what would you think if your husband said...
@prettygirl_80650 (306)
United States
December 20, 2008 10:42pm CST
Ok so last night we were sitting on the sofa watching tv and out of the blue he said you are not going to get lucky tonight? i thought he was joking so i blew it off. But later in the evening he asked if i wanted to play a ps2 game with him so i said sure well we got it all hooked up and had 2 minutes left on the show we were watching and he dissapears. I went to find him and he was lieing in the bed ready to go to sleep. I asked him i thought we were going to play that game he said its late go down and play it by your self. So i did and now i have been thinking there has been some thing strange going on lately and i think hes cheating? so what do you think i should have done?
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@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
21 Dec 08
I don't know if I would assume he is cheating but you know him better than any of us do. I would have asked him why he got the thing hooked up and asked if I wanted to play if he was just going to go to bed.
If you feel there is something going on you need to talk to him about it. Communication is key in any great relationship.
Good Luck
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@prettygirl_80650 (306)
• United States
21 Dec 08
we used to have wonderful communication and to be honest with you i dont know what happened. I always ask my kids and husband how their day was when they walk in the door and lately his comments usually is work was work. no details or any thing
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@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
21 Dec 08
That does seem weird. But without my actually knowing both of you the only advice I can give you is just talk to him without accusing just ask him to sit down with you and talk about his day and see if he will tell you what he did throughout the day. Slowly edge towards asking if something is wrong with him.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
21 Dec 08
It sounds like something is bothering him. Maybe you should talk to him and see if he will open up to you about whatever it is. Men aren't great at communication...it's like pulling teeth to get my husband to open up to me when something is bothering him...but you can't just let this go. If something is wrong it's not going to go away just because it's not talked about. Good luck. 
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@prettygirl_80650 (306)
• United States
21 Dec 08
you are very right but men and women alike tend to make a small thing even smaller when they dont want to share whats bothering him. my onlu fear is that this is what he has done when we talked last night and that some thing is realy bothering him.
@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
21 Dec 08
I think you don't have to jumped into that conclusion yet. To clear your mind and to have peace the only solution i guess is to go ask him what he meant by that and if there's something wrong. A good talk will help solve your problems. A good communication is the key. Who knows he just mean something, something like both of you together-you know intimacy not in playing PSP. Anyways, i hope you will find answers and that your problem will be solve. Have a nice day!
@prettygirl_80650 (306)
• United States
21 Dec 08
because i have had these feelings that hes cheating on me for some time this was just like the icing on the cake. I did ask him what he ment and he said that he felt i was not my self that day although i dont remember doing any thing out of the norm. Thank you for your wishes i hope you have a great day as well
@stormygrl (761)
• United States
21 Dec 08
That just sounds odd. I would have been really angry and asked him what the heck was going on.
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@prettygirl_80650 (306)
• United States
21 Dec 08
at first i was confused thinking what if any thing did i do wrong and yes it did turn to anger and it was hard to keep my anger in check when i asked him last night
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@Little_Stormy (6883)
• United States
21 Dec 08
It sounds like he thinks that YOU are the cheater... maybe he was talking about the game or something like that.
My only advice would be to talk to him.
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@prettygirl_80650 (306)
• United States
21 Dec 08
we have been getting along pretty well lately, thats why it was so unexpected
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@piya84 (2581)
• India
22 Dec 08
th holw things is loking suspicious to me.But its better to be petient n watch for further events.If u blame on him when nthing is wrong u may face bitterness latter for no reason.Until n unless u have good proof dont get in to blaming.
@MAHESH2008 (844)
• India
22 Dec 08
Hi pretty, I don"t think he is cheating with you. its only his mind frame that does not allowed him to be with you on that moment. May be he is in some other frustration. If he is cheating with you than he must not be with you on the bed. he should have been in other room or left the place but he is very much with you on same bed means he values your feelings and respects you.
@general1star (149)
• United States
21 Dec 08
I don't know your husband so it's hard to say. I'm sure your mind went there as most of us would have that cross our minds too. But clearly he is trying to tell you something and it may have nothing to do with cheating at all. He might be telling you when he went to bed without notice is that he wanted some attention from you. I think he was hinting that when he made that comment and as you said "I just let it go." I'm sure you two have a nice time watching tv or playing ps2 games together but he may have been telling you that he needed some intimacy last night. I would ask him.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
22 Dec 08
weird huh..well the only solution would have to be talk to him..communication is always the right step.. if you would just think and think, nothings going to happen, sit and down and talk to him :D good luck
@Apollyon (91)
• Philippines
22 Dec 08
he's probably just bored. chill out. trust is really important in a relationship. you shouldn't go thinking that you're husband is cheating on you. communication always help in fixing a relationship. go for it. communicate.
