It Amazes me how RUDE people can be!

United States
December 23, 2008 10:39pm CST
i was at an event and there was some one there that was dressed um.. extravagantly.. (like he was Elton John in concert slash Liberace slash one of the beetles) when every one else was in casual wear and had some kind of beetles hair cut.. anyways i noticed it and thought it was um interesting but figured everyone has their own style so who cares?? well some people went up to him and i guess were meeting him for the first time and asked him if he was leaving to go to a costume party afterwards.. he explained that NO he dressed like this everyday and it was just his style and they went on about how they had heard about a costume party later which they figured he was a part of.. (which there was a costume party later on but like half a dozen people and the theme was no where like what he was wearing at all.. there was no way of even thinking they would fit together other than the fact that they were dressed different but the other people were all dressed alike and like frank sinatra) he didnt seemed bothered by the peoples mistake but i couldnt imagine just going up to some one and asking if they are dressed weird for a reason when its none of my business and well at least he has the guts to be himself.. i felt bad for him.. i was irritated at the people because they kept goign on and on about how he was dressed so "different" and wouldnt let it drop.. his clothes look custom made so he could have very well made them himself and they were nice (as in quality) so its not like he was dressed up in a cheap halloween outfit.. am i wrong in thinking it was rude of them to ask? i dont know some times i think i feel more defensive of other peoples feelings than they are of their own... or maybe its that i grew up around people that were different and one lady dressed up as cleopatra all the time and changed her name to sheba and would only answer to it.. lol and there was definitely no reason other than it was just her style so i never asked!
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8 responses
@Rosekitty (19438)
• San Marcos, Texas
24 Dec 08
To go up and ask if they are dressed for a costume ball is one thing, but to continue making those comments was very rude and i'm sure he was used to it and learned how to ignore people like that...I hope he has wonderful friends that love him as he is and respect his ways as just him!
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• United States
24 Dec 08
he doesnt seem to have ANY friends but i dont know if that is by choice or what.. i dont know him well so i couldnt tell but he seemed to have a snippy tone when answering but like i said i dont know him well which is why i even over heard it in the first place.. i was half way paying attention when they went straight up to him and asked him if he was going to a party later then i heard his tone and so i started paying more attention..
@hotsummer (10449)
• Philippines
24 Dec 08
in a way i think that the guy was irked by the special attention that he was receiving. anyways, yeah in a way i feel that it was quite rude. but i guess that people or most people are rude to those people who just don't fit by the way they dress i mean. it is one thing to be noticed by other people and it is another thing that they are enjoying or had great laugh in what they see and keep comparing your outfit to the most people on the place. seems people don't efel that it can of rude and offend the person or maybe they just wanted to offend the person and don't care what the person will feel as long as they can express what is on their minds.
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@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
25 Dec 08
It may sound rude for some people, but if he is used to dress extravagantly then he must be used to people coming up to him like that After all as you said he seems to wear a custom made I'm sure he stands out in the crowd and make people come up to him either complimenting or jealous of the attention he gets If I were there though, I might say something like 'well it's ok to look different' not taking any side just voicing my opinion but then these people may realize there is nothing wrong with what he wears although he could tone it down a little bit
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• United States
25 Dec 08
i was like far enough away to where i would have had to walk over to say something but close enough to hear lol.. so i just watched and listened to see how he handled it
@zackyo7 (301)
• United States
24 Dec 08
Your style of clothes is an expression of you. I've seen tons of people dress really weird but I never bother to ask them about it. It's not really my place. I just glance at them and probably think about it in my mind for a while but that's it. I don't waste my time bothering about them.
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• United States
25 Dec 08
yeah i may admire or question it in my head but i dont feel the need to bother the person which might end up offending them etc
@bunnybon7 (37399)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Dec 08
i was raised the same way. we had a neighbor once when i was about 8yrs. when they moved in the people in the neighborhood said they must be gypsies because they dressed like that and had dances in their yard celebrating different things. my mom said they are Romainian.dont bother them and dont say they are gypsies like everyone is saying. they were so pretty (the women) tho and i loved dancing so i snuck over there one day only to find out that they were very very nice to me and said that they were gypsies even tho i hadnt mentioned it. i hung out over there a lot. other kids were afraid of them, cause the old lady said she could tell your future sad thing is i cant remember what she said of mine, but it must have been a doosey
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• United States
25 Dec 08
that must have been an awesome experience!!
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
24 Dec 08
yes people are rude, they think they can say anything to anyone, like, you should go on a diet, are you pregnant etc,
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• United States
25 Dec 08
ugh those are the worst!! i know when i was put on a medication that made me gain 45lbs in 6 months every one was asking me if i was pregnant and im like NO!!
• India
24 Dec 08
I know it is rude ot walk up to someone in this manner and ask pointed questions, but you are feling that way because you are not used to it. that gentleman must be used to it by now if he is really dressing up in a different manner all the time. he may probalby be doign this to attract attention too. He probably may be nejoying peopelwalking up to him and asking such questions that is why he was not looking perturbed by the questions. He probably expected those qeustions and deliberately dressed to solicigt such questions. Some people are attention seekers. if you ignore them probably they will feel bad.
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• United States
24 Dec 08
well i dont know him well so i couldnt tell if he was being snippy back or just normal when he was saying how its just how he is.. i dont think he realizes he comes off as unusual as he does because he really is um.. (trying to really find a nice way of saying it since i dont know him well and dont wanna be judgemental but dont know how to describe... lol) interesting..
• United States
24 Dec 08
I don't think it was rude. They were ballsy to ask when he could have been hurt by what they assumed. However, they weren't ridiculing him and they were fascinated by his style.
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• United States
24 Dec 08
it was definitely one way of them to introduce themselves to some on lol.. to make a beeline to ask if he was dressed up for a reason lol
@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
31 Dec 08
Well, I guess if you choose to dress different, you would expect people to be curious. And some people being verbal, will approach him to ask. And it is usually an ice breaker between two strangers. As long as he can take it in his stride, I wouldn't think it is rude to ask and chat about his dress style with him. If people go up to him and start making fun of him or be rude to him simply because he is dressed different, then, that is considered rude. If people go up to him and strike a decent conversation with him, I wouldn't see it as rude.
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