If you failed in your love life, will you go for arrange marriage?

India
December 29, 2008 9:33am CST
It happened with me and I ask the same question to everyone.
6 responses
• United States
29 Dec 08
In my opinion, arranged marriages will NEVER work. You and only you know what you look for in another person, you and only you can find the right person to spend your life with. If you go for an arranged marriage you are giving up your rights as a human being and are being treated as a piece of property thats being traded off. If you fail in your love life, maybe you just need to take a step back and maybe take another approach. In my experiences, if your actively looking for the "right" person, you will never find them. If you look too hard you are using your head to find someone, and not your heart. Love is not something you find by thinking, you find it by feeling. If you just can't seem to find the right person, just take a break from even looking and focus on taking care of yourself, and in good time you will find someone without even looking. I was married for 8 years and then my wife passed away. At first I planned on never being in another relationship, but that is just because of the pain I was feeling. After a while I got lonely and kind of started looking for a woman, after several dating sites and such, I realised it just wasn't going to happen. So I pretty much just gave up on that endeavor. Shortly after I met a woman online, friendship was my only intention with her, as was hers towards me. After only a few days talking online we met in person, and only a week after we met in person we started to fall in love. A little over a year later now and we are happily married with a baby on the way. In a nutshell, don't find love (or let anyone else find it for you), let love find you.
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• Nigeria
29 Dec 08
dude, I will never be part of arranged marriage. I would rather stay single.
@ichandel (47)
29 Dec 08
it depends does she know of ur past does she understand u ..if she had a similar past could u look above and beyond that...its not so much love or arranged its more of both of u understanding eachother
@howard96h (11659)
• New York, New York
29 Dec 08
I am curious if you failed in your love life was that person someone you chose or was that person arranged? I can't see being with someone who another person picks for you, you should be with someone who you choose and want to marry.
@AnakSuNamun (2084)
• United States
29 Dec 08
I would not get married again,what's the point? If you're disappointed in love and are looking for someone to spend your days with just out of habit,you can at least choose the person yourself! Who knows,maybe you won't love him/her but you'd be happy reading books,playing video games and doing whatever together. That way you'll know what you have in common instead of people telling you what they think is right for you.
29 Dec 08
no..... why??? because it will just complicate everything.