How do you feel about cheating in general (relationships and non)?

@jenrl17 (420)
United States
December 18, 2008 12:04pm CST
Have you ever cheated on someone, been cheated on, cheated on a test or in life somewhere and how do you feel about it? As far as relationships go, Ive never cheated on any of my partners ever, but a few have cheated on me, unfortunately. I personally dont believe in it and never understood why people cheat in general (relationship wise) till just recently. As far as life goes, I cant remember, but I dont think Ive cheated on anything. Ive never cut in line that I can recall or cheated on a test. How about you?
5 responses
@liisafiat (660)
• Latvia
19 Dec 08
I have understood that those who cheat in school- cheats in life as well. Cheating is an ugly thing. Really ugly. I hate it. It is like betraying other`s trust.
@jenrl17 (420)
• United States
20 Dec 08
I totally agree with you. Another thing they say is too, if youre cheating, youre not only cheating the other person involved, but you also cheat yourself.
• Latvia
23 Dec 08
Yes. :)
@aakay4u (799)
• India
18 Dec 08
No i have not cheated.I think thats unpardonable,if any one cheats the partner.Simple thing i can cheat anyone but not myself.And i hate being cheated upon by others so why should i cheat myself.
@jenrl17 (420)
• United States
19 Dec 08
Thats a very good point. Why cheat if you dont want it to happy to you? Good way to view it. I agree. Thats part of the reason Ive never cheated, in a sense, but still didnt stop it from happening, unfortunately. The main reason Ive never cheated is because I dont believe in it. I never have, probably never will, just how I am, the way I was raised. I cant even imagine doing that to someone else that Im with, even though its been done to me. Id feel terrible and I dont think I could live with myself if I did it, so Im glad Im faithful. Always have been.
@sarahK23 (73)
• United States
18 Dec 08
I have cheated before and what I have learned is why I did it and why I will never do it AGAIN.For me personally it was more about what I wasn't getting emotionally and was very weak when I got that attention from someone else.That was a few years ago.Since then I have changed a lot and I am a mother now.I have learned from my mistakes and grown up.
@jenrl17 (420)
• United States
19 Dec 08
Well I can certainly understand your reason for doing it, being vulnerable and weak, still no excuse but understandable. Im glad you were able to see things in a different light and grow from that time. You also need to be proud of yourself from learning from the past, not repeating it. Good for you.
@aprilsue00 (1992)
• United States
18 Dec 08
I unfortunately have cheated on my husband. He knows about it and I feel absolutely terrible about it. I know how I would feel if he cheated on me. He says he forgives me and we have moved past it. Thankfully he loved me enough to forgive me. I don't think he will ever trust me again and I don't blame him. My view on cheating is that it is terribly wrong and I will never do it again.
@jenrl17 (420)
• United States
19 Dec 08
I would like to ask you (and others who have cheated), why did you cheat? Why not just leave or something? I guess its easier to have a little fling instead of breaking up the whole family, still not right. When my guy cheated on me, I was devestated. He said it wasnt even about the s*x, so I dont understand why he did it. I since then have forgiven him too. Ive always thought that theres no way Id put up with someone whos unfaithful to me, and for the most part I havent, but for some reason, this time, it still hurt incredibly, but I have been able to get passed it for the most part. Im starting to trust him again with things, but dont know if that trust will ever be 100%, but I love him dearly. Hes the best thing that ever happened to me. Well Im glad youve learned from it and wont repeat such a terrible act. You should give yourself credit for growing from that experience.
• United States
18 Dec 08
As far as cheating in relationships. I think it's inexcusable. People need to grow either the self control to say faithful or the balls to break it off with the partner. I have only been caught in the position of 'the other woman'. I'm in college and it was hardly an affair. I was dancing with him and I asked him about his girlfriend and he very calmly told me he didn't have one so I had no qualms about kissing him. We were immediately seperated by his girlfriend who started going crazy. I was really upset. I don't know that anyone ever thinks about the intentions of someone in my position but if I had known he was lying I would never have done anything. I'm sure the girlfriend hates me, she's still with the guy. I would never be able to excuse something like that.
@jenrl17 (420)
• United States
19 Dec 08
Wow, that was quite an experience for you. I hate it when people lie about things like that. I dont like cheating either. I agree with you, that people need to either control their feelings better or just leave the relationship. Ive said that for so long. Its a shame that those with the one who cheats dont look at the cheater more vs the one they cheated with. I wouldve been livid if I was in your shoes that day. If it was me, I dont know what I wouldve done (besides wanting to beat him to a .... lol). Yeah, Im sure his girlfriend does hate you and you know what? Im sure youre not the 1st 'victim' of his either. Hopefully it didnt happen again but if it did, hopefully the girlfriend woke up and left the cheater.