How do you feel towards the anti-social? Are you one of them?

Philippines
December 18, 2008 6:19am CST
Well. People have been labeling me as an anti-social. Some are getting annoyed because they think I'm insensitive. For instance, we have a class Christmas party tomorrow that I don't want to attend. This person kept bugging me about it that the class should bond and all that cheese. Another is that my "friends" are commenting that I have grown distant. I thought nothing of it cause it felt natural. They think that I'm just anti-social. My mom said I really do have tendencies, ever since I was a child. She said that what I did were draw, read, watch tv, play the Sega and go with her to malls instead of playing with the kids next door. I dunno. I am just curious, how do you feel towards people who tend to isolate themselves? I'm pretty comfy here at myLot because it doesn't require actual contact with people. Hehe ^_^
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11 responses
• Philippines
19 Dec 08
Just like me... Actually, I understand what you feel about this type of person because before some of my friends also called me "kill-joy" and I think It's sound the same. Anyway It's a choice right? As you grow with your relatives, friends and co-workers, you will realize that it's not good to stay the same forever..trust me...
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• Philippines
20 Dec 08
Do you mean that you changed because it isn't good to stay as you are forever?
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
I changed but not the whole ME, I mean because of some things that really need to be done you have to control your "anti-social". It's better if you know when and how to be with other person...
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• Philippines
21 Dec 08
I see.. Thanks for explaining..
@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
Maybe you're just not comfortable about how to deal with people. There's something call introvert. These people are known to keep to themselves and shy away from communities and dealing with people. That's perfectly natural, but there's also a tendency for these people to have 'fears'. Thus, ending up isolated and not really attuned with the world. Or perhaps you're not comfortable about yourself. You're afraid that people would judge you and all. I could say I was an introvert before, but through slowly looking at the world at a better view, I found myself enjoying a lot about the world I'm in. I couldn't say I'm no longer an introvert, I still am, but not all the time. I still love being alone and just doing things without others, but I try to balance it by reaching out to others as well. Try to reach out. Maybe you don't see the benefits of being social for now, but it's very important when you're older. It can give you what you need and opportunities would be broader if you know a lot of people. Sadly, we can't help but need people sooner or later.
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• Philippines
18 Dec 08
I see. I understand. I realized, maybe I'm just picky. Primary reason why I am not close to my classmates is because I don't like them. I have a few friends though whom I consider real friends..
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@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
Are you new there? Why don't you like them?
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
Not new.. Been with them for almost three years now. I don't know. It's just how I feel. Weird.
@katkat (2379)
• Philippines
19 Dec 08
I have nothing against anti social people in fact I find them interesting. I might consider myself as one of anti social people. I don't like going to parties but if its just with my friends its okay with me. How do you feel towards people who tend to isolate themselves? That's a good question to ask, honestly I don't know because I'm very private person and it's very rare that I let people get into my world. Online socializing is very helpful for me.
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• Philippines
20 Dec 08
I agree with you. Online socializing is fine. I'm also fine with hanging out with my friends but when it involves people I don't really consider as friends, count me out. I was just curious because some people get annoyed with people who have tendencies like us. Some even think we're nuts.
@kttribal (253)
• United States
20 Dec 08
i know how that is my average party cosists of two to three of my friends people that ive known for like ten years. when new people show up i dont even take notice. although im doing this to try to earn money i dont really get to know anyone to well. even on myspace i dont send out too many messages. theres like one or two people that i massage and i do it only on the occasion.
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@manixxx (116)
• Japan
19 Dec 08
hmmmmmmm, no offense but if you are anti social, you are missing a lot in the world girl. being with other people is just part of our lives. you cannot live by your ownself only. you need other people, to grow, to be mature, to meet new friends, to find someone who you can be with and who knows, you can meet the person that you will be pending the rest of your life with. nothing is for sure though. me, though i am shy sometimes, i try myself to be with other people and meet some new friends. its good to be alone sometimes but its better to have many friends or people that you know. cheer up! meet some new friends! =)
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• Philippines
20 Dec 08
I hang out with a few people. Perhaps, I'm just a bit choosy when it comes to people. I guess I'm having trust issues. Anyway, thanks :)
@manixxx (116)
• Japan
2 Jan 09
ey, thanks for making me the best response for your discussion. i was afraid if you were offended by my comment. hehe! thanks and hapi new year! =)
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@kttribal (253)
• United States
20 Dec 08
well i sometimes consider myself anti-social. i dont really like to meet new people. and i dont go see my friends exept for like once every week or two. i just dont feel like going out there and seeing any of them. i dont know maybe it them too they dont call me or anything so maybe its for the better.
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• Philippines
21 Dec 08
Don't you ever call them? Like doing the first moves in approaching them..
@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
19 Dec 08
Hi, I think it's perfectly okay. I like to be alone - I'm happy by myself, doing the things I enjoy, like reading, watching TV or going online - all these are really 'lonely' interests. However, I am able to switch when required, especially the nature of my work requires me to be sociable. So I would try to escape any parties, gatherings or trips that are non-official!
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
Haha! Yesterday, I escaped two parties that I know I don't need/have to attend. The planner of the party would chase me with questions. Lol.
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
18 Dec 08
[i]I phyrethyme, I wonder why you will not enjoy to be with your friends once in awhile? ANyway, it's none of my business but I haven't meet anyone who is like that before... I guess I will just support if ever I have a friend like you, whatever makes you happy, I will understand that.... I am both..I can stay in our house doing something, helping with my Mom when I was single, cleaning the house or just sleeping but I can also go out with friends and enjoy with them...I am flexible but I am quite choosy about friends and whom to mingle![/i]
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• Philippines
18 Dec 08
I see.. Well. On my side, I just don't feel like mingling and stuff. It's like I don't really feel the need to.
• China
19 Dec 08
sometimes i feel i'm anti-social.
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@chaomi (56)
• Philippines
19 Dec 08
Anti-social...it's okay with me. My classmates have also branded me an anti-social once but my personality is in between, I can be an anti-social one second then miss happy social person the next. I'm an unstable nutcase, I guess. ^^ So for me, there's nothing wrong if you don't want to mingle with other people but after reading your post, I feel that while I can be anti-social, I can also be like the person who keeps bugging you with all that cheesy stuff...Again, unstable nutcase here!!! ^^ Hmmm...am I one of the anti-socials??? For now, I'm a half.
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
I understand. I was like that too, but now, I'm more of my ant-social side. I can super relate to that instability of yours. XD
@chaomi (56)
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
The reason why I became such an anti-social once because I got separated from my best friends. I didn't feel like joining in with other people even though, they were very nice and friendly to me. I just kept my distance. Now, I'm more of a social person but I always get my sudden lapses as a loner. And I can't help being more social because my classmates appointed me as the class mayor. Curses! I was only minding my own business when the traitors ^^ elected me! Oh well, I'm proud to be a unstable nutcase but it gets a little tiring.
• United States
19 Dec 08
Yeah, well im Bi-polar, so i get where your coming from. I mean i have my happy outgoing days but others, i just like to remain within myself. If i have to go to someone elses house, i get uncomfortable, i hate to have to ask to pee.
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
Are you self-proclaimed bipolar or clinically bipolar? God. I remember being called bipolar by some people.
@zhangw (145)
• China
19 Dec 08
I'm a little similar with you. When I was studing at college,we share a dorm 8 members, so you can never have space of yourself. My best friend is a girl who likes being accompanied by others all time, having meals ,taking classes or shopping , etc. sometimes I felt boring with other people,so I would choode one day in a week to be absolutely alone, without being toghter with anyone I know.It makes me feel comfortable. I think every one has this aspect, it's not that a big deal. However, I would like to say maybe you should try to enjoy the time with your friend. Since you are friends, you must have something in common,and you would find the joy of gathering with your friends.
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
I see. Well. I wanted to try hanging out with my classmates and people whom I consider friends. I ended up avoiding them and skipping their party. They'd ask me why I didn't attend their party yesterday. I was the only one in the class who backed out.