's confident not to take the examination.

the only one that can answer that is your room mate only she would know why she would not go to such an important thing as an exam unless she knew she was going to fail the course anyway and didn't care anymore.

Well I guess she did have a bad day that day that she could not afford herself to go there and take her final exam. But anyway just ask her and maybe she could better answer you than us in here. I am pretty sure she has some expalining to do how come she behaved liked that.

Maybe she was nervous and so did not go to the test. I often get nauseous when I am really nervous about something. It gets to the point sometimes where I get sick. If I'm hesitant to do something in the first place this makes me more likely to not do it. Also, people have different priorities. Just because its important to you doesn't mean its important to her. I've dropped out of many classes half way through in college for a variety of reasons. Often I suffer from depression and just find it too tough to go. anyways its really not that bad... lol I thought you were going to say she slept with your boyfriend or got drunk and ended up pregnant. If you really want to know.. talk to her.

Different people have different levels of tolerance when it comes to pain or feeling sick. If I was feeling nauseous I would not be able to go take a test. Just the fact that I felt bad would cause me to not do well on the exam. Also maybe she knew she could make the test up at another time. At any rate I don't think her actions were unthinkable.

First of all, I would surelly say that not giving an exam is not a very good thing. Eventhough you are good at class, but still you need to give exam. Because impression only work when you are sincere to what you do with your heart, instead of not showing up for them. This puts a wrong impression. Because teacher can only give you credits when you give exams. Eventhough you did not do well at the exam but atleast you came for it. And if you have good impression on your teachers then they can really help you pass the with some extra credits here and there. Your roomate really made a wrong decision. Hope to read your reply soon. Thanks Bye....

there are some people for some the level is just awesome. and i guess what she did is awesome. May be for her, something was more important than test.

I think what is important to you is not important to her. I think she blew it and it does not matter to her.

This semester I had a class of logic of programation and I started to study a lot and went very good on the first test. But with all the ups and downs my life passed I couldn´t study anymore and in the last exam I also didn´t go. I was feeling so frustrated and I knew I would fail that I simply prefered not to appear for the exam.

Hey there, new friend! Thanks for the best response!

maybe she had been exempted on the final exams and didn't mention it to you so you would react that way. hehe. what if she's playing you. it's just a possibility

Well sweety.....there could be a lot of reasons...She just might not be as responsible as you are...or may be she was really sick...We will never know for sure...Anyways take care!

Well, since I do not know your roommate I cannot tell you what motivated her to make the decision that she did. Perhaps, she was truly sick and made alternate arrangements with her professor. It seems to me that there are endless possibilities as to what prompted your friend to act the way she did it. What I am curious about however is why this bothers you so much. If he blew off the class and has now lost a credit for the course, those are the consequences of her decision. Perhaps she has changed her mind and now no longer wants to continue with psychology. In the end, you will never know why she's done what she did. If you are truly concerned about her, for example if you think she may be taking risks or be depressed in some way, talk to her and let her know that you're concerned about her. Otherwise, we can share our opinions and our thoughts with out friends but ultimately, we all have to make our own personal choices. As a side note, perhaps she has not completely blew off the course. As I was reading your question, I was reminded of a similar situation that I was in. I had a medical emergency and a couple of other things come up one semester during my studies, I was in the situation you mentioned above. Even after missing three weeks of tests and assignments, I was in a position to graduate from my program with distinction. For me it was important to graduate with distinction but my specific GPA was less important to me. So, as a result I chose to take zero on everything during the three weeks that I was away from school. Some of my friends were flabbergasted that I would choose this option. They could not understand why I would sacrifice up to as much as 10% of my final grade when I had already worked so hard. But for me personally, the number itself was not important. It was important to me that I had graduated with honors and that was enough for me. I have several friends who will agonize over a margin of 2 to 3%. Neither of us is is right or wrong in our approach to our grades we just value different things. So in the end, your friends over all percentage points may not be as important to her as they are to you. Also, she is the one who has to live with her decisions not you. With that being said, if you are just concerned about your friend, talk to her and let her know about your concerns perhaps she will open up to you. And if she chooses not to, maybe there's nothing wrong and maybe all you have to do is let it go at that. Good luck to you and Happy Mylotting!

Even if I didn't need to take the exam, I would have done it anyway. That way, I know I did everything possible to get the highest grade I could.

I would never have done that! I couldn't imagine going through a class and just missing the final exam. What would have all the other work been worth if you were just going to do that?! I can't speak for your state, but in my county's local colleges, you do that and you either fail the whole course or you just make a bad grade. I'm too particular with grades and stuff to find that acceptable. It sounds like something my sister would do though. lol

Wow, I am amazed at how concerned you are about this if you aren't good enough of friends to just ask her this yourself? Really, I think it would be more important to not worry about it if you aren't going to just ask her! There are a million reasons why she could do this, why would you sit around and judge her for not going? Who cares? It's her choice, not yours! She could be genuinely sick, deciding college is not right for her, confused about what major she wants to pursue, unable to afford the class, having family problems, etc. You need me to go on? She could really dislike her teacher, have already turned in all of the work and the teacher doesn't care about attendance, the teacher could be absent, the school could be under construction, the class could be canceled for lack of attendance, her dog ate her teacher...ok, maybe not that one! I'm not trying to yell at you, but really I think the question here should be why are you judging her, not why did she miss her class! If, however, you are not judging her for the sake of a conversation starter...and you really are concerned about her, just simply say to her that you are concerned she missed her class because in the past you realize how tough it is to make a class up, and you learned a lot of ways of coping with the stress. Ask her if she would like to hear your ideas, and that if there is anything she needs help with or wants to talk about you are willing to listen! If she says mind your own business, and gets mad at you for showing genuine concern just say you were only trying to help, but you respect her decision to not talk about it again and you will drop it! If she is paying rent she is 98% better than most of my roommates!

I am sorry dear...my wife so angry listen this discussion...so please...don't angry.

It is a pity that she lost her last final exam, my husband sister made the same mistake. She had been studiying for about two years and made exams, and the last final exam, which if she passed it she will had the qualification of a staff nurse, she let it go away. She said that she was fed up of nursing and she didn't want to study any more. Now she is only a health assistant,she lover her job but she could have been more. I think that some decisions can effect your life especially related to education, since once stopped studying it is difficult to restart again.