are you gonna reconcile with a friend because it's christmas?
Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
December 29, 2008 2:58am CST
hi there! here's the catch, me and this former friend have been estranged for what, like almost ten years now for reason I would no longer like to elaborate. and just because it's Christmas, everybody else I know, former friends from school including her obviously(my former best friend)want us to make friends again just as they say because "it's Christmas." Well, I'm sorry to disappoint everyone but I don't like to make Christmas the reason why I should make friends with her again. Why? Can she not find other reason other than Christmas? If I'm gonna reconcile with her, it's not because it's Christmas but because all the hurt I felt has gone away and my heart is ready to accept her back into my life.
29 Dec 08
Hello aniakim, Perhaps your other friends were just trying to take the advantage of Christmas as this is the time of the year that they are used to give love, forgive and many other good things to people. Maybe they were thinking that you will consider specially at this season. You should have done the reconciling earlier than this 10 long years the very first moment you felt that the hurt was not there anymore. It's a wonderful feeling when you know that you can forgive someone no matter how strong the hurt was.Heavyness in your heart will be release. Good for your heart too. Happy new year
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
29 Dec 08
i would've forgiven her until she said a few not so good words about me to my friends a couple of months ago. the wound is still fresh and not even Christmas can make me consider making friends with her again but I'm not closing my doors, maybe not now. the 10 year gap wasn't my fault, she's the one who made the choice not to save the friendship and who would've thought 10 years after she wants to be friends again. i was happy the past 10 years of my life without her and would love it to remain as it is. i could actually forgive her for all the things she has done but i can never see myself being friends with her again.
29 Dec 08
I could understand your feelings because I have been in that situation too. Let her utter words and say those things if she wants to, or maybe sometimes other friends are making the situation worse by transfering and adding a bit of what she says when she doesn't really mean it that way... If you were saying she was your bestfriend, I think she knows that she have done wrong and deep within her she was sorry too. It is only sometimes pride that makes her say something bad.But the realization of having done wrong is within. It doesn't mean that when you forgive her you will go back and share again the happy moments, the thrust that you used to share... Forgive her with all your heart and you will feel how relieve you will be my friend.