Have you ever experienced severe homesickness?

@spalladino (17927)
United States
December 27, 2008 10:11pm CST
My youngest daughter, who recently turned 18, flew up north to visit her father for 7 days yesterday and her phone calls started last night. She wanted to come home early...7 days was too long...she missed her boyfriend...she wasn't going to have any fun. She wanted me to change her return flight without telling her father who paid for her airfare. She has grandparents up there who she hasn't seen in about three years, an older sister and an older brother, my husband's daughter and her family who she's close to, and friends she hasn't seen in years. I went around and around with her last night, told her that being homesick is normal and that it will subside but then she started in on me again today. I checked Southwest Airlines and all of the specials were gone for the 29th, 30th & 31st. The regular fare would cost around $283, which she said that her boyfriend was willing to pay but I asked her if that was fair to him...or to her father or the other family members who have been looking forward to seeing her. Finally, I told her that she was going to have to talk to her father about it and they could figure it out with her boyfriend. She told me that she would call me later and, when she did, she was fine. She has made plans with her sister, was on her way to see one set of grandparents and was in a much better mood. This wasn't the first time she's visited up there without me but it definitely was the first time she freaked out. Has anyone else ever experienced such strong homesickness before?
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18 responses
• China
28 Dec 08
I do have experienced severe homesickness when I entered university seven years ago. I was no more than 18 years old. Though that was not the first time that I had ever left home, I was tortured by severe homesickness for a long time because I was too far away from my family. I kept calling my parents everyday, which lasted for about a whole month. Now, after several years, I finally get used to living alone at a distant place. Yet, I still homesick off and on. The new year is coming, and I'll be with my family within a month. lol:) This sounds great.
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@msivey77 (67)
• United States
28 Dec 08
well i was home sick during hurricane katrina here in louisiana.i lost my home and everything i had.i was trasfered from louisiana to dayton ohio and it was a big move for me with the snow and all there it was different.i was very home sick because it wasnt a choice for me.i had to leave.so yes i have had it strongly before.
@spalladino (17927)
• United States
29 Dec 08
I'm sorry that you had to go through an ordeal like that...I'll bet it was very hard on you. My daughter is doing much better now so that's good news. She's been shopping with her sister today and is having some fun.
@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
28 Dec 08
My fiance and I took our first vacation together in April. We were both ready to go home after being their for only a short period of time. To be honest that is what we did, and after the fact we both realized the best vacation is where we already live, it's serene here, and peaceful. While we do enjoy get aways, we realize we could just rent a hotel here just the same.
@spalladino (17927)
• United States
29 Dec 08
I think part of my daughter's problem was culture shock. We've lived down here in Florida, where it's laid back and peaceful for almost five years so she was only 13 when we left Maryland. When my husband and I went there in September we didn't like it much anymore and don't know how we used to live like that.
@williamjisir (22909)
• China
1 Jan 09
I am so homesick - it is very natural for one to be homesick when one is so far away from his hometown and his family.
Hello spalladino. Yes, I have such a severe homesickness the first time I left for work in a place far away from my hometown. I was not used to a new environment and it was a long time later before I got used to it and now it is ok for me. I know how it feels when one gets homesick based on my own experience. Happy New Year to you, friend.
@thaMARKER (3094)
• Philippines
1 Jan 09
I don’t know if that was severe though but I felt home sickness before. I cried and I asked a little time off from my job to just let it out. Thankfully my supervisor understands since I’m still new. It’s my first job and take note, I’m working away from my family that I can’t just go home easily. It’ll only take few hours though but it’ll surely cost me thousands. Well, I have to work and this is what I have for now and so I have to take it as far as I can. So far, I’m getting used to it. I hope it’ll be okay longer than I think I could be..
@camomom (7537)
• United States
29 Dec 08
No. I have not but I think it's probably more about her boyfriend then being homesick. I know when I was her age, all I thought about was being with my boyfriend and hey, 7 days away from yur boyfriend at 18 is like a lifetime. I'm glad she's doing better. I hope she sticks it out and has fun.
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
29 Dec 08
Hi spalladino, It sounds to me that she was missing her boyfriend. We forget sometimes how much we missed our boyfriend when we were young. I've only known my present husband since April 2003 so I remember how much I missed him when we were apart. When we met, we felt like teenagers again. So, I know how she may be feeling. Once you put the problem in her lap, it's funny how quickly things changed. 18 is still 18. Young and in love. leenie
@sudalunts (5527)
• United States
29 Dec 08
I felt like once. My girlfriend and her son and me and my son had planned a vacation to Florida to see a mutual friend. I was excited about the trip since I had never been to florida. My husband and I were going througb some problems at the time. I was to stay seven days. Well, was I surprised when I got to where my friend lived. I perceived all of florida as a beautiful state. My friend lived in I guess what are projects. She did not have a car, telephone, or TV or air conditioning. I did not know all of this before I left home. It was really hot that summer. Every morning, I would start off walking around six in the morning before the sun came up for about two miles to use the phone at the gas station to call home. My son was having a great time, he was three at the time. I counted the days until I could get on the plane and head home. It was a horrible time for me, plus I did not like any of the food she cooked. The day we went to Disney, we had to take a bus, which took about three hours and when we got to the park, it started raining.
@jenrl17 (420)
• United States
28 Dec 08
Oh yes, definitely. Im going through it right now in fact. Been going through it since August and its been extremely difficult for me. Me and my boyfriend ran into some hard times, unfortunately ended up having to move out of our apartment and were on the street. Couldnt stay with family cause they werent around and I didnt have many friends, nor did he. We stayed in his car for a short time but I couldnt take it cause it was very warm and at night we were getting eaten alive by mosquitos. We had a cat that I lost (passed away from an accident) cause of our move on top of it, so I was heartbroken. Still am. I ended up coming way up north to a friends house and have been in this hell ever since. Hes been back and forth between some friends and homeless shelters to survive. Where I stay, its a house of 3 brothers who Ive known for years. Well, theres one person I dont get along with at all and thats 1 reason its been very difficult. Hes managed to make my stay here very hard, nearly impossible and Ive gotten into about 3 shouting matches since being here. My stay was only supposed to be for 2 weeks. So much for that. Since being here, Ive dealt with the water being shut off and the cable/internet/phone being shut off twice (hes very irresponsible) and the only one who really pays the bills. The other 2 brothers are disabled. Well when the cable was shut off, it was connected with the phone which meant I had no means of communication with my b/f which was incredibly difficult for me. Since this is a house of 3 single brothers, they are slobs and the place smells, so you can imagine the horror lol. On top of this, just recently, theyve obtained unwanted guests (mice), so Im more than ready to go home, BEEN ready actually. Hopefully my time will come soon, so yes, I have had SEVERE homesickness for quite some time now! Im glad to hear your daughter was able to tough it out. I know how challenging that can be and hopefully the rest of her stay is a great one afterall.
• Philippines
28 Dec 08
I did. I am the kind of person who can be away from home and from my family for longer time. But, there was this one time in my life when I leave home to continue my studies in college. And When I leave home I know it was for good since I live in the province and the people who would send me to school live 24 hours bus drive away. So this time I felt very lonely and sad. something with in had wished that I have to go to school and school would end up in highschool. I left home heavy hearted and when I arrived the place where I stayed... my heart longs for home and all through out that whole year I was in a total homesickness. I dont like the feeling...but, still I continue to get up every morning did some house hold chores and finally get over the homesickness. I remember that I stayed in the bathroom for hours because I dont want people to see me crying. I dont want them to know that I am homesick.
• United States
28 Dec 08
I am from NY and moved down to Southern Mississippi a few weeks before Hurricane Katrina. For the first year being down here I got extremely homesic to the point where I thought I would have to quit out of school and run home to mommy and daddy, but now it is going on 4 years down here, and I couldn't be happier. It is really really tough though to be away from your family. My sister recently spent the fall semester of this year in Ireland, and she would call daily crying about wanting to come home. Finally come earliar this month she decided that she would pay the extra money to come home early because she just couldn't take being away from home. I guess that makes this whole "severe homesickness" epidemic natural.
• India
28 Dec 08
yeah i did when my parents went for vacations for abot 15 days i call them every now n then i missed them that time a lot....
@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
28 Dec 08
Only when I was really young. I had went down South to see my dad's parents and was going to stay for a week without my parents. My stay had to turn into 10 days and it was awful I was about 8 and I couldn't wait to get home. It was my "grandparents" only attempt to ever get to know me and it didn't work out so well. When I was 15 my mom and her husband moved to Lake Tahoe and the rest of my family stayed in Ohio so about 4 times a year I flew to Ohio to has extended visits and once I flew and never went back to Tahoe
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
28 Dec 08
when i went to egypt and i stayed there 30 day that seems like 6 months and my apartment was broken into and they stole all my money and my passport.i got my purse back all my jewlery was taken also,when they return my purse my passport was still in the purse.however i was in the cab one night and i lost ny passport again and i was searching for it because i was due to fly in two days.i had friends there they looked in my wallet and called my friend and they called me and the woman met me and returned my passport the day before i was due to fly.i was so homesick i called my cousin when i got to chicago and ask her to have my car at the airport at 7:30 she was on time i could have kissed the ground thats 22 hours going and coming
@jziakhan (702)
• Pakistan
28 Dec 08
No, I don't think I have ever been homesick, you see I always travel with my family and they keep me from getting homesick. All you need to do if you don't want to get homesick is take somone along with you who you are in good realation with, otherwise there's a really good chance you'll want to come back home.
@arthi_88 (1518)
• India
28 Dec 08
I was admitted to a boarding when I was three years old so I know the Homesickness closely than many over here...Its sometimes really odd and can't be explained to a person who hasn't experienced...I was there for fifteen years so later it became a home to me...I used to look forward to the vacations and that was the only time I could meet my brother who funnily was studying in the brother school of the missionary boarding school i was studying in and yet we weren't to meet except for special occasions..Our parents would come after every two months, collect us and go for outing and when they would return I would be crying all over my younger brother...I miss those days but I am happy I am back home with my parents now... Have a nice day!
@leeapollo (611)
• China
28 Dec 08
no, I haven't experienced severe homesickness. I have not have a family , so I don't need to worry much things. Now, I study far from home, but I have many friends,I didn't feel lonely. some time I would miss my home , buy not that severe.lol happy mylotting.
• India
28 Dec 08
The answer would be that I haven't ever experienced home sickness.The reason is that I have never left my home and city of residence to go to some other place for work.Hence I have never been able to experience how it is to be away from home.The times when I have been away from home are the ones when I went by myself on some retreat or holidays to savour other places of interest.But these were welcome reliefs for me rather than causes of home sickness.