Why do parents wants to live their dreams through their children???????

India
December 22, 2008 12:19am CST
Why is it that all the parents wants to live their unfulfilled dreams through their children? We always want our chilren to do what we could not do in life. We want to give them the things that we couldnot get in our childhood. Life a child's dream is somehow specified by the parents. Why is it so??????
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• Philippines
22 Dec 08
Just to share this about your question because this kind of things happen to every family where in my side i wanted to make a change from that old fashion. Previous time where our parent live with their own culture and culture and it is somewhat pass through generation. it is unfair i know, but somehow i see the advantages its somewhat preserving the knowledge, and what they called the profession of the family such example of this is being a doctor, engineer, or/and teacher. But wait, Whenever what our parents wanted from us why not talked to them heart to heart and explain everything. you know when my parents wanted my brothers to took a course which is not his capacity i help my brother to explain from my parents and let my brother decide whats the best course that he wanted to get and we won. sometimes it needs a little been explanation and being sweet to parents as their child to be understand....
@spalladino (17927)
• United States
22 Dec 08
I disagree with some of what you posted and agree with some. Not all parents strive to live their unfilfilled dreams through their children but most parents want their children to have better lives than they had. It's natural to want the best for your child, to want your child to be successful and to be happy. The desie to want your child to have more than you have is a very old one going back generations. When the industrial age started in the U.S. and people moved off of the farm and into the workforce, every parent wanted their children to have a better quality of life than they had.
@nishdan01 (3055)
• Singapore
22 Dec 08
Every parent would have unfulfilled desires in their life. Added to it, they work hard ro bring up their children sacrficing many pleasures of their life. So parents tend to think that their children can fulfill their dreams. Added to it all, all parents have experience of real life which plays a major role in shaping the thoughts of their children too. So it becomes easier for children to learn what to expect and what not with their guidance.
@raynejasper (2326)
• Philippines
22 Dec 08
..practically, parents are not fulfilled and happy of their achievements and they want their unfulfilled dreams to be fulfilled by their children.. however, most parents don't force their children to fulfill their unfulfilled dreams.. parents should remember that the children have their own dreams.. The happiness of the children is very important to them that's why they try their best to give to their children those things which they were not able to enjoy when they were still a child because they know the feeling of not getting what they think would make them happy.. we have to understnad them.. but we have to explain also that we have our own dreams which will make us happy..