Would you tell your friend that she has a bad breath?

@Masmasika (1922)
Philippines
December 17, 2008 9:08am CST
I think this is the hardest thing to tell a friend. I will think a hundred times before telling my friend that she is bad breath. it is not only very offending but it is a threat to our relationship. The first thing that I must consider before telling this to my friend is how my friend would take it if I tell her directly that she has bad breath. Some people are offended if told the truth. Others would be thankful. The best way to do this is to say it in the best manner you can or if you can't say it, then find a way to let her realize it. I think everybody knows when she or he has this thing and you could start a discussion about it. Find out if she knows that she has this then if she asks for your help then suggest some ways to cure it.
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23 responses
• United States
21 Dec 08
Okay i think getting offended by someone, whether friend or not, telling me i have bad breath is so stupid. I would be thankful. I would hate to be talking to someone and them having to hold there breath or something because my breath stinks. I always tell friends if they have bad breath or something stuck in there teeth.
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• India
17 Dec 08
hi there,,,, ya i would have certainly told my friend about the bad breath problem ,,,,we shouldnt be afraid or shy to tell something to our friends,,,,,,friends are meant for this only dear,,,,,,,well i should have consulted my friend to pay a visit to a dentist otherwise the problem can get serious
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• United States
17 Dec 08
If you are friends there should be no problem. You take out a mint and insist as nicely as possible that they take it. If they refuse then you have to break the news to them. There are lots of causes of bad breath, os if your frined has an issue with dental work, sinus drainage, or simply a bad case of halitosis then they need to be aware that they could be offending the noses of other people too. Friends don't let friends stink!
@jessi0887 (2794)
• United States
17 Dec 08
I haven't before. Kind of wouldn't want to, but i think about something related. If you tell your friend something like that she may tell you something you don't know. Like maybe you don't wear enough deodorant or dont brush your hair good enough. I am saying your advice towards her may lead to advice towards you. It may be helpful. But i wouldn't want to offend a friend.
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• Philippines
17 Dec 08
I guess this is not hard if you really know what's the right time to tell your friend. If you are that close with your friend then might be you can tell it straight in front of his/her face. But if you are not that close then try making a conversion that will lead to telling him/her about his/her breathe. Bottom point, nothing would be hard if you think you can. Right? Hehe.
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• United States
23 Dec 08
i have been thinking about this for awhile because i know some one that is a super freak when it comes to trying to be healthy so i dont know if its their diet or what but that person always has awful breath.. i thought maybe it was just once in awhile but its not and i seriously think it might be the health food stuff this person eats but i dont know what to say to that person.. eat unhealthy?? the whole family eats that way and it is the whole family that has it.. they arent the type to use mints or anything so i woudlnt know what "healthy" thing i could suggest and they would prob say i was trying to make excuses for not wanting to eat healthy lol
• India
18 Dec 08
One of the most effective ways I have found about telling a person about some thing is in telling them the thing about a third person and then telling them how one can get rid of that problem. Then tell then how you got rid of the problem as you to had a similar problem for a while. i am sure your friend will wonder if she should also do the same thing. This is the best way I found.
@dana820 (277)
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
Absolutely! I can't totally say that I've got not-so-sensitive friends with regards to this topic but we always help each other out. So pointing out that their (or my) hair's out of whack or asking if they've had some onions today always fall under the category of watching each others' backs. I guess it's the same thing like seeing your pal come out of the restroom with tissue sticking on the bottom of their shoe and saying something before any one else sees it too. I suppose that "thinking about it a hundred times before telling" would apply to my acquaintances. In that case, I would not say a word. What I would do is take out my mints (I always have a box in my purse, anyway), pop a couple in my mouth and then offer them some -- no muss, no fuss. :D
• China
18 Dec 08
In my opinion, you are not a frank friend. TO tell the truth does not mean that you mean to offend your friend. It means you are care for him/her. think about it, if he/she is not told by you, but by others who are not familiar, how embarrance he/she is. What is more,sometimes people have a bad breath may be a sign of some illness in their body,esp, their stomach. For me, I will tell him/ her directly. good for everyone. A NICE DAY!1
@kiran8 (15354)
• Mangalore, India
18 Dec 08
Hi Masmasika ,I agree with you wholeheartedly.I feel that it is better to tell your friend about the bad breath.You are actually helping her out by telling so that she can rectify it, get herself treated or whatever.There are chances that she will be shunned by others too and she may never realise the reason unless told.
@kedves (728)
18 Dec 08
I would tell them straight away and say it as a joke like .. hey wow what have you been eating today ? and smile .. it will lead to conversation about the smell and hopefully they will do something about it .. :) good luck :)
@adenkay (38)
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
i have friends, actually, who have bad breaths. but i didn't mention it to them because I'm afraid to start a conversation about that. they may be offended or what. I'm still looking for the right time. :)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 08
Of course i will tell her , but the way how you tell her should not hurt her self-respect .
@maroseqf (3657)
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
I think it is hard to do because some people might get offended by it but if you are really close friends, you will know how to tell your friend about it. I think a good friend does not only tell you what is good about you but rather also tell you bad things about you so that you can change. Being true and honest is one of the qualities of real friends. So if ever one of my friends has bad breath, I will tell that friend of mine in a nice way. I know that particular friend will not take it against me and will definitely thank me for being honest.
@dookie03 (578)
• United States
18 Dec 08
I would let them know. I know it's kind of embarrasing at first but after that first initiative of bad breath then your more self consciece and don't get in people's faces or at least start chewing gum to cover your bad breath. I know that's what i do when i get told and i'm sure that's what you would probably do. So i actually like it when someone tells me.
@Calais (10900)
• Australia
18 Dec 08
yeah for sure I would say omething....I dont see how on earth it would be a threat to the friendship, geez if I had bad breathe Id wanna know for sure, they would probably get into trouble for not saying anything...lol.. I smoke and I know I smell, my friends tell me all the time, I dont take it to heart, Ill just chew a mint while Im talking to them...No big deal at all.
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
If you really a friend to her, you must tell her directly but in a nice way. It will hurt her more if other people will tell her, questions will bother her if you know the she has bad breath and why not telling her. True friend can understand and need not to be offended.
@j47lee (742)
• Canada
17 Dec 08
That is an awkward situation... i wouldnt tell him/her.. its kind of embarassing.. maybe quietly offer him a chewing gum.. hhhe.. and have one urself.. so u're not insulting him...
@vanonas (950)
• United States
17 Dec 08
It depends on how close of friends we were whether or not I would tell her or how I would tell her. If we weren't that close and were more of acquaintences I would probably get a piece of gum out and start chewing and offer her one too. Or a mint because that would probably work better. If it were a closer friend of mine I'd probably say, "did you eat garlic or something!?! your breath stinks!" hahaha
@mkmoney (468)
17 Dec 08
my mate has bad breath but he knows he has so i just offer him a extra chewing gum. LOL coz just tellin him dont help!