Do you believe there is pure friendship between man and woman?

China
December 30, 2008 8:16pm CST
Before this days I believe it actually.But lately I found myself fall in love with my best friend.His superior gregarious talent attract me deeply.I feel dispressive buecuse I konw he just treat me as a friend. I can't help blaming myself destroy this pure friendship between us.
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16 responses
• India
4 Jan 09
see before proposing him ask several things ie i wnt to talk to u for several minutes plz if he says yes then tell him to concentrate then tell him i would like to ask u a Que plz if the ANS is no plz dont our friendship then propose him I am also a boy and i dont think so if u are going to propose any boy he is going to say no to u also tell him that u realy love him very much BEST OF LUCK
• China
5 Jan 09
Yes, I am sure he would't say no to me either even though he don't have the same feeling with me.That's every gentlmen would do not to hurt a gilr.Do you think so?But that's not what I wanted .Anyway,Thanks for your advice.
• China
5 Jan 09
Well I think he would't say no to me either ever though he hasn't the same feeling as me .In my opinion ,That's every gentelmen would do in order to not hurt a gilr .Do you think so?But That's not what I wanted.Anyway,Thanks for your advice.
• India
31 Dec 08
yeah it can b n it happens normally when they have been growin up together n stuff happy lotting and have a blessed new year
• China
1 Jan 09
Ok.I see what you're saying. You're nice.And Happy new year~
• India
1 Jan 09
:D have fun
• India
31 Dec 08
yes it is possible. i do not understand why people do not tink it is possible. i have a very close guy friend and we are not at all attracted to each other. Pure friendship is possible. But for some people it is not, i guess.
• China
1 Jan 09
You're grate.You bring hope to all that are disapointed in this point.
• India
1 Jan 09
are you sure nisha that the guy is 100 percent not interested in u. dont u atleast find one single aspect him that u longs for in a soul mate? if u r not and the guy too not feeling that way, then cheers...u r one of those very little lucky people on earth.........
@lala766 (240)
• United States
3 Jan 09
Yes it is possible. The most important thing is not to cross the line and make it something more than friendship. If this happens you open yourself up to a whole lot of drama usually.
• China
4 Jan 09
Yes I agree with u.
@rosdimy (3936)
• Malaysia
3 Jan 09
I have listened to the elders, watched my friends and had some experience to come to the conclusion pure friendship between a man and a woman can exist. Whatever is pure cannot last forever. What can exist is a strong relationship. In a friendship between a man and a woman, sooner or later there will be changes in at least one of them. In most cases they do not even realise that changes are taking place. Usually it is the outsiders who start noticing the changes. In many cases both are affected but deny that their feelings are developing into something else more serious. How do you know he was just treating you as a friend? The thinking may be mutual. This is one of the reasons why one side goes looking for a different partner. Be certain first before blaming yurself. all the best, rosdimy
• China
4 Jan 09
Thanks for real life experience. throught the others' answers ,I think more about this case. And I feel more comfortable now.So thanks....sss
• China
2 Jan 09
Till now, I still believe that there is pure friendship between man and woman. Sometimes, friendship turns into love in the end, but not always. Maybe it is the manner we deal with it that matters instead of the issues itself. But I still admit that friendship may easy turn to love.
• China
4 Jan 09
Ok,thanks .
@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
1 Jan 09
Hi there, and welcome to Mylot! I would have to say that yes pure friendship is possible between a man a woman because, love/friendship, is different from physical attraction and a physical relationship. As I was reading the other responses, it struck me, that no one else has brought up the concept that there are many different types of love. There is a love that I have for my mother and father, or my immediate family; there is a love that I have for very close friends and there is a love that I have for an intimate partner. As well as many other different types of empathy and caring, which are all along the spectrum of love. The love of I have for my mother, is very different than "love" or concern I may have for a sick neighbor. Also, romantic love, for a partner, is a very different kind of love, then that of a friendship. The other thing that struck me, well reading this discussion, was that no one has commented on the difference between thinking and acting. Many many times we think things, or they just seem to pop in our head out of thin air. While we may not be able to control those thoughts, we're certainly capable of controlling our actions. Just because we have a thought, it does not mean we have to act on it! It's just my opinion that it's not our thoughts or our actions, that reveal a person's character. It is a combination of both. And the bottom line is this, I always have control over my own actions. That's just my 2ยข worth. Happy Mylotting!
• China
4 Jan 09
Thank you wheel416. How wonderful describe is !I learn more form you .Thanks.
@23uday (2998)
• India
1 Jan 09
hi friends yes i believe there is pure friendship between man and woman.sometimes one may develop some kind of the different feeling,but that is temporal .but friendship is the relationship which is the greatest relation,and which is selfless.if we think we can,then we can. bye!!!!!!!!!!!!
• China
4 Jan 09
Haha I agree with you.
@phalz81 (106)
• Singapore
1 Jan 09
yes there is ^O^. Because I have a buddy that really like a brother to me. My personality of friendship are too strong. And it will not change me even though he is very handsome and caring and of course you will be bless if you have a such kind of friend. We were a classmate so we were helping each other with our study and subject then we did not really understand. This makes us getting closer and we vowed ourselves to be friends forever. Actually believe me, do not date your best friend. This happened to my both friends. They secretly dating behind us and they broke up and now I doubt they talked to each other since both of them already married to others. My friend told me she regretted it and lost a friend that can share with her. But it's too late. So just keep clear and choose what kind of relationship you want. Friend or Love???
• China
1 Jan 09
Orz...So sorry to that friends that you said. I hate choosing.But you're right.Thanks for sharing.
@maximax8 (28490)
• United Kingdom
1 Jan 09
I believe that there can be pure friendship between a man and a woman. When I was at college I had some male friends. I kept one of these for years after leaving. He split up with his long term girlfriend I suggested he went off traveling. He did and he had a fantastic time. One time we drove over to look at where our college used to be. As I got older each man got married or was in a live in sort of relationship. A few years ago I made friends with an older man and we got on so very well. I moved areas but we still keep in contact. To have a friendship feelings need to stay platonic. Love can ruin a friendship between two friends. There is a difference between a friend and an ex boy or girl friend. Pure friendship is excellent.
• China
1 Jan 09
Thank for your sharing.Thanks ssssss!
@bendhu (3)
• India
1 Jan 09
My own experience proves that a woman and a man can never have pure friendship. after knowing the person for long, it would be very difficult to continue with just friendship. attraction would occur. only fear of destroyin the friendship prevents most from expressing it............
• China
1 Jan 09
It seems I'm one of the most you said . Anyway,God bless me stintless self contron !
• Singapore
1 Jan 09
Yes, there are so many woman in this world. Surely we can have friendship with them. We can discuss so many issues but we are just friends.
• China
1 Jan 09
A good idea. So bright you are!
• United States
1 Jan 09
well i mean i guess in some cases but most of the time it seems like there is always a physical attraction between every male and female frienship. and its kind of hard to get past the fact that you have feeling for maybe one of your best friends
• China
1 Jan 09
Lol yes I truly have feeling for him.
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
31 Dec 08
hi there. yes, i believe there can be pure friendship between a man and a woman mainly because i have a lot of male friends. i can see that you are in a difficult situation right now. but i hope you can find a way to prevent yourself from feeling depressed. find joy to the fact that you are friends. take care!
• China
31 Dec 08
Thank you for your kind.And I believe you are a living girls .Thanks for your advince.
@uditpanda (1023)
• India
31 Dec 08
where is the harm in it...if u find him attractive & know him that well...i think u have every right to fall for him. But i also feel a man & a woman can be good friends keeping aside the infatuation part. i am a man & my best friend is a woman. we have been friends since our college days. If u feel for ur friend,i think u should go for a relationship. because the dictum says to be a good lover ,u should first be a good friend.thank u.
• China
31 Dec 08
I see,I understand what you are saying.I like the saying If you wanna be my lover you must be my friend.you're right ,thank you.
• Indonesia
31 Dec 08
yes i believe with that, i have a women friend from elementary school till now, and we now like a family, she always help me when i need her help and so do i help her. so friendship is important than a relationship between man and women.
• China
31 Dec 08
Yes I agree with you .Till now in my opinion,friendship is more important than a relationship between man and womon. Thank you, lets see what the others will say.