I just have to get this out.

@marty3888 (2359)
United States
December 19, 2008 5:41pm CST
I live in Michigan. I live with my girlfriend and her daughter and daughter's boyfriend. They live here rent free. I am 52. I got out there and started shoveling. After an hour I came in to take a break, maybe 5 minutes. Her daughter came in calling me lazy, doing that little square wasn't enough. Ask any doctor if a 52 year old is shovleing heavy snow, should he take breaks. But she never even asked. I think the boyfriend should have gone out there and started it. Yes, I am out of work, and both her and her boyfriend work. That is why I got out there. I have seen imature behavior but this was cruel!!!!!! I know, he' 21, I shouldn't let it bother me but it is. She is a spoiled brat; worse than I have ever seen.
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@kykidd (6820)
• United States
19 Dec 08
Oh my goodness Marty, that is terrible. Both her and the boyfriend should have been out there shoveling. I can't believe that she would have the nerve to call you lazy. I probably would have gone off. You are a very patient man. If someone is working, they should be not only paying you to live there, but also helping out with the chores. And they say on the television all of the time for people to let the younger ones do the snow shoveling. That stuff gets heavy, especially if it is the wet snow. Good luck to you, I hope you can find a way to bring this out in the open instead of letting it bother you on the inside.
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@KimJoRoll (127)
• United States
20 Dec 08
If she didn't have anything nice to say like "Thank you for taking the time out to do that" then she shouldn't have said anything else at all. So what if they both work? They are not paying rent!? So what if you are out of a job right now? It's your girlfriend's house and if anyone should have a problem with you not working it should be your girlfriend - not your girlfriend's daughter! That is soooo rude! Since they didn't start it they could have atleast offered to help! I'm 23 years old and I tell you what....sometimes I am soooo embarrassed by people my age...this would be one of those times!
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@marty3888 (2359)
• United States
20 Dec 08
Thank you so much, Kim!!! Becaue she called me rude for taking a break. (even though she didn't know I was taking a break) It's nice to know there are young people like you who see things clearly. I wish you were my girlfriend's daughter.
• United States
20 Dec 08
Oh no she DIDN'T! Its a good thing you didn't still have that shovel in your hand. I would definitely mention it to your girlfriend if for no other reason than to get it off your chest. I know what it is like to deal with the rude, spoiled, adult offspring of your significant other. Letting it fester will affect your relationship with her. I wish I could say I had some adivce for you to have this come to some sort of happy ending. I ended up paying my then-boyfriend (now husband)'s son to leave. If I hadn't done that I would have had to go!
@marty3888 (2359)
• United States
20 Dec 08
Actually, my girlfriend was home getting ready for work, so she heard it all. She said she just didn't want to get in the middle of it and it sounds like everbody is arguing about who should be shoveling. I'm sure that has something to do with why her daughter is like that.
@mzplased (255)
• United States
20 Dec 08
Cruel is not even that word! What nerve! That is VERY disrespectful. They should be Thankful that you were out there in the first place. You need to take breaks, dont let them make you think any differant. The girlfriend need to talk to her daughter and tell them that they need to respect you. You said they live rent free...they should have had both their butts out there shoveling instead of making rude comments!
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Dec 08
Spoiled and rude too. What would happen if you talked to your girlfriend about it?
@marty3888 (2359)
• United States
20 Dec 08
Unfortunatly, my girlfriend was home and heard it all. She said she doesn't want to get in the middle of it.
• Singapore
20 Dec 08
i agree, you might want to consider if your galfriend is worth it? I mean she is the mother of that gal. And she should be involved.
• Serbia And Montenegro
20 Dec 08
Very rude. Saying that to an adult, regardless of age difference. Even more rude when take in consideration that you are much more older then her. Regardless of what she thinks of you, she needs to show you respect. Has something like this happened before as well?
@fivhi89 (17)
• Malaysia
20 Dec 08
yup she sure is a spoilt brat..how rude and disrespectful..i really think u should talk to your girlfrend about it. i mean she should have more respect toward you especially since you've been so kind enough to let her and her boyfriend stay with you rent free-thats big...coz if you just leave it then its sort of like giving her her a lisence to say things like that whenever she wants..
@marty3888 (2359)
• United States
21 Dec 08
My girlfriend was there. All she could say to me was, yes it was terrible what she said to me but I think she was just frustarated because she got stuck. Just doesn't seem good enough for mr because if I had a son or daughter that Imoved into this house and he or she disrespected me that way, he or she would have gotton the punishment of he or she's life.
• United States
20 Dec 08
I don't know if this is a one time thing or regular behavior, but it was really rude and you should be bothered by it. Don't just push this behavior aside because than they will think it's ok and keep treating you like this! It is your place, not your girlfriends, and her kids are adults so while she should get involved because she cares about you, you should have handled it. In other words, it's your place, you make the rules-not your girlfriend! She should have your back, but you should stand up to them. What are they going to do about it? If they can't apologize, than they go live somewhere else!And if your girlfriend doesn't like it she can move out! People have disagreements and act like brats though all the time when they live with someone. Sometimes we just get on each others nerves, you know? Calling her a spoiled brat though isn't helping. We can all be spoiled brats. I'm sure she is sometimes, but if you dislike her that much kick her out! But don't live with someone you resent and dislike, that's not cool. I know when I was younger I wasn't very nice with my parents, and as I got older and lived on my own I realized what a brat I was acting like-but that doesn't mean I was a bad person. I just had some growing up to do. Maybe it's time they get out there on their own, and they will appreciate you more! But just take heart, that this kinda stuff doesn't just happen to you! When I lived with my boyfriends family for a few months I did the dishes and helped out without being asked. He definitely should have been helping, it's the least he could do! You gotta decide what you will tolerate, and if you let people push you around you get what you deserve. Harsh, but true! I hope things work out though and you can tell them how you feel, and work things out!
@marty3888 (2359)
• United States
20 Dec 08
Wow! Yours may very well be the best response. One thing though - it's actually both of our house. When we met, I was still living at home. We bought this house together. And at that time, her daughter was living with her dad. About a year later, she moved in. And even then she wasn't like this. Just lately. Her boyfriend did go out and shovel but that's when she started calling me lazy and really went off on me with her mom. My girlfriend has been saying to me she is goi g to have a talk with her about paying rent. But whether or not that's going to happen, I don't know. I do put up with alot, I always have. And so does my girlfriend. So this is not a thing where I could tell my girlfriend to get out, even if I wanted to. And I don't want to, and I couldn't afford this house if I did. It's going to be intersting how the next few days plays out.
@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
25 Dec 08
I agree with you she is cruel and inconsiderate on several levels. Firstly she should be paying rent since she and her boyfriend live at your home rent free, also she is inconsiderate for asking you that and finally she should have asked her boyfriend to help he. They should have started shoveling before you and even if they saw you doing it ,then they should have come to help, its the least they can do to show their gratitude. Maybe you should start charging them rent and they would be more grateful and willing to do anything to get in your good books.
• United States
20 Dec 08
I just don't get young people any more. That is not the way I was raised, I would have been out there with you if not before you. I don't care if they work or not! How are they going to get to work if they are still snowed in? I don't think you are the lazy one here.
@smsolar (20)
• Singapore
20 Dec 08
Have to take things easy when staying together. Treat it as a children comment. Do whatever you can happily. Jason www.smsolar.net www.smsolar.net/panel www.smsolar.net/bird_nest
• India
20 Dec 08
lol.. im sorry it happened.. but your 52 you should understand, she is a kid.. ofcourse she will behave like that.. i dont really think that you should solve family problems like this on what other people say.. talk it over with your girl friend ask her what to do.. she knows her daughter better than you.. if your always act on things by what "other" people say.. it could cause problems..
@Gwapako_28 (2142)
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
i guess, you have a good decision just have to get that out.i know, it will hard for you. but if you know, you have some place to go and have a peace of mind and be respected then why not go there?
@CRSunrise (2964)
• United States
20 Dec 08
I think that the daughter and her boyfriend should have been out there helping you with the shoveling. It doesn't matter that they work and you don't, they're a lot younger than you aren't. I don't mean to say that to pick at you, but shoveling all that snow can be rough on any person...even the youngest of people.