Here We Go Again....

@CatsandDogs (13964)
United States
December 24, 2008 10:37am CST
I know.... that's a bad way of putting it but deg gone! What a year we've had!! It came in with a BANG! and it's going out with a BANG! My husband just got a phone call from his brother telling him that their step father is going to pass away in the next few days. He's had double pneumonia for about a month now and is deteriorating rapidly. He’s hallucinating and one lung has shut down. The doctor said that the only thing they could do in the hospital is rehydrate him but it most likely will be too much for his system and he'll pass on or he’ll live but be a vegetable. So hubby is going up to his sisters where his step dad is living for the next few days or a week, depending on how long they need him and how his step dad is doing. So... so much for a Merry Christmas Eve or Day. I don't mean to sound cold but gosh, what a year!! First my mom having a bad stroke then hubby's mom passing away then my car breaking down, my cat getting hit by a car but thank God he survived, my nephew's wife left him, and my parents house among other things and now this! WOW!! What a freaken year this has been!! Now I'm asking all of you to please pray for my husband's sanity. He needs all the prayers one can give. I hope he can handle this, I'm sure he can but I still worry about him.
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@cher8558 (425)
• Canada
25 Dec 08
Hi friend, I am so sorry you are having such a horrific time. My God, how much can you take ay? Well my prayers are with you and yours. I am sure if enough of us put our prayers together, you'll be surprised to see what happens. I hope to hear from you soon with better news. God Bless, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. Keep your chin up friend. Cheryl
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
25 Dec 08
Hi Cheryl, yeah my words exactly, how much can a person take? I've wondered that myself so many times. Like mother Teresa said, "God only give what we can handle but I wish He didn't trust me so much." I just talked to my hubby and he said he may come home tonight if not, then tomorrow. He didn't tell me but I can sense the situation is really bothering him because of his mom's passing so he wants to get away from there. I hope he does come home tonight because I hate seeing him like this but it has to be his choice. My mom is severly depressed and I don't know what to do to uplift her spirits. I went searching for a nice poem and found two of them so I printed them up to give to her. I might have a frame to put them in upstairs but if not, then I'll get one in the coming days. I'm trying my best to keep my chin up but gosh, with this load, it's so very hard. Thanks my friend. May God Bless You!!
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• Philippines
25 Dec 08
I am very sorry to hear about your situation, and I will be hoping and praying that the next year will be a better one for you
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
25 Dec 08
Thank you natsvelascotan. We're praying that next year will be better too. I almost feel like it will be because this year was so rotten. I mean, I am very grateful that my mom survived that horrible stroke but gosh, it's hard to watch her recover. Hope you have a happy time during the holidays!
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• United States
24 Dec 08
Awww, I'm so sorry about all your problems right now. It's just so sad to hear. Don't you wonder sometimes why things just couldn't wait till after the Holiday at least? It's so sad when everything comes at once, but especially at this time of the year. Yes, I have to completely agree with you, it's been a very rough year and I'm wishing you and everyone a much better New Year. Hope all turns out well for you and your family. Prayers will be sent....take care.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
25 Dec 08
Thank you Kashmeresmycat.... Yeah I do wish things like this could wait till after the holidays. I was telling my husband that although I kind of wish he'd wait until after Christmas to pass on and not let it be on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day but then again, I don't want the man to suffer. I don't like the man for he's so mistreated me and all of the kids but they love him in their own way and that's ok but still, I don't want the man to suffer. I wouldn't wish that on anybody. Hubby called me a little bit ago and said the hospice nurse had stopped by and she said it could be in the next hour, days or weeks from now so we don't know. But we do know it's in God's hands right now. I just got home from my parents and we had a really nice and very tasty dinner and I helped mom with a few things to make her feel better because she can't do much these days since she had that awful stroke. She's forever telling me to "STOP! Haven't you done enough?" lol
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• United States
25 Dec 08
You sound very kind hearted and I wish you well. Hopefully it will happen quickly and be over with, but as you mentioned, it's in God's hands right now. Only he knows what he's doing, we'll never figure it out. God Bless and take care...Bobbie
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• Canada
27 Dec 08
WOW! What a friggen year. I'm glad you were able to handle it...somehow. Now the sh*t seems to be hitting both sides of the family. Your husband and his family along with you and your family are all in my prayers. Amazing how all this stuff happens at the same time. Thanks for letting us all know.
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@laila675 (528)
• United Arab Emirates
25 Dec 08
though i don't celebrate xmas, still wanted to wish you a happy holiday. problems do always comes and goes. and i was hoping it will goes and don't come back he he he. same with us, still thank to God as it comes one at the time. don't worry everything will be places in God's time. i'll add you my prayers.. God bless.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
25 Dec 08
Awww thank you laila! That's very kind of you! Yes I agree, I wish all the problems would just fold up and roll away for good! Oh how great life would be! I agree though, everything does come in God's time. Thanks for your prayers!! May God Bless You Too!
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
25 Dec 08
Hi cats~I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's stepfather. You really have had a terrible year is right! I sure hope that next year will be alot better! I will say a prayer for your husband. I do hope that he will be able to handle this. You two have been through so much. You both have been through more than two people should be asked to handle at any given time! So I hope that you will both have a much happier 2009 and try and get over this awful year! May God Bless You Both.
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@ellie333 (21029)
24 Dec 08
Hi CatsandDogs, I am so sorry to hear of your this latest development with your step-father-in-law and my thoughts and prayers will be with him and his friends and family, yourself obviously included. 2008 has been a bad year for me too and I personally will be glad to see the back of it and for me it tends to go in 10 year cycles as my last really bad year was 1998. Both were years of very many losses. Huggles. Ellie :D
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
25 Dec 08
Hi ellie.... Thank you for your prayers! The hospice nurse came earlier and said it could be hours, days or weeks, we don't know. All we do know is that it's in God's hands right now. I just pray that he goes in peace and not in any pain or suffering. I wonder why things happen in such volumes like that. Mine was 1990 and 2000. 1990 was when my fiance was killed when our house caught fire and burnt to the ground and not even two weeks later my dad had a major heart attack and we darn near lost him. That was tough, whew! Then the year 2000 was when my grandmother got really sick with cancer and she was horrible to care for because of the medicines she was taking. I had to call my dad for help when sitting with her (I was giving my mom and aunt a break) We were so close but the medications kept messing with her mind so much till the doctors found the right ones and the right dosages. About a week or two after that, she passed away. Hugs to you too my friend.
@bunnybon7 (37902)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Dec 08
i sure will pray for him dear. yes theres so many problems this past year. my aunt whos like a mother to me is praying and we all are that her youngest son, that has cancer will make it through xmas.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
25 Dec 08
Thank you bunnybon.... please give your aunt a hug for me and tell her that I have her son in my prayers as well! Bless yours, hers and her son's hearts!! God hears our prayers so never stop! I hope you guys have a Merry Christmas inspite of what's going on.
@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
24 Dec 08
Yes, you have been through a very tough year, I will pray for your husband, that he has peace during this time..
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
25 Dec 08
Thank you carmelanirel.... I just got home from my parents. We had a right nice dinner that I prepared for us. It was suppose to be at our place but since hubby had to go north, we decided to pack everything I needed and cook it at my parents. I was able to do a few things for mom which made her feel a little bit better. She's so frustrated because she can't get her hands to work and heal up like the rest of her body is. I feel so sorry for her because she is so clumsy but it's not her fault. Anyway, hubby is at his sisters where his step dad lives. He's having a hard time breathing and the hospice nurse stopped by and she said that it could be within the next hour to days to weeks, we don't know. Right now it's in God's hands.
@Chevee (5915)
• United States
24 Dec 08
I am sory to hear about your husbands stepfather. I can see it really has been a very hard and bad year for you. I pray that things get better for you and you husband in the coming New Year. Just hang in their and don't give up. God is with you, he might not be there when you want him too but he is always on time. You have a Merry Christmas, and I will be praying for you.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
25 Dec 08
Thank you Chevee.... I just got home from my parents. They were suppose to come here to have Christmas Eve dinner with us but having only one car, I had to borrow my dad's truck so hubby could take the car to go to his sisters where his step dad is and stay there for however long he needs to. Dinner went well, it was right tasty! We had ham, candid sweet potatos, green bean cassarole and rolls. Gosh, I'm getting hungry again! lol But I helped mom with some cleaning too which made her feel better. I'm home and I'm tired! Thanks sweetie for your prayers!!
@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
24 Dec 08
Oh Cat honey, I am so sorry. This has been a heck of a year for you and your family. I don't know how you have been coping with all the crap and things. None of its been small stuff neither, Its all been big stuff. You and your family are and have been in my thoughts and prayers. I have read your other post, I just haven't had time to respond. Take care, Next year just has to be better for all of you. Gentle hugs for you, xoxoxoxo
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
24 Dec 08
Yes it sure has been one hell of a year for us just like the year 1990 and 2000 were but this year it's been much more things instead of just one or two. We've been bombarded heavily. We were going to have Christmas Eve dinner here at my place but now it's moved to my parents place so I can borrow dad's truck since hubby's taking the car. He's going to be gone from anywhere from a few days to a week or possibly longer. Thanks for the hugs Polly, hugs returned to you of course!
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
31 Dec 08
I reckon your hubby will be fine. He must be so used to shocks to the system by now and I believe you and he are both much stronger because of the ordeals you have been constantly experiencing. Deep down you are both fighters in your own way. I'm sure he will be able to accept what happens and to be there for those that need comforting. Your hubby is a good man.