You can't tell me what to do....

United States
December 18, 2008 11:25am CST
My question for you guys in myLot land is this: Do you feel obligated to answer your cel? My thought is that I pay for it, so I can pretty much do what I want with it. I have friends that get annoyed with me becaus ehtey will try to call me on my home phone and then on my cel phone but I do not answer. I have tried to explain that sometimes I just don't want to talk, so I wont pick up. One friend went so far as to say that it didn't make sense to own a cel phone if I wasn't going to answer it. I am just not a slave to the phone like that. So, is there anyone that feels obligated to always answer their phone?
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14 responses
• United States
19 Dec 08
No, I don't feel obligated to answer my cell all the time. If I don't want to talk, then I don't answer it. If whoever calls me gets mad, then, oh well! I don't really care. Just because you own a cell phone doesn't mean you have to always answer it.
• United States
19 Dec 08
Thank you for your response. Those are my thoughts exactly.
• United States
19 Dec 08
Nah, there is truly only one person i choose to be bothered with and thats the lover. Other then that, i call them back when needed, im not too much of a phone talker!
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• United States
18 Dec 08
I NEVER feel obligated to answer my phone! I adore my caller ID and you hit the nail on the head, sometimes I just don't feel like talking. As far as having one and not wanting to answer it 24/7, some people have them for emergency use only, some have them for business purposes only and some people have them for when (gasp) they FEEL like talking on the phone. If my friends call and I don't answer, they know I will get back to them. Just because you have a cell phone does NOT mean you are obligated to answer every call every time.
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• United States
19 Dec 08
Thank you! It would be different if I didn't explain myself to the very ones that complain about it. You think they would get it by now.
• Lubbock, Texas
19 Dec 08
Having a cell phone does NOT mean you're on call 24/7. If you don't pick up, they can leave a message. Some of us want phones for convenience or need to have a way to call for help if needed. Some people don't mind being plugged in 24/7 but they need to respect the ones who don't.
@shonali (1288)
• India
18 Dec 08
well i can say that i share teh same thoughts as your... im dont get charged for any incoming calls....thats how it is in india.... you must be from somewhere where the incoming calls are charged too thats why you feel that way but i havent been much of a chatter on the phone anyways .... i hate taking calls unless it is very important like a call from my parents or boyfriend.... the rest i mostly try to avoid ...... i love smsing but that too has gone down considerably..... i hate gossiping and chatting with friends on the phone..... i would rather like to meet in person if its so important..... unless it really is out of the way but yet i mostly avoid the calls whenever possible..... i dont know where i got this disliek of speaking on the phone and rather texting..... sometimes i like to be left alone and im really sorry for all those people who dont understand that everyone needs their private space..... im a loner.... love being alone and definately not liked to be disturbed when i want to have those moments alone with myself...... but i guess some people just dont get it !!
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@sk66rc (4261)
• United States
18 Dec 08
It just seems silly, doesn't it? You should have told your friend, "I got a cell phone for MY convinience, not yours." Some people make it sound like they're doing you a favor by trying to call you & get annoyed when you don't answer... I told someone that "as much as me not answering annoys you, it's very annoying to me that when somebody keeps calling me when I don't wanna be bothered!!!" "Inventions such as "voice mails" & "emails" are there for a reason... Use them!!! And I'll answer you if I feel like it..." By the way, feel free to use any of these lines to your annoying friends...
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
19 Dec 08
I am so with you on this. It irritates me to no end when I'm hanging out with one of my friends and all she does is constantly answer her cell. I mean, hey, you got voicemail, it can't be that urgent! I let mine go to voice mail a lot. All my friends know it and I'll call them back. I always do answer it though if it's one of my kids.
• United States
19 Dec 08
I have a friend that does that too. Ioften wonder why she bothers to hang out with me if she is going to be on the phone with everyone else she knows.
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
20 Dec 08
I know exactly how you feel!
@smartie0317 (1612)
• United States
18 Dec 08
No, I don't. I pay for mine and can do what I want also. Sometimes, when I leave for quick trips, I don't bother to take my phone with me. My problem really, though, I'll have people call me back days after I call them and when I can't pick up right away, or don't want to, they can't understand why.
• United States
19 Dec 08
GASP
@katrhina23 (1282)
• United States
27 Dec 08
i feel that i am not obligated to answer my phone. if i dont feel like answering my phone, i wont . i will just listen to my voice mail and figure out what the caller would tell me. if its important and not just a chat, then ill call back , but if not, i wont .
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
20 Dec 08
I only have a landline but I am the same way. If I had a cell...it'd be just for emergencies. I just don't like chatting on the phone...never did. I have an answering machine. If a friend really needs an ear or needs something, I'll of course pick right up or call back as soon as I'm able. My close friends all know how I am about this and don't bother to call me just to chat and know enough to leave a message. My mother was one that of all people, knew how I hated just talking away on the phone. Still she would call so many times a day it was crazy. It was never ever anything important. She knew that I would call her when I had the time to listen to her for 2 hours tell me about all her neighbors and the latest book she read. Still she would get upset for me not picking up my phone each and every time. I agree with you...you pay the bill so it's your choice. If it something important...they'd leave a message. If I answered all the calls that came my way at one point...i would not have a life beyond phone. I was very very honest with my friends and assured them not to take it personal. it's just how i am. thankfully, most of them got it.
@ladydmo (19)
• United States
19 Dec 08
I definitely agree with you. I rarely give out my home phone number for that same reason. If I don't want to talk I don't answer my phone. It is alot easier for me to turn off my cell phone and ignore it than my house phone. My mom has a cell phone and she only turns it on when she is going to make a call. If she uses 30 minutes a month she uses alot! LOL I don't mind if I am out and someone answers their phone if it is a quick call. I think it is rude to carry on an extended conversation while in the company of someone else unless it is an emergencey. I worked for a cell phone company for 4 years in a retail store and you would be surprised how attached people are to their cell phones.
@jzqt27 (542)
• Canada
19 Dec 08
um, i never recieve calls from any company telling me what i can or can't do on my cell phone. i paid for the phone and service, so i am able to do whatever i like to do on it. i do something that my parent don't like, like go on to the internet, which we don't have, but i paid for it, so they just leave and let me do whatever now.
@mzplased (255)
• United States
19 Dec 08
LOL, you sound like me. I do that too. I dont feel like talking I dont answer it. Then I get the one person that will call every family memeber in my house to try and get ahlod of me. THAT annoys me.. especailly because its never an emergency, they just want to talk..very annoying and almost freakish if you ask me! If I dont answer my phone leave a message and I'll call you back ...thats what my message says. maybe I should put on there "Please dont stalk me by calling all my family trying to get ahold of me for gossip..just leave a message" LOL
@shonali (1288)
• India
18 Dec 08
well i can say that i share teh same thoughts as your... im dont get charged for any incoming calls....thats how it is in india.... you must be from somewhere where the incoming calls are charged too thats why you feel that way but i havent been much of a chatter on the phone anyways .... i hate taking calls unless it is very important like a call from my parents or boyfriend.... the rest i mostly try to avoid ...... i love smsing but that too has gone down considerably..... i hate gossiping and chatting with friends on the phone..... i would rather like to meet in person if its so important..... unless it really is out of the way but yet i mostly avoid the calls whenever possible..... i dont know where i got this disliek of speaking on the phone and rather texting..... sometimes i like to be left alone and im really sorry for all those people who dont understand that everyone needs their private space..... im a loner.... love being alone and definately not liked to be disturbed when i want to have those moments alone with myself...... but i guess some people just dont get it !!