Have you ever dated anyone from an Internet dating site?

United States
December 15, 2008 1:52pm CST
I was curious if anyone here has ever dated someone from an Internet dating site? I did once a few years back before I met my husband. It was just one date, but one I couldn't wait to get over! LOL! He definitely didn't seem to be the same person I was conversing with on the site! After that I swore I would never do that again, and I never did! How about any of you...if you have, did it work out? What was your experience with it, good or bad. Rhonda
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@stejhas (209)
• United States
16 Dec 08
YES! As a matter of fact, I MARRIED HIM!!!!! We are truly an internet dating success story! We met on singlesnet.com and are now happily married with two kids! - I must say, internet dating really opened my eyes to the men I was seeking out.... I had no luck meeting genuine guys until my (now husband) started emailing me... I pretty much decided right away he was not my type, but I made friends with him. (I was a city girl, very much into preppy, self-absorbed city boys and he was a True Cowboy/Bullrider/Ranchhand - we couldn't have been two totally different people!) But, that friendship grew so strong that when he finally asked me out, I had already wondered 'what if'.... needless to say, our first date made me realize he was exactly the guy I truly wanted and needed in my life... he was, and still is, a true gentleman and my best friend.
• United States
16 Dec 08
What a terrific story! Congrats to both of you! I wish you two a very happy life together! Rhonda
• Canada
16 Dec 08
Aww thats so wonderful my post below says I met my boyfriend there. I was in the same boat, wasn't interested because I was a city girl and he was a hick ( country guy) but I surely fell in love with him. :)
@stejhas (209)
• United States
16 Dec 08
Congrats! I hope things work out as good for you as they did for us.... without my internet dating experience I KNOW I would have never dated a country boy... but I sure am glad I gave in and went out with him... Best thing that even happened to me! ;)
@jbrooks0127 (2326)
• United States
16 Dec 08
After I got over the divorce from my first wife I decided I would try the dating sites. I talked to a lot of women but most, if not all, were not close. My plan was to move back to my original home town so begin looking there exclusively. A woman....with my first wife's name...sent me a note. That blew my mind for a little bit but wrote back. At that time we were 300 miles apart. We begin writing on a regular bases and after time I went down over the weekend to see her. In the end...we ended up married a few months later. She was diabetic and had not taken care of herself so had medical problems...mostly eyes. Our marriage was good and I loved her dearly but within 5 years she passed away from a heart attack. Again time past and with the help of my family and a very good friend I begin to come to a point where I wanted to look again. After many first dates I found someone that I could not back away from. She really fascinated me. After several months of seeing each other we were married and are very happy I am thrilled to say. My experience with on-line dating is that if you are honest and never ever try to make yourself look better than you are you will go much further. And if...in looking...your expectations are not to find 'the one' you are then open to find the right one. I may have been lucky, I'm not sure, but for me it worked. I am not an outgoing person and older so bar's and nightclub's were out of the question. That left church and for a shy person it makes it very hard to let someone get to know you well enough to begin dating. It is very true that anyone can look great on the Internet and may be horrible. But as long as you do not have unrealistic expectations you will not set yourself up for failure. When we meet...no matter where...we always put on our best. So I would ask how different is that than what you may find on dating sites. My advice however would be to get to know that person really well before meeting and if something doesn't sound right call them on it or call it off. Women must be ever careful of this.
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• United States
16 Dec 08
Just an addition. My current wife had been single for 11 years before she saw something in me that made her trust again. It is never ever too late.
• United States
16 Dec 08
Awe...what a touching story! I am sorry to hear of the loss of your first wife, but am so happy to hear that you recovered and were able to find love again! Being honest and upfront is very important. I think this is so whether online or in person. Another great point you brought up was unrealistic expectations...I think so many of us do that and it does set you up for disappointment and failure! I found my husband when I wasn't even looking! He didn't even give me time to size him up to my expectations before he had my heart! I wish you and your wife the very best in everything life has to offer! Rhonda
@buxking (82)
• Bangladesh
16 Dec 08
Very interesting topic-innovative indeed!! I can see the responses! well,to speak the truth-for me it was not a solitary event!!!I dated 3-2 from Facebook & 1 from some matrimony site...my first two meeting did last jsut 1 hour,like u said they didn't seem to be the same person I met on the site!!!but the last one-o my my!! she was really good-definitely a precious finding!but she was married and mother of 1 issue!!!how unfortunate I am!!! now it's turn of myLot!!! is there anyone who wanna date me in real???lolzzzzzzz....
• United States
16 Dec 08
LOL! To cute! Maybe someone will read your post and take you up on it! Good luck! Rhonda
• Bangladesh
17 Dec 08
unfortunately u too got married earlier!!!:-((
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
16 Dec 08
No I haven't. And I don't feel like trying it as well. Cause first of, I already have a boyfriend and I feel like its hard to tell if the person is being true to you. Know what I mean?
• United States
16 Dec 08
You have a boyfriend so you don't need to be on one anyway! LOL! That's the mother coming out in me! Haha! Yes, I know what you mean. Hopefully, you'll never need one of those sites anyway! Rhonda
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
17 Dec 08
Yes mother...lol. Don't worry I don't plan to join those dating sites.
@Deadguy (53)
• United States
16 Dec 08
I've never used a dating site, but I did do it through online chatting. Here's the abridged version. First, I "dated" a girl that I never met, who lives in California (I'm in Florida). It was basically a lot of discussions together and we suddenly realized we were "becoming an item". She was rich, and about a year older than me (I was 23), with plans to retire in the following year. Long story short, she wanted to give me a place to live rent free, and was attractive judging by all the photos she sent, she suggested I could move-in with her pursue all my hobbies without getting another job, etc. Sound to good to be true? Yeah, me too, so I broke it off. Next, I met a chatter in Canada and lived with her up there for about a year and a half, but I couldn't get Canadian citizenship, so I couldn't get a job up there legally, so I was unloading iced meat trucks all day, etc.. I finally gave up and came back to Florida. Next, I met a girl in Baltimore that was pretty cool, but drove a car with "splat" on the license plate because she likes running over stuff like small animals. THat was a shock and a half, and I bailed out of that one quickly, we were together for about 2 months. Tired of travelling, I stuck to local chatrooms, one of the "city chats" they used to have on MSN. I wasn't actually looking for anyone, I was just looking for friends. I ended up marrying one of the women from there for 5 years before she broke it off due to some kinda' midlife crisis she developed (we're still good friends though). We were supposed to go to marriage counselling and stuff, but she preemptively decided to just terminate the marriage. For some reason, she wanted me to continue living there, but I bailled, and landed directly in the arms of another girl from that city chat. Her and I got a place together, and have been together now for about 3 years. I look at it this way.. people are people, and the ones I find that hang-out with me online are the ones who "want to beleive in love". They tend to be be like that, or they tend to keep their distance. I like that kind of person. In person, I don't stand a chance of meeting women like that because I'm absolutely not a social butterfly, and don't even drink. Best I could otherwise hope for would be a relaltionship with someone at work, and that's just bad news. I've dated offline ONCE, and although it's a fond memory, it really made me realize how inept I am socially with folks I don't already know to some degree. Turns out she was sleeping with her married boss those days, and I was a one night distraction that was SUPPOSED to be a one night stand, but I didn't even know it at the time, assuming that she only had an interest in friendship. However, actual dating sites? I wouldn't touch that with a ten foot pole. It's full of people trying to convince you (and themselves) that they are this wonderful person that they aren't. There's too many people deciding to "change their ways" and try to live up to being whatever it is they're trying to sell to you. Be yourself, socialize in whatever manner you prefer, and do it safely.
• United States
16 Dec 08
Interesting story! You said it in a nut shell though...Do it in whatever manner you prefer and do it SAFELY! Congrats on your last relationship! I hope it last a lifetime! Rhonda
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@anaknitatay (1335)
• Philippines
16 Dec 08
I didn't date anyone from an internet site but I did date someone I met on a chatroom once. I liked her but it was very awkward.
• United States
16 Dec 08
Yup, they are awkward alright! LOL! Thanks for sharing with us! Rhonda
@Elkeliini (265)
• Finland
16 Dec 08
yep... and now almost 2 years later we are still together. so I guess it can work out. it was love on first sight (if you do not count the picture on the profile) and we didnt talk either for ages online, but agreed a meeting quite fast. makes it a lot easier and you dont raise expectations that way. a real date will tell you much faster if the person is ment for you or not.
• United States
16 Dec 08
Very true! Harder for them to play games and put on an act in person! Best of luck to both of you! Rhonda
• Canada
16 Dec 08
Well I am currently dating a guy I met on plenty of fish. I met him in person over a year ago and we started dating in April 08. I was new to town and he was new as well to town. We hit it off on the net and talked for a good 6 months before I gave in and decided to meet him. I was scared because I knew we liked each other but I wasn't ready to date. I hadn't dated in 3 years because I was waiting for someone who wouldn't be a waste of time. If it wasn't for that site I wouldn't have met my best friend. And thank god for that site because he is amazing and were perfect for each other.
• United States
16 Dec 08
Everything happens for a reason! That's great and I wish the two of you the very best! Rhonda
• China
16 Dec 08
i also have one bad experience when i was 18.first we talked with each other everyday,he said he ws 20 and he also sent me photos,a very handsome boy.so we decide to meet each other .you know,in my country,people think it;s very dangerous to meet a friend from internet.i also worried a little,so i let my roommate went with me .when we saw that man who is bald-headed and fat,old.i havent shown up and ran away,what a awful thing! so i never do it again
• United States
16 Dec 08
You were very wise to bring someone with you! I'm sorry you had to experience something like that, but now you have something to share with people that may help them be aware and be safe! Rhonda
• Philippines
16 Dec 08
Yeah, I've dated a girl from the internet. It was really heaven. She brought me to cloud 9. It was such a wonderful experience.
• United States
16 Dec 08
Cloud 9 is a nice place to be! I've been there! LOL! Rhonda
• Malaysia
16 Dec 08
There are quite numbers of successful stories about internet dating around my friends. Some went into serious relationship and end up in marriage and some did not do well also. I never tried internet dating as it feels like virtual relationship rather than actual, where you can really know the person. Everyone is wearing mask to disguise themselves in the net until you personally meet up with each other. You would thought that he/she is perfect before you meet up with him/her. The perception and expectations are so high that you can easily get turn down after you get along with him/her.
• United States
16 Dec 08
True...been there, done that! LOL! Thanks for responding! Rhonda
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
16 Dec 08
Hello joerhonda! I dated someone from the internet dating site and now he is my husband already. We just married last July and I never regretted marrying him. He is still the same man that I talk to online. I guess those who want to try internet dating site, they should be very cautious because only few people are true there.
• United States
16 Dec 08
Awesome! I pray your lives are filled with many blessings! Rhonda
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
15 Dec 08
i went out with a guy that i had met online and he was a major player! i am like you, it so wasnt worth the agrivation! but i have a friend who met and married a guy that she met online, so it just depends, i guess eh?
• United States
15 Dec 08
I guess it just depends on the people is right! LOL! That's great news for your friend though! Congrats to her! Rhonda
@luvandpower (2049)
• United States
15 Dec 08
I dated this girl once off of Myyearbook. We actually went out for a while, but we kidn of broke it off after we measured it was like 40 miles to each other's houses. Also she wanted a commitment I didn't:) I like to be a free bird so to speak. Also, I know what you mean about the personality, online I am more open-minded and funny sometimes...but in real life I am like anti social and am really shy.
• United States
15 Dec 08
LOL! I know what you mean. It's easy to hide behind a computer screen. Kind of like a false sense of security. Rhonda