Words of Wisdom From My 7-Year Old Grandson

United States
December 17, 2008 6:52pm CST
My Daughter called me last night. She has been calling me a lot since her Father passed away. Losing a loved one at this time of year is very difficult. Her Father passed away November 9th. My Daughter started crying as she told me how much she missed her Father. I told her that I missed him too. He really was the rock of the family. My Grandson asked her why she was crying. She told him that it would be the first year that she wouldn't be with her Father at Christmas. My Grandson said that his Grandfather was now an Angel and he no longer had cancer or was sick all the time. He was looking down on us and watched us from heaven. He loved us. This brought comfort to my Daughter. It did for me as well.
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@ElicBxn (63233)
• United States
18 Dec 08
What an insightful child, too bad he'll have to grow up and become a teenager some day....
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• United States
18 Dec 08
Teenagers are scary people.
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• United States
18 Dec 08
They are so easily influenced by others. No matter how hard you try, they seem to take that path you wish they wouldn't take.
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@ElicBxn (63233)
• United States
18 Dec 08
I know it... I was one of a few that managed to not have too much peer pressure, because I didn't get along with my peers....
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@j47lee (740)
• Canada
18 Dec 08
That is such a cute child..... i wanna hug him... hug him for me pls hehehe..
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@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
19 Dec 08
Oh your seven year old grandosn is a very wise for his young age. Pretty smart to. I hope you gave him a big hug and let him know how much those words meant. I tear sright now because what he said was very very sweet.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
18 Dec 08
that is so beautiful, my son was three when his father and I were going through a divorce, I was crying one night and he woke up and came into the living room and asked me why I was crying, I told him it was because his father was gone away and he answered, don't cry mommy you still have me.
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• United States
19 Dec 08
That is so sweet.
@mflower2053 (3223)
• United States
20 Dec 08
That was sweet. I do believe our loved ones stay for a while to look over us. For the longest time my daughter would tell me that she would see my grandmother around the house. My great grandmother visited me more then once after she passed. Sorry for your lost we also lost someone in our family in November on the 20 to be exact. She lost control of her car. It flipped over on top of her and killed her. She was so excited she was going to be 18 in 2 weeks and she was finally on her own at college. Very smart happy girl. My grandmother passed away 2 years ago on November 19. So she passed the day after. We didn't expect it and she touched so many people in her life. She will be missed and this Christmas will be hard without her around. She was the life of the party.
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@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
18 Dec 08
Oh how sweet was that for him to tell his mother. It is amazing what little kids will say and especially when we don't think they really understand what all is going on or that they aren't paying attention to us.
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• Philippines
18 Dec 08
Kids around that age are very optimistic.I wish I could have his optimism so that I won't be feeling so depressed.I lost someone too last month but I have faith that we'll still be together for Christmas and thatis possible.After all,faith is everything in a prayer.
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@Modestah (11179)
• United States
18 Dec 08
my condolences on your loss - I understand your daughter's grief - as I lost my father last year about the same time. The pain and grief are not as sharp and poignent as they were last year - but they are still there. I called Mom today and got the answering machine. It was Daddy's beautiful/loving voice that greeted me - welp that did it. I sobbed "I miss you Daddy"
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
18 Dec 08
Out of the mouths of babes comes the most innocent...truthful things...and now comforting. He truly is a very smart person to be able to comfort his mother like that! Good for him!
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
19 Dec 08
Children have amazing wisdom sometimes. The other night my husband and I were arguing and, although I admit it is not good to do so in front of kids, I ran into my room because I felt really angry with my husband. She followed me in and kept putting her little arm around me and asking me what was wrong (she is also 7). She said, "Did Daddy upset you? I'll go talk to him." I didn't have time to say to her that it is not her job to sort out mummy and daddy's problems. She left the room only to return a couple of minutes later with my husband in tow. She told him to sit next to me and she said, "Right you two, are you going to forgive or are you going to split up? Well which is it? Mummy? Daddy? I suggest that you forgive" My husband and I looked at each other in surprise and we could not hold back a smile. Needless to say we kissed and made up right there and then.
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
18 Dec 08
Hello Elusive,yes sometimes kids have a way of simplifying things and accepting things with their own simple logic....And the way your grandson explained his grand dad's absence,it does make sense in away,isnt it......He (the granddad) was no longer suffering from any illness and was watching over all of you.......So its best to be happy thinkiing of him,as a person fee from illness and suffeirng, rather than mourning about him...Quite a sensible way of accepting facts,isnt it......
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@nadooa247 (1096)
• United States
18 Dec 08
That is one wise little guy! Sometimes it seems children can be so intuitive when it comes to what we may deem "adult" situations. I don't think us grown ups could have put those thoughts/words of his in any better way. Well said little guy. The holidays are always the hardest time of year. First _______ fill in the blank without that loved one is truly hard. That is how it has been for our family with our grandfather. So i am somewhat at ease knowing my grandmother is surrounded by people that love her and remind her of it (she lives in another country).
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@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
18 Dec 08
I am touched by your grandson. And you must be proud that his wisdom is the result of the family's influence, either by words or by deeds. I also have a grandson, 5 years old. When I was ill, he would tell me to drink more water, and have a good rest, which was quite comforting to me. Kids are refection of their parents and the education he receives along the way. Good luck to him!
• United States
18 Dec 08
children really can bring you up at times like this! i hope yall have a good christmas even though it seems like its not possible without him!
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
18 Dec 08
God Bless that 7 year old for such great comforting words. HAPPY HOLIDAYS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@kaka135 (14916)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 08
Sometimes, kids see things clearer than we do. Sometimes, we really need to learn from them, as they are viewing things simple, not in a complicated way. Yeah, what he said is really great. It's sad to hear about your husband, but with such a great grandson, I hope you all will enjoy celebrating the Christmas. Be happy always! ^_^
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
18 Dec 08
Hello ElusiveButterfly. What a brilliant boy he is! While I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter's father, I appreciate the wisdom words by your grandson. All the best to you and your family, dear friend. Merry Christmas.
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@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
18 Dec 08
Awwwww....so sweet... Leave it to a child to take the pain away...smart little guy... I'm still having difficulty getting through the holiday..It will be 26 years that my husband passed away..December 27th... I've written several poems about it... Big Hugs to all of you....Merry Christmas to all......
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@lilybug (21107)
• United States
18 Dec 08
Aw, that was very sweet of him to say to cheer his mother up. What a wise young man. You and your daughter should be proud.
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@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
18 Dec 08
He sounds like a very wise young man. That was a very sweet, sensitive and intuitive thing to say. I am very sorry for your loss, and I do think he will be looking down upon you and will be with you in spirit for the holidays. Have a lovely holiday.
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