I had a break up today

India
December 21, 2008 11:39am CST
I am writing this just after my break up with my girl freind. No question its feels like ruined and dead. Is there any way I can overcome this shock? Decent one please
10 responses
@aihaoqi (14)
• China
22 Dec 08
I'm sorry to hear that .Though i don't know the reason for your breaking,i understand the feeling.To talk with your friend.If your home is near the sea ,go to the seacoast and feel the sea breeze.
• India
22 Dec 08
U wont believe. I went to the shore to take breeze and helped me a bit. But you know the fact that its not easy at all. The cold breeze takes you further to those chrishable memories.
• Philippines
22 Dec 08
Don't push the pain away,feel the pain. Take time to mourn, its a matter of being open to your feelings of sadness. And its a way of letting go and saying good bye. Cry. It helps a lot. Accept that life has continuity,even if she is no longer in your life, maybe this way, you can decrease of your sense of loss and bitterness about the relationship that did not work out. Let go. Move on.
• India
22 Dec 08
I must say that you have an amazing heart. You know most of my problems and itjust erfectly fits in. You may call it coincidence. Your tips are helpful for me and its still working. Thanks a lot
@cathya (705)
• Philippines
22 Dec 08
Am sorry to hear that! As for my experience the best way to overcome break up is to accept little by little that your relationship was over, that you and your ex-girlfriend was not meant to be and by all means continue your life. Only acceptance can heal your broken heart. God bless.
• India
22 Dec 08
There is only way I can get rid of this..... go for a long sleep.... May be that will help to forget everything
@timmons (120)
• United States
21 Dec 08
The best answer I can offer you is just to live your life bro... Hang out with friends, get back in touch with family members, or just chill and watch a movie. What did you do before you had the girlfriend?
• India
22 Dec 08
I have tried everything from my end. Nothing seems to be working
• United States
21 Dec 08
i am very sorry to hear that you and your girlfriend have split up. i have been through many break-ups and on both ends of them, and i know that it is no fun no matter what. i know right now it is still fresh and feels terrible, but i promise you it will get better. everything happens for a reason, although you may not know what it is at this time. God has a plan for your life and everything will work out in the end. my advice for you right now would be to find things to do to pass your time and keep your mind off of her and off the situation. mylot really is a great site to do just that. you can talk to people from all over the world about a number of different topics and have fun and make some extra money! :) good luck!
• India
22 Dec 08
Thanks for your advise uddy. I tried everything but couldnt manage to control my emotions. It just comes out naturaly. I think its common. Am i right?
@vayguey (18)
• United States
23 Dec 08
I am very sorry to hear that....I have been where you are and its not easy at all....Honestly everybody deals with their pain differently....So I dont know if I can give you advice but I can tell you what I have done in the past....I was engaged right after high school and we moved in together...Everything was wonderful in the beginning but about a couple of months later things weren't quite the same....We were together for 2 years....I knew we were having problems but I was optimistic that we could get through anything with our love....But long story short he had moved in with his new girlfriend...I thought because of the problems we were having he was just staying with a friend...Of course I didnt know a female...But I had to be the one to end our relationship....He wasnt going to do it because he wanted both of us....He was my very first love and he broke my heart badly....I cried and cried...I had to take time for myself and clear my head so that I could think clearly....It took me about 3 years to completely get over him...After we broke up I did date but I was still hurt and in love with him....But I am now in love again and realize that I went through what I did with him for a reason...Its okay to be hurt and cry....That shows that your human and have the ability to care for someone genuinely....Hope that helped in some way...
• India
23 Dec 08
oh that's really not good news but if u really love him then prey to god to get her back... god blase u..
@mzplased (255)
• United States
23 Dec 08
I think alot of people know what you are going through. I knwo there have been a few times when i have had a breakup that i have felt like my heart was literaly split in too, I just hurt too much to even think of anything else. The best thing to do is just take some time and shed those tears. Its alright to cry. I mean this person was your whole life, shared alot of things with at one time and losing that person hurts! So take some time and let those emotions out. It hurts now and I know right now it doesnt seem like there is probally anyone that can fill that void, and you probally dont even want to think about another relationship right now, but in time your heart will heal and you will find that perfect someone that is going to fill that hole in your heart. Try and start doing things that make you happy. Hang out with some friends and have a good time. I am not sure why you spplit up, was it just an argument and someone said some bad things but possibly yous could talk and work it out? Or has this been a long time coming and its truelly the end of the relationship? Either way "chin up" things will get better!
@Apollyon (91)
• Philippines
22 Dec 08
if you still love her, talk to her and do everything to get her back. and if all else fails then it's time to cry your heart out then move on.=) christmas is coming, i'm sure you two will be back together.=) great things happen on christmas. rock on!
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
22 Dec 08
If you're sad then go ahead and be sad. Cry, sleep away the day, eat a container of ice cream - whatever makes you feel better. Talk to someone about it, write you're feelings down and just don't keep it all inside. If you talk or write about it then sometimes it helps put things in perspective. The hurt won't go away over night. And make sure to just focus on you, do things for yourself that make you happy. Buy yourself a present, take yourself out to dinner at your favorite place (best if it's not somewhere you went with your ex). Just enjoy spending time with your friends and family and try to spoil yourself for a while. In time the pain will fade.