Listening. Do you listen or do you talk over other people?

@celticeagle (114510)
Boise, Idaho
December 27, 2008 1:04pm CST
Listening, to me , is an art. Sometimes it is hard to actually look at the other person and listen to what they are saying. Why? Because we are so consumed with our response or our take on the situation. Now I put it to you: Do you really hear what the other person says or do you even care?
9 responses
@dodo19 (28125)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
27 Dec 08
I'm a pretty good listener. I'm a better listener than talker that's for sure. For me, it's just easier to listen than anything else. I'm not sure why, but that's the way I am. It's just something I'm used to.
@celticeagle (114510)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Dec 08
Congrats on that.
@dodo19 (28125)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
30 Dec 08
Thanks.
@Tweenis (30)
• United States
30 Dec 08
Celticeagle I tend to do both. It has a lot to do with the subject matter or the person I am speaking to. Some people come to you for advice and when you try to provide it, they seem to fill the answers in themselves, so I tend to get a little annoyed and try to talk over them to get the suggestion out on the table, but for the most part I like to listen to the other person, and then state my opinions, suggestions, and hope that person is actually listening. :) Tweenis
@eshwarik (180)
• United States
29 Dec 08
As the saying goes good listener is a good speaker, I would listen to others point of view before I add to their comment. We would always talk on our behalf we would miss on certain issues, so when we listen to others we can add their view point. You remember when we go the doctor's office doctor listens to us and then he can diagnose what is the problem. So be a good listener before we talk over others.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
28 Dec 08
I really seem to need to look at the person that is talking. That way I hear all they have to say. then I can put in my input. SOmetimes is hard to do tho if others are talking at the same time and not listening to the speaker. ANd then every one is doing thier input I find I might be trying to shout over them . lol
@stormy09 (438)
• United Arab Emirates
28 Dec 08
I used to listen that talk.. I like to listened and after that giving comments or advises.
• India
28 Dec 08
well i alwasy try to listen to them and if they are full of BS then I start talkin over them and ignoring them i mean sometimes we have to have limits happy lotting and have a nice day!
@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
28 Dec 08
Hi celtic! I try to listen as best as I can! I know that in some cases I do get kind of excited when I have something to say and I may start to interrupt someone. But, I'm not trying to be rude. I just know that when I have something to say that if I don't say it right away then I will forget it! I don't mean to be that way. I am very forgetful and I do listen, I just am also a bit impatient. It doesn't mean that I don't care what someone has to say. I am always there for my friends and they know that and if they need me to hear them out I will.
@UK_Shree (3604)
27 Dec 08
I definitely always try my best to listen, but you are right, sometimes it is hard because we are preparing our response. I don't it is something that we do on purpose, it is natural to have our own thoughts, and quite healthy too! I guess some people are just better than others as controlling the urge to express our own response. Listening is definitely a skill, if not an art
@winterose (39931)
• Canada
27 Dec 08
yes listening definitely is an art, If I am working as a counsellor I listen because that is what my profession is all about I rarely talk, but in real life with friends I have a habit of jumping in and I constantly have to work on that.