do you think you should wait years to ask the one you love to marry you?

@annjilena (5621)
United States
December 21, 2008 4:05am CST
if you love that person you can wait a while and get to know each other but do you think it,s healthy for the relationship to wait years before the both of you decide to marry.why wait if you love each other.why put off tomorrow what you can do today things happen. if he love you enough to stick with you so many years whats stopping him are her from saying I DO. HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT THIS?
7 responses
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
21 Dec 08
dont see any reason to wait. me and 2nd hubby lived together for 2 years before getting married . but my daughter waited 13 year before marrying her live inMostly so she could be on his insurance. but it do go with out saying they loved each otehr . And now they have a 4 year old running around teh house lol.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
21 Dec 08
oh we knew we would always be together really didnt need a peice of paper .
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
21 Dec 08
dragging out to ask your mate to marry you is not good what if some meet someone else and they decide after many years they don,t want to marry you then what.just move on and start again.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
22 Dec 08
No Not good to drag it out o be asked. and it can also happen they want a divorce after being married for years and that peice of paper did no good
@riyasam (16582)
• India
21 Dec 08
even i do not think ,waiting for many years(indefinetly)to marry the one you love is right.you can ask immediately,wait for some years if neccessary,to sort the problems out.
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
21 Dec 08
i think waiting to long is not good at all.it don,t take forever to get to know a person.you are right too.and thank you for sharing
@modstar (9615)
• Philippines
21 Dec 08
Sometimes it really take awhile to know a person fully so maybe the guy is just taking his time just to be sure because marriage is such a sacred thing so it's best to be sure than to make a terrible mistake. On the other hand, there are also couples who hit it off even for just few months of knowing. That's pretty rare but it can work out. Personally, i think i need at least 2 years to know my partner better. I mean 2 years of enjoying eachothers' company.
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
21 Dec 08
i understand waiting and getting to know a person but does it take 10 years to know a person.iam wonder how longer is it safe to say i do.10 years is a long time to be with one person and you are not married. 2 years is a good amout of time to get to know someone.but what if after 2 years you feel you don,t really know that person should you end the relationship are continue.thank you for sharing
@eddie42 (270)
• United States
22 Dec 08
no you shouldn,t wait years but a reasonable amount of time to get to know this person and i think at least 2 years should be good enough.
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
22 Dec 08
me and my wife live together for 3 years before i ask her to be my wife. getting married in my oppinion is not just because of love. it needs understanding and compatibility. before getting married both parties needs to be ready. ready emotionally, financially and morally. love alone can not just let a marriage last people also need to be compatible and of course ready. that is my view about this. now we are married for six years and we are getting better.
@Grandmaof2 (7604)
• Canada
21 Dec 08
I would not want a man to ask me to marry unless he really loved me and wanted me to be his wife...BUT...I will not just live with him for years and wait for the day he asks me. If I'm not good enough to marry than don't expect me to cook and clean after him, that's just me!!!
@GAUCI123 (1042)
• Malta
21 Dec 08
Well yeah it is true if you love each other why wait? Well depends on many aspects, to marry you have to have a home, know your partenr really well, since marriage is forever, it is not worth to hurry so much but not leave too much. The ideal time is after 4 years of getting to know each other, get organised financially and then get married. :)