If your guy friend will give a special gift this christmas, what does it mean?

@jlamela (4909)
Philippines
December 15, 2008 10:00pm CST
I have a guy close friend, well, I already ask him what am I to him several months ago and he said "just a friend" and I told him to stop treating me special so that I won't keep assuming that he likes me too, he agreed anyway. Now that christmas season is around the corner, he told me he has something special to give. Last week, I was searching in a bookstore for Breaking Dawn book, the last of the 4 series of Twilight, but I couldnt find one because it was already sold out. Then just yesterday, this friend of mine order Breaking Dawn through Amazon online and give it to me as his christmas present, I know how expensive it is to order such a book in online shopping. Now I am thinking if he likes me because of that sweet effort or what?I am confused with his motives anyway, what do you think?
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13 responses
• United States
16 Dec 08
It probably doesn't help you clear things up but one time I had a close guy friend who insisted we were just friends, same as yours. He asked me what I thought he should get his brother's girlfriend for Christmas. I suggested chocolates and he said no, chocolates are something you give your own girlfriend, not your brothers. Then he bought a box for me. *shrug* I think we (girls, women, ladies, females, whatever you prefer) tend to read too much into the actions and behaviors of our guys. My friend probably couldn't think of (or afford) anything more for me than chocolates and your friend may have just decided that a book he knew you wanted was easier than guessing and ending up with something completely off base.
@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
17 Dec 08
Thanks a lot. I like your comment, it helps clear some of my doubts and anxieties. Godbless!
@rsa101 (15541)
• Quezon City, Philippines
16 Dec 08
It is never confirmed until the day that he will declare it to you. So better not be assuming what you are thinking until he does it already. First things first is that since you already declared what he is to you then maybe he is withholding back his feelings for you since he is afraid to lose you even as a friend. If the gift is special to you then maybe you should try clarifying things up with him if you want. But be a good friend to him always no matter what he will tell you in the future.
• Taiwan
16 Dec 08
yeah..some guys are mostly too good to be true. sometimes we think that the special treatments theyre giving or showing are into something. but mostly they are not..they just want you feel happy and special at thesame time.thats why most of my friends are guys..but its better for you to ask than wondering around..afterall, what friends are for..
@chenaiyh (228)
• China
17 Dec 08
well,dose he treat other person in the same way? I mean,perhaps,he just a kind people,and he always try his best to do with his friend? if he only do this for you,i agree that he really like you.
• United States
16 Dec 08
Have you ever consider that he just a nice guy who only wants your friendship and nothing more? He just cares about you and like as a friend. He got it for you because he knows how much it means to you.
• Philippines
16 Dec 08
I think he really thinks you are special. Personally, I have male friends who are close to me too but they dont buy me a twilight book (i wish!) or anything like that. Even if it isnt declared, I guess you are still special in his eyes. Actions speak louder than words.
• Singapore
16 Dec 08
I don't think that he meant anything by that.It's something close friends do, don't they? Go the extra mile to make you happy. :) so i guess don't assume anything by it. i know i would go and buy that friend a gift that she would like extremely, even if its expensive. i would think it's worth the friendship, don't you?
• China
16 Dec 08
you think too much ,maybe he just want you to be his good friend . here`s a kind of relationship which more than friendship and less then lover . maybe you are that kind of friends
@jen003_ (34)
• Philippines
16 Dec 08
Maybe because you mean a lot for him...coz he does everything for u just to buy that book! Maybe he never think how expensiveit is...so that's why he try his best to make u feel u are special..
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
16 Dec 08
Well, he already told you that "you are just his friends" so better not to think anymore since he already answer your question.. This will also help you to not expect for to him and not to assumed something so that in the end you won't be hurt.. I know that it really makes you crazy to understand why you were so special to him for doing that kind of effort to you.. But just to keep it safe and peace in mind better not think so hard about the things he is doing.. Its better to wait and confirm it when he finally said that he likes you more than a friend but since he didn't say it and didn't come out from his mouth better not expect anything because if you keep on expecting and find out the truth which is the opposite, the more you will be hurt.. I have experienced it before but I was too assuming of the things he is doing for me.. Its really hard to know and understand the actions of other people especially for those people who is very special for you.. They said, actions speaks louder than words, for me words is better to hear than feeling or seeing the actions because sometimes, actions are not that true than words.. Of course, its more good if action and words will come together for better and clearer understanding..
• Philippines
16 Dec 08
I think it's better for you to ask him, why he is treating you so special, is it only for friendship or more than that? hope this will help..
@piya84 (2591)
• India
16 Dec 08
u better stop assuming anything on the basis of gifts.
@mariposaman (2967)
• Canada
16 Dec 08
Most guys that are treating a girl that special is hoping for more. However they might be satisfied in being just a friend if that is all there is. Maybe one day you will either want to deepen the relationship or discard it, they usually do not stay at the same level forever. Either you will find someone and move on or he might. I guess in the meantime you can enjoy the friendship as long as things do not become creepy.
@shooie (4986)
• United States
16 Dec 08
It is always nice to ave sepcial friends like that girl or guy. I married my best friend. But try not to read to much into the gift and the friendship because you can put a lot a stress on the relationship. Enjoy it and if it blossoms into something else awesome if not then you will have an awesome friend. I don't see a motive I do the same for friends of mine and doesn't mean anything but friendship. Just relax and stay you and let time play out. Like I said you think about it or ry to read more into it then well stress can kill a relationship or even a friendship so chill and enjoy your time with him.