How many new friends are there waiting to be approved by you in your profile

By Bala
@balasri (26577)
India
December 17, 2008 12:55am CST
[b][/b] right now? What are the criteria you have for approving them?
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69 responses
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
17 Dec 08
Right now sadly I do not have any friends waitng for my approval.Usually if I liek the response or a discussion stared by a person ,I invite him or her as my friend.Age ,nationality,gender,etc are not at all considered by me.But if I have any pending friend request,I just take a glance at the profile and then add as friend.Usually I am not keen to add too many people as friends at a stretch.I prefer to get to know the persons I have added through interaction and try to establish a rapport with them..But sadly most people whom I add as friend just remain dormant...They neither start new discussions or respond to mine.....And very few remain active all the time....
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@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
17 Dec 08
I agree with your view point.
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@Sreekala (18788)
• India
17 Dec 08
Hi Rose, I remember your advise so now I am not sending any requests but only add those who requested to my friendship. I have many friends now don't get time to interact with them but I am trying my best to respond to their discussions.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
17 Dec 08
What made you accept my request to be your friend Rose?
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@quinnkl (1668)
• United States
23 Dec 08
None at the moment. I have been checking more often to be sure I get them approved. I don't have a criteria. When I get a friend request I approve them. I figure all the friends I can get are a good thing. I just have always done it this way. The more the merrier!
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@balasri (26577)
• India
24 Dec 08
You are right .It is always good to have good friends around you.
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• Canada
22 Dec 08
noone... no friends:(
@balasri (26577)
• India
24 Dec 08
Well I am your friend from now on.
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@mayka123 (10052)
• India
22 Dec 08
I approve every request that I get without looking at the profile. And I check on the pending friend request everyday. It is just once that I have regretted for accepting a friend here on mylot. But luckily the guy disappeared soon.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
25 Dec 08
I had a bad experience like that too.But the vile one is not to be seen nowadays.Sigh!
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
17 Dec 08
There are 11 pending still. I usually go by their profile, how active they are and what discussions they have started. This pretty much gives a fair impression of the person. I accept the users who have decent approach. Sometimes it gets difficult, for they are newbies and I wait in those cases. I hardly deny any newbie here.
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@Sreekala (18788)
• India
17 Dec 08
Hi Mimpi, Once I requested to you and waited for two weeks but neither you accepted nor you denied my request. Please let me know, does it mean that I was 'indecent'.
@balasri (26577)
• India
17 Dec 08
I feel very proud and happy that you accepted me as a friend and I have passed those many acid tests.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
18 Dec 08
Sreekala I do not have idea what are you talking about!! Sometimes, I do take time due to several reasons. But if you choose to withdraw your request, you must be having your reasons. I would rather not be judgmental like you are being here. Thanks. Happy mylotting.
@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
17 Dec 08
In the morning, two requests were pending, out of which, I accepted one, the other one is under consideration. Normally, when I receive a request for 'add', I just check the profile of the member. I mainly see the profile of the member to check, what kind of discussions he/she starts or responds, irrespective of his/her place of origin. It is true that most of the members, whom you add, do not appear to respond to your discussions and it so happens you also do not respond to their discussions. When such kind of interaction does not take place, there is no fun in continuing with the fellow, I just review my list of friends, periodically and those I find are 'inactive' for quite a long time (say atleast six months) I normally 'delete' their names from my list. I feel that short list of 'active' friends is more useful than a long list of 'inactive friends'.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
17 Dec 08
Wow! Now Deepak is a little strict.For the good too.
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@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
18 Dec 08
Am I not adopting the right approach, Bala!
@balasri (26577)
• India
18 Dec 08
You can never be wrong.That is not your forte.I know you.
• India
25 Dec 08
I don't have any new new friends to approve or deny just right now. I approve all mylot members who want to be my friends. And I send friend request to those whose discussions are of my interests for sharing together different topics and matters.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
25 Dec 08
You must be having a lot of mylot friends right now.Don't you?
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• India
25 Dec 08
I have only 44 friends and most of them are active in discussions here. By the way Merry Christmas to you.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
27 Dec 08
Thanks a lot.Merry Christmas and a great New year to you too.
@cupid74 (11397)
• Pakistan
24 Dec 08
Hi well to be honest they are 3 normally i accept friends request, but now i wait. these are friends with zero or 1 post and since one week there is no change so i wonder whats fun to have them as friend sas they are not going to participate Take care
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@balasri (26577)
• India
25 Dec 08
You are very right Cupid.Adding those non performers to your list of friends will only make it swell very big and hard for us to go through it again to search for the ones we seek.
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@cupid74 (11397)
• Pakistan
26 Dec 08
very true and agreed with u take care and enjoy
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@SViswan (12095)
• India
15 Feb 10
lol...none at the moment..I had two yesterday, though. Earlier, I would check the profile and the discussions they have started and the discussions they have responded to ...before I added them. I needed to know if they were like minded or were they just trying to get someone for their spams. But now I don't really bother. I add everyone who requests and will just remove them if they are a bother to me.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
16 Feb 10
Yeah we mellow with Mylot.We never give in to our impulsiveness anymore after all these years here.Have we become wise or numb?
@sweety_81 (2129)
• India
24 Dec 08
Well; I have 1 friend on my waiting list . I do not have any fixed criteria . Still; I prefer those who have commented or responded to some of my discussions . Regards
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@balasri (26577)
• India
25 Dec 08
Right.No use of making friends with the inactive ones.
@GreenMoo (11842)
21 Dec 08
None at all are sitting waiting for approval in my profile. I always check anyone out the moment I notice them there. If someone is kind enough to ask to be my friend, the least I can do is acknowledge them quickly. I take a quick look at a prospective friend's profile and recent discussions and responses, and will normally approve them unless there is anything there that's untoward. Normally I'd only be concerned if someone was starting discussions along the 'which do you prefer...' lines, or if they are obviously trying to promote something via myLot.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
22 Dec 08
Right.There is no reason to reject them unless they are into some mischief.
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@SViswan (12095)
• India
18 Dec 08
None. I get one or two friend requests once in a couple of months and I take a cursory glance at their profile and accept or reject them(which is rare) within a few days. I don't really have a criteria for approval. I approve most of them but sometimes if I find something I do not reallylike or accept in their profile, I reject them. If I feel the person is trying to make more friends to promote money making sites, I don't accept them either.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
19 Dec 08
Hope those types of persons get the message.
@apsara60 (6613)
• Israel
17 Dec 08
Dear Bala, I never keep anybody in waiting.As soon as I see a friends request, I immediately accept it........I cannot hurt anybody by denying or by keep them in waiting list....Besides till today, I did not fall into any trouble due to this kindness of mine...Nice to see you after long time.....
@balasri (26577)
• India
17 Dec 08
Nice seeing you too.Hop in as much as you can Apsara.
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@apsara60 (6613)
• Israel
17 Dec 08
Yeah I really love hopping and jumping, specially when I see you and mithra....but then I control myself....
@balasri (26577)
• India
17 Dec 08
Who makes you hop and who is the other who makes you jump please?
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@nanajanet (4437)
• United States
18 Dec 08
I approve everyone and only delete them if they spam me or have posts that are obviously made solely for the object of making money and not thought-provoking, like yours. I have no one waiting as I approve them right away.
@balasri (26577)
• India
19 Dec 08
Have anyone of them ever spammed you?
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@nanajanet (4437)
• United States
19 Dec 08
Yes, two of them. I reported them to the administration of myLot and removed them from my list, after I pmed them that I was not happy and that I had reported them.
@balasri (26577)
• India
19 Dec 08
Serves them right.The right thing to do.
• United States
18 Dec 08
None right now, I did have about 4 people who wanted to hang with me and my wild conversations. I usually have about 1 a day after I start a new conversation or revive some old discussions. I look over their discussions to see what they want to talk about or I look at their interests.
@balasri (26577)
• India
20 Dec 08
Will you consider me too after going through my profile?
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• United States
20 Dec 08
Done and done.
@balasri (26577)
• India
21 Dec 08
Thanks a lot friend.
@Lindalinda (4116)
• Canada
17 Dec 08
I am embarassed to say I have quite a few friends requests in pending. I usually look at their profile and wait a bit to see what kind of questions they ask or what kinds of responses they give. I don't like rude or extreme comments. I also don't approve friends who give their age as 7 years old or 90 years old and then post about their children, girl friends or boyfriends. I don't approve people who say they are male and then post as female or the other way around. Why do you ask? I know this is the internet and people can be whoever they want to be but in a discussion forum like Mylot a certain trust in people adds to the enjoyment of participating in discussions. So if someone misleads me right from the start I am not really interested. I am happy to say I have very good friends on my list and believe what they tell me.
@balasri (26577)
• India
18 Dec 08
I like your attitude.Will you be my friend please.
• Canada
18 Dec 08
yes of course I will.
@balasri (26577)
• India
20 Dec 08
@razcal2267 (15577)
• United States
17 Dec 08
At the moment I have only one. Yesterday I had 12 but declined all but two as I don't need friend collectors. It is easier for me to say why I wont add someone. I do not add friend collector. You know the ones that have 1200 friends but only like 30 discussions replied to and none started. I also will not add those who like to flame or post nothing but news articles trying to pass them off as their own words. The list goes on but you get the drift.
@balasri (26577)
• India
17 Dec 08
But why are they collecting friends?It beats me.
@razcal2267 (15577)
• United States
17 Dec 08
I have no idea but I don't need to help them in that quest.
@balasri (26577)
• India
18 Dec 08
@Sreekala (18788)
• India
17 Dec 08
Balaji, I don't have any friend's request pending. After signing in mylot first thing I am doing to clear my requests then only I do any other works here. I add them after checking their profile. I never denied any request till now. I think friend's support is very necessary in mylot and so far I don't get any requests from those who are idle. It is my pleasure to support everybody in Mylot and is doing what I can.
@balasri (26577)
• India
17 Dec 08
The sad part is most of them are inactive and not interested in midway and vanish.
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@Sreekala (18788)
• India
18 Dec 08
Yes Balaji, I think I have to find out time for deleting those inactive friends.
@balasri (26577)
• India
21 Dec 08
It is better to free the clutter every now and then.
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@bhanusb (5709)
• India
18 Dec 08
I approve all who want my friendship.
@balasri (26577)
• India
19 Dec 08
You are very generous.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
19 Dec 08
Thank you.
• India
18 Dec 08
There are no friends for me to add because i hardely get a friend request because i think people will not find my profile intresting i will try to make my profile intresting and see weather people add me or not
@balasri (26577)
• India
18 Dec 08
Add some light to your profile and Avatar friend.
• India
18 Dec 08
sure i will