Have any of you ever been cyber bullied before?

@apples99 (6564)
United States
December 25, 2008 10:42pm CST
I have I dont get why people use the Internet to be rude and mean to others, but nothing really surprises me these days I dont usually get to bothered by it but I'd be lying if I said it didnt annoy me, I dont usually worry about reporting it in less its really bad, but there have been times were I was really tempted to report someone but I didnt, and thankfully I haven't had that kind of experience here, but I did on other sites I wont say which ones but its happened to me a few times for no reason at all. Anyway have you ever been cyber bullied while on a website if so what did you do about if anything?
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@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
27 Dec 08
pretty much in online chat rooms I always got bullied used to be Yahoo or Geocity at the time but I didn't have any friend there anyway so either I ignored or reported them I met my hubby in chatroom too and I never chat online anymore after that I never thought highly of any chatter until I met my hubby, so I never miss chatrooms at all, especially now with mylot :) I don't know if the admin did anything to bullies but who knows these bullies could be admins too, that's why they did what they wanted to do plus I ignored them completely so I wouldn't know what happened to them if any LOL don't give rude people the attention they want. either you ignore or rude back at them or report them if the option is available, other than that keep doing what you like to do. you don't even know them anyway.
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
27 Dec 08
I guess its a lot more common these days to get bullied online I usually ignore it unless its taken to far, Iv always thought people who chatted online was strange also, but I have since changed my views on it, now that Iv become a bit more involved with computers and chatting Anyway, I think its interesting that you met your hubby online what sort of chat site did you meet on? if you dont mind my asking, and how did you know that you could trust him, I'm curious because Iv been thinking about trying one of those online dating sites, but I'm a little concerned that they might not be safe, maybe you could message me with some advice, I made a topic about on online dating but unfortunately I didnt get as much reassurance as I thought I would. lol, well thanks for responding.
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@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
27 Dec 08
I never tried dating sites LOL so I wouldn't know about that plus I didn't have the money for the membership fee at the time. I was either in yahoo or geocity chatroom when I met him, the sweetest and most polite person online. we exchanged emails and pretty much it went from there. it's true that not all online relationships work but if you are careful and not give your heart easily, you will eventually find the right person for you. this is also true in real life. you can jump, but dont jump with both feet until you know it's safe. he never sent me fake pics or fake love letters. his emails coincide with each other, no missed fact there. that was when I knew that he is for real. I know it's hard. I've been burned before. but like I said don't jump with both feet. the rest, your heart will know.
@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
26 Dec 08
I got cyberbullied when trying to raise money for a school that burned down in my city. The bully kept e-mailing me that it was stupid that I sold my stuff to give the profit to the school, because they should have sufficient insurance and otherwise the school was just plain dumb, etc. I cleaned up the language (a lot!), but the e-mails were really nasty and unneccesairy. I had posted this in a special place for adds like these and if you don't want to read them or get pissed off by them just don't go there. I reported the persons e-mail and they banned her. I didn't hear anything from it after that. I hate to be a tell-tale but I couldn't get rid of the e-mailing even after blocking her address. I am glad I took the step to do so because it was really annoying.
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
26 Dec 08
It sometimes amazes me how mean and cruel people can be, my goodness I think in your case you did the right thing I think I would have done the same thing and took action against the bullies. Thanks for sharing your experince.
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• United States
26 Dec 08
Yes, I have and I'm still a little pissed off about it. It was in a game room in pogo. Our league was looking for a room for dice to add to our league. We went into a room, only one of 2 that pogo said was available and the regulars in the room started calling us names and I mean filthy stuff too. They said they had run leagues out before and would us too. It was awful, they put us on their friends lists and stalked a few of us. We sent complaint after complaint as it was happening to pogo and they did nothing. I contacted a lawyer the next day I was so upset (mostly at pogo). I wanted to go after pogo for breech of their contract with us as they promise to provide a safe environment to play if we promise to play nice. The fact that they did nothing (they have pogo police that pop into rooms for these kinds of complaints) while it was happening and we were sending them the screen shots as well really made me mad. So far nothing has been done, nor have I been refunded my $36.00 annual dues that I had just paid.
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
26 Dec 08
OMG! thats awful and you said the site did nothing about it? Well I dont understand why these sites dont suspend people who do these kinds of things and block them from bothering you any further, and I defitnely think you deserve a refund after all that, Iv experienced cyber bulling on other social networking sites, I wont name them but for some reason they singled me and another online buddy out, for no reason what so ever, they were cursing upseen things, and every time they happened to be online they would behave rudely and curse at me, but your case seems a little bit more extreme then mine. I hope that it stops soon thanks for sharing your experience with me and everyone, I hope that your cyber bullies are stopped soon.
@Bionicman (3967)
• Czech Republic
26 Dec 08
I'm not using any social network sites like myspace or facebook so it never happened to me. I sometimes use some forums but I guess one must do something really stupid to get picked on. About bullying on mylot...I'm yet to see that. So far it's just an urban legend
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
26 Dec 08
Well you dont always have to say or do anything wrong to be cyber bullied, believe me, Iv been cyber bullied on other sites for absolutely no reason at all Iv always been kind to others rether I'm online or off, and there were people on the site who picked on me, out of the blue it was strange. anyway I thankfully have not had that experience here at mylot so far everyone here has been really kind. Thanks for responding and happy new year.
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• Philippines
26 Dec 08
Yes, I have come across cyber-bullies many times in various internet discussion groups I am a member of. I don't respond to them in the same manner. I have a personal rule that I must edit my response to bullies AT LEAST 3 TIMES before I would send it. By the time it gets sent, the other person has cooled. So s/he would be open to a point by point discussion of the items s/he originally put across in a bullying manner. I think my patience really pays off. I help change the person and strengthen the group. Anyway, if s/he continues to bully, the moderators would usually unsubscribe him/her. But I don't like to request people to unsubscribe or the moderators to delist even the bully because I believe in freedom of speech and of expression. But if the bully unsubscribes on his/her own or if the moderator removes him/her from the list, I don't intervene either. I guess I'm not much of a believer and defender of this basic freedom as far as they apply to bullies?
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
26 Dec 08
I have also experienced this and most of the time I ignore it, and I only report it if the bulling continues, and as a last resort. I dont want people to feel like if they disagree with me, or get in a slightly heated discussion that they will be reported, becuse like you I think people have the right to freedom of speech as long as they dont take it to far. and I would only report someone in the most extreme cases, anyway thankfully I havent had that experince here at mylot. have a great day and a happy new year.
@Humbug25 (12551)
26 Dec 08
Hi ya apples99 I can't say that I have to be honest. Or if I have I have been totally oblivious to it LOl Sometimes ignorance is bliss!
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
26 Dec 08
Hey there humbug25, I bet you had a nice holiday, well at least I hope you did, as for cyber bullies I'm happy you never had to experience it, and if you have your right in some cases ignorance is bliss, being bulied in any form is no fun thankfully Iv never been bullied on mylot Anyway happy new year.
@marcialoyd (1174)
• United States
26 Dec 08
It doesn't bother me. When I come across someone like that on the net I just laugh.It is is actually kind of sad when people have nothing better to do then to pick fights on the internet. I report if need be and go on.
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
26 Dec 08
You have a good attitude about these kind of things, I usually ignore it when it happens, and if it dosent stop I might consider reporting it, but only as a last resort, but like you I tend to just move on Thanks for responding happy new year.
• Philippines
26 Dec 08
i guess anyone who spends a lot of time online have experienced cyber bullying. i myself have been a victim of nasty messages sent to me in social networking sites but i don't really care about it and i don't even think of wasting my time on those cyber bullies because it's useless and it will only make them want to bully me more if ever i reacted and responded.
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
26 Dec 08
Goodness, I never understood why people do that Iv been on a couple of other sites were people were so unbelievably mean, they were cursing and say some of the most mean things for absolutely no reason at all, its just crazy I usually just ignore it unless they do something really bad, and your right we shouldn't waste our time on cyber bullies because thats what most bullies want to get a rise out of us, so its best to ignore it. Thanks for responding, and have a happy new year.
@baileycows (3669)
• United States
26 Dec 08
I guess that I have not been and I wouldnt normally do it to anyone, but there is one new person on mylot tonight getting on my nerves so bad with these one line discussions. I know if your on here you have to have noticed.
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
26 Dec 08
Hi there, yea I have noticed a few one line discussions, but it doesn't bother me that much, but I do think members should try and put a little more effort into there discussions. As for cyber bulling I have never bullied anyone in my life I dont like hurting peoples feelings, besides its so immature to do things like that Thanks for responding and happy new year.
@brew2x (3096)
• Philippines
27 Dec 08
I've experienced cyber bullying but not on a website but on a chatroom. This guy is so rude and I haven't even chatted with him before so I really don't know him. What I did was I invited him in a conference chat with my friends and then we annoyed him there hehe.